You can leave the relationship at anytime for any reason you want. If you are uncomfortable with her behavior and actions, just leave and find someone who fits you better. You don’t need these insecurities and bullshit in your life.
It hurts because you are very young and raw, you haven't grown a shell of cynicism yet.
You can see this as a learning experience, a girl might seem wonderful but you still have to look out for the red flags rather than just leaning right into the romance.
She has already learned from this experience, if you take her back you'll just undo all the good you are doing her by refusing contact. If you take her back she'll learn that she can get away with stuff so long as she calls herself a cunt when she apologises.
So she has the potential to be a wonderful GF, just not yours. Or maybe in 20 years time when you've both divorced your first spouses, you might hook up again after a school reunion or something.
I'd just like to point out that since you didn't even know her for all that long, you weren't truly in love with her, more in love with an ideal GF who looks something like her.
To be fair, I partly agree that your SIL should have had this conversation before. It's bizarre to come out with your partner in hand, knowing that your parents are probably bigots.
SIL should have talked to them. They would have had their meltdown. And then your SIL should go no contact and live her life without this bigotry.
I get what your Husband means. But if there's deeper homophobia, then that's quite irreconcilable.
You can leave the relationship at anytime for any reason you want. If you are uncomfortable with her behavior and actions, just leave and find someone who fits you better. You don’t need these insecurities and bullshit in your life.
He could hire people for sex, that might be the better option so feelings don't get in the way.
You should reread your comment, that's not what you said.
It hurts because you are very young and raw, you haven't grown a shell of cynicism yet.
You can see this as a learning experience, a girl might seem wonderful but you still have to look out for the red flags rather than just leaning right into the romance.
She has already learned from this experience, if you take her back you'll just undo all the good you are doing her by refusing contact. If you take her back she'll learn that she can get away with stuff so long as she calls herself a cunt when she apologises.
So she has the potential to be a wonderful GF, just not yours. Or maybe in 20 years time when you've both divorced your first spouses, you might hook up again after a school reunion or something.
I'd just like to point out that since you didn't even know her for all that long, you weren't truly in love with her, more in love with an ideal GF who looks something like her.
Who are these high school people and why are they communicating with people you meet?
To be fair, I partly agree that your SIL should have had this conversation before. It's bizarre to come out with your partner in hand, knowing that your parents are probably bigots.
SIL should have talked to them. They would have had their meltdown. And then your SIL should go no contact and live her life without this bigotry.
I get what your Husband means. But if there's deeper homophobia, then that's quite irreconcilable.