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It tends to be common for men to assume that a bi woman woild be down with a threesome especially after they made mention of it before things get serious. It sounds like he is trying to wear you down in a non-aggressive way to accept the possibility of a threesome again. It's a tough situation. Him being pouty and crappy about it during your birthday, which is supposed to be about you and what makes happy, seems like it was the last straw for you. I don't blame you. He's violating a boundary that you set once you started dating eachother.
I was in a similar situation when I was 21 and married to my ex-husband (29). Since I'm bi he thought that I would be down for a threesome and I let him know earlier on in the relationahip that I don't like to share. He would push it all the time during our marriage and make comments much like your boyfriend did. I didn't understand about boundaries or healthy relationships back then so I always let it go while secretly feeling hurt.
My advice to you is to sit down and have a talk with him about this boundary and your insecurity regarding it. Be clear and use “I statements.” Example: “I feel like you're not attracted to me anymore especially when you sexualize other women in front of me. I feel like I am not enough to satisfy you.” See how that goes and if he will be considerate of your boundary and feelings from then on. If he isn't then it will not change with marriage.
Good luck. Hope things work out for you.
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You'd probably be surprised that alot of people around the world aren't comfortable with the idea of the person they are with having history and more so sexual history with people they know.
On the “sex” board of a place like Reddit it may not seem like a big deal but generally people aren't a fan of it.
It wasn’t constantly or once a day every day. It was more like once every two weeks more or less when I happened to remember it, sort of checking in and asking if he got around to it yet. Does that still count as super concerned though? Trying to work on it.
It's not like we get into relationships knowing this shit, it usually shows itself over time. I wish it were easy, and, having the advice of strangers is nice considering many people (including me) have no one else to vent/talk to about these things.
The person who drunk slept with another guy isn’t the victim
This is going to sound crazy, but what she thinks of you now, free you’ve both decided not to have a relationship, is none of your business.
And when she’s fuckin someone else, and brags about how she conned some guy into a year gym membership, she won’t exactly be seeing you in a better light. At least leave with some dignity.
Dude, the entitlement on this b*tch. Cancel the membership, she can't run into you or set conditions on your visitation to the gym if she can't use it!
What part of 'not willing to risk it' do you not understand?
It's not a negotiation. OP is asking how best to phrase his firm no.
If I were you, I would end it.
Yes, she didn’t technically cheat on you, but in my opinion, when talking about committed relationships, who cares about technicalities? You two just have very different outlooks on relationships.
If I were in your position, I would think that she’s just sleeping around, playing the field (which is her right), until she decides, “hey, this guy will do” and decides to commit to you. If she had strong feelings for you, she wouldn’t be sleeping with other guys, like you weren’t sleeping with other girls because you had feelings for her.
You made the right decision to not pressuring her into exclusivity when she was very noncommittal. You want her to want to be in a relationship with you, not just give in to your desire to be in a relationship with her.
Combine all this with the fact that she lied to your face and this other guy is still going to be hanging around her and she refuses to set any kind of boundaries would be the nail in the coffin for me. She can say she understands your feelings, but honestly, talk is cheap.
Leave her and take this as a learning experience to let girls know early on how you operate. If they’re not willing to show their commitment leading up to a potential relationship, then a relationship with them isn’t worth it.
It kinda isn't a big deal though. Keep in mind that it is her body and it was her miscarriage. Literally none of that is about you. The fact that you seem to think it is speaks volumes as to why you were not her confidant. Not talking about it may well be her coping mechanism for dealing with it. You might want to ask her, and be willing to accept an honest answer, as to why she didn't prefer to mention it to you.
You DO realise gonorrhoea can lay dormant for years???
You two aren’t compatible. You disagree on big things. If you don’t want to end up in this situation again, just make sure you share the same goals/values with someone before “committing” to them. And don’t move in with them unless you’re sure they want the same things as you. I’ve also had failed long-term relationships and my rule from now on is that I won’t move in with a partner unless I know for sure that they want marriage and kids.
Everybody will have had sex with another partner.
And from here on out, all your future partners will face the same thing with you.
So what?
Do nothing. How is this your concern?
you should go on a date and get to know him. tell him you would like to meet but are not looking for a relationship right now.
if however you like him you can arrange a second date.
The situation is not going to get any better than it already is cut your losses and move on