Yea your husband is a pig. If it were my dad doing that I'd call him out on it too and if I heard he yelled at my mom and got in my mom's face over it later I wouldn't let that fly either. He's fucking disgusting and I hope he sees all the people in this thread saying so.
This is just because I work with math and finance and while you’re system is a good place to start it should consider your expendable money after income and normal living expenses, for example if all have 20K of expenses somebody who makes 30k has $10k to use and somebody who makes 40k has 20 to use so with this example it should be split 2/3 1/3 were your system would be 25/75
I mean, he can’t even stop himself from jerking off in the bathroom at work. There’s no situation in which that’s ok. It’s not even about the porn usage.
It's literally happens everytime I've given head. I don't get it. But yes. I do feel like I should probably bring that up again now.
And yes, the lack of backbone is a huge, no for me. Specially since he’s retracting everything he ‘demanded’ now and saying his friends convinced him to say it. .. he is 32. So it either means he had no backbone, or he’s been lying to me about being satisfied, and both really p me off equally.
I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted. Anyone going through a breakup would feel exactly what you’re feeling. It’s weird to spend so much time with someone getting close to them and getting to know them and then having the emotional whiplash of them just turning it off and not caring about you whatsoever anymore. It really makes you wonder if the time you had together even meant anything to them. But you can take solace in the fact that whatever he’s going through that’s causing him to act so callously is his own journey, and I would feel fortunate to not have to be apart of it anymore. That old dumb Dr. Seuss quote had a lot of truth to it: “The people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.” Focus on the people who do care about you in life or go out and find people who aren’t going to drop you out of nowhere like this. And don’t feel bad about feeling bad, your emotions are totally valid in this.
Yeah… erasing the pics doesn't make those relationships not exist. They're just pictures from her life dude, and you're obviously not the only guy who has been in her life.
You mean zoom in on the Sea of tranquility on the moon? my phone does that. And iphones are trying really hot to catch up but they do a pretty good job at taking clear videos. Op said the girl in the video talked, did it even sound like the gf? Sounds to me like projecting, these girls are trying to get ahead of the story with their own “version”
He either wanted to end things and used this as an excuse, or he didn’t find anything on your phone, snd thought he could force you to ‘confess’ to something because you thought he had discovered what you were doing.
His actions after the fact don't paint him in good light. And yes he was raped so he needs to break up with the 21 year old. His ex is allowed her feelings and if she has chosen to move on, that's ok too.
Red flag central. And your gut knows it too, that’s why your feelings are dissipating. I’d be sus of the bff too, and I wouldn’t be too surprised if I found out they were having an affair, even if only emotional, considering the lying and deleted texts. If it was innocent, why lie? You deserve better.
Just go buy one from the dollar store. They work just as well as others. Take the test. If it's positive, decide if you want an abortion or not. If not, you're gonna have to deal with this selfish twit for the rest of your life, because parenthood doesn't stop after eighteen years.
You don't change the kids name when their dad is in their life. That only makes sense when the dad was never in their life and your new husband wants to adopt them.
I understand that she doesn't want a different name than her kid but this isn't the way.
You didn’t take the advice the first time so you probably won’t this time. Get out. There is a woman out there that will treat you with the love and dignity you deserve. Your current gf does not have the ability.
This could be a red flag of what your future will look like OR he's having some mental health issues right now because of the stress of school. I would ask him if he thinks maybe there's some depression going on that's causing him to be too frustrated to help out like he used to. It will put him on the spot but in a caring way. If he denies mental stuff then I would go with what your parents said. But not for long. If he doesn't snap out of his crap then it's time to go honey.
Thank you – it's comforting to know that we're not alone in feeling like this. It sometimes feels hot to justify why you're leaving someone who's so good to you but ultimately I do think you should always trust your gut. Hope everything falls into place for you!
Concerning. Throw the whole BF away.
Yea your husband is a pig. If it were my dad doing that I'd call him out on it too and if I heard he yelled at my mom and got in my mom's face over it later I wouldn't let that fly either. He's fucking disgusting and I hope he sees all the people in this thread saying so.
What in the flowers in the attic is this story? Don’t you think they will find out eventually?
Someone needs to talk to Steve about what really happened. I know what happened. Cheaters act how she acted. Dig deeper.
You make no mention of other ways you've tried to be intimate that isn't sex. Have you really actually tried? Is sex really that important to you?
This is just because I work with math and finance and while you’re system is a good place to start it should consider your expendable money after income and normal living expenses, for example if all have 20K of expenses somebody who makes 30k has $10k to use and somebody who makes 40k has 20 to use so with this example it should be split 2/3 1/3 were your system would be 25/75
It still is their story.
You weren't there.
It's not yours to tell. Really it isn't.
Ask your mother, as you still seem to believe she may have cheated on him.
I mean, he can’t even stop himself from jerking off in the bathroom at work. There’s no situation in which that’s ok. It’s not even about the porn usage.
It's literally happens everytime I've given head. I don't get it. But yes. I do feel like I should probably bring that up again now.
And yes, the lack of backbone is a huge, no for me. Specially since he’s retracting everything he ‘demanded’ now and saying his friends convinced him to say it. .. he is 32. So it either means he had no backbone, or he’s been lying to me about being satisfied, and both really p me off equally.
I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted. Anyone going through a breakup would feel exactly what you’re feeling. It’s weird to spend so much time with someone getting close to them and getting to know them and then having the emotional whiplash of them just turning it off and not caring about you whatsoever anymore. It really makes you wonder if the time you had together even meant anything to them. But you can take solace in the fact that whatever he’s going through that’s causing him to act so callously is his own journey, and I would feel fortunate to not have to be apart of it anymore. That old dumb Dr. Seuss quote had a lot of truth to it: “The people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.” Focus on the people who do care about you in life or go out and find people who aren’t going to drop you out of nowhere like this. And don’t feel bad about feeling bad, your emotions are totally valid in this.
as an ultimatum and said that if I don't change she'll feel too hurt (to the point of self harming) and will end this relationship.
This is the end of the relationship. If this tactic works, she will use it again.
You can either leave, or you can spend the rest of your life caving in to threats.
Am I just being insecure?
Yeah… erasing the pics doesn't make those relationships not exist. They're just pictures from her life dude, and you're obviously not the only guy who has been in her life.
Leave. Tell hime to fuck off and get somewhere safe, also talk to law enforcement to keep aneye on things and warn your family
You mean zoom in on the Sea of tranquility on the moon? my phone does that. And iphones are trying really hot to catch up but they do a pretty good job at taking clear videos. Op said the girl in the video talked, did it even sound like the gf? Sounds to me like projecting, these girls are trying to get ahead of the story with their own “version”
He either wanted to end things and used this as an excuse, or he didn’t find anything on your phone, snd thought he could force you to ‘confess’ to something because you thought he had discovered what you were doing.
2 years? Time to realize you’re just a part time bf at best.
His actions after the fact don't paint him in good light. And yes he was raped so he needs to break up with the 21 year old. His ex is allowed her feelings and if she has chosen to move on, that's ok too.
Red flag central. And your gut knows it too, that’s why your feelings are dissipating. I’d be sus of the bff too, and I wouldn’t be too surprised if I found out they were having an affair, even if only emotional, considering the lying and deleted texts. If it was innocent, why lie? You deserve better.
Can you grant me temporary dad rights so I can yell at you?
Just go buy one from the dollar store. They work just as well as others. Take the test. If it's positive, decide if you want an abortion or not. If not, you're gonna have to deal with this selfish twit for the rest of your life, because parenthood doesn't stop after eighteen years.
Dude you're right. She's wrong here. ?
You don't change the kids name when their dad is in their life. That only makes sense when the dad was never in their life and your new husband wants to adopt them.
I understand that she doesn't want a different name than her kid but this isn't the way.
She just has to deal with it.
You didn’t take the advice the first time so you probably won’t this time. Get out. There is a woman out there that will treat you with the love and dignity you deserve. Your current gf does not have the ability.
This could be a red flag of what your future will look like OR he's having some mental health issues right now because of the stress of school. I would ask him if he thinks maybe there's some depression going on that's causing him to be too frustrated to help out like he used to. It will put him on the spot but in a caring way. If he denies mental stuff then I would go with what your parents said. But not for long. If he doesn't snap out of his crap then it's time to go honey.
Thank you – it's comforting to know that we're not alone in feeling like this. It sometimes feels hot to justify why you're leaving someone who's so good to you but ultimately I do think you should always trust your gut. Hope everything falls into place for you!
Maybe start looking for another job. Because if she’s the vindictive type (we already know she’s not the loyal type) she might get you in trouble.