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I’d say it’s time to date somebody who has the capacity to act like an adult.
Being drunk is not an excuse.
I second this. Absolutely the best way to see what the vibe is between them.
I believe she is in the wrong, especially in not being willing to hear your feelings. That being said, sexual frustration is a thing. I’m a female and when I’m sexually frustrated I feel irritable and a little crazy tbh. If my boyfriend is not in the mood I have a vibrator to quell the hornyness.
One time my now wife comes up to me asking me who “insert name” is. I'm like that's an odd one I haven't heard that name in like 10+ years. I tell her the truth “Oh that's a girl I used to know in High School, Hung out a little bit in my late teens/early twenties”.
She's like “Why was she here then?” I'm so f'ing confused at this point. She said “she was here she was logged in on yahoo on your computer.”
Mind you even when I was friends with this chick I never did anything with her or am I cool enough with that person to even every have them come over let alone see how I'm doing after ten years.
I tell her “look I don't have a clue what you're talking about where you got that name or what you think you saw but I haven't seen nor heard from this person in ages, have no contact with them, never did anything with them, would never have this person over, last I heard they're married and on-line in another state.”
I just walked away super confused. Best I can think of is maybe that name was a friend suggestion or something.
And what are you leaving out?
Because in your telling, it was:
Wife: I got an inheritance from my dad, what should I do with it?
Husband: We should separate it into three accounts for each of our three kids
Wife: I think I should separate it into two accounts for my two kids
Husband: Why not all three?
Wife: Oh, I didn't think about it.
…
There's some weird skip in language here … like, you just said to split into three and she responded with two?
Yes of course. I am very understanding of that. I also have a child from another relationship. But my point is that he invited her on a 2 week trip. Overriding our plans. Enticed her to come… just to screenshot it to me and cancel their plans . Omg this is kind of messed up eh
Talk in person. Don't give up yet.
Believe her, please. Cut your losses now. You will find love again. There is way more at play than just that statement and this relationship is about to be sabotaged by her and it will make you even more miserable.
Break up yourself. Believe her when she tells you that you are not right for each other. She tries to bring it across as if she is making a “sacrifice for the better” but in reality, she clearly told you what she thinks and is too much of a coward to do it herself.
I feel like the deed is a key element in all of this by reading the comments. I also know redditers give bad advice so make sure your name is -NOT- on the deed and do it.
That’s a bot account sharing a stolen comment.
Have you talked to him about it? Tell him I honestly doubt he would mind you hanging up. People are taking this way too seriously
I'd start following him if he leaves the house again. Or possibly even check his phone? Tbh I'm kinda crazy if I suspect something bc I've been cheated on a lot.
You married a bad man. Don't blame yourself, often these abusive men can be very charming at first.
It's important to remember he is a compulsive liar. He's no doubt lying about you to your church and community, but also to you about what they say about you.
My advice is to cut off all contact with him and begin divorce proceedings. Secondly, a therapist can help you get through this with your self esteem and dignity intact.
People who pay for consumption items like fancy cars, houses, vacations will never be wealthy because their spending outstrips their income.
This is pretty bullshit to be honest, it really depends on what you mean by “having money” I guess. It's not like wealthy people don't buy nice cars or dresses or go on expensive vacations. I do agree on the rest tho.
It’s not about that in this case. This is an issue that will literally end the relationship unless it is resolved, therefor either you talk about it and deal with it or break up.
When something is this important you cannot ignore or subvert the problem. Gaining this much bodyweight and ignoring your partners attempts at discussion on the topic is simply a clear cut reason for a break up.
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But OP said in comments her husband also prefers Christmas with her family and they both decided this would be best.
Condoms prevent STDs. Birth control does not. Morning after pill and spermicide ON THE CONDOM is a great option. Homeboy doesn’t like condoms? Oh fucking well.
Yikes, seriously, yikes. RUN. It sounds like He feels possessive over your sexual experiences and feels like you have given away something he feels entitled to… If you catch my drift. Men like that only get worse. He will never let it go and will use it to try and crush your self esteem and control you. Your not a person to him..your a possession. A toy, and he's mad that other boys played with “his toy” first.
You are being unreasonable. He wasn't committed to you then.
Why’d you guys become roommates?
You need your name on the title/deed, not the mortgage! The mortgage is the loan, the deed determines who owns the property.
It sounds as if you’ve put a lot of your own money into a property you don’t own and have zero claim to. You need to correct that – now.
My friend, this man is bad news. Actually putting your hand on his dck? 20 years older than you? C'mon, please smarteen up & stay away. He's sexual & firty but also dismissive & weird. That means he's trying to mindfck you. Walk away with your self-esteem intact.
I’d want to break up with you to- so weird
The only reason why you shouldn't have to choose between your current gf and your ex is because your ex should be completely out of the picture.
And you totally just choose your ex over your gf, btw. Your gf has all the rights to be upset.
Sorry, she cheated on you 🙁
One of the few consequences of inappropriate behavior is exposure. Don't let him get away with it.
Plus your wife is not his only affair. She needs to know 'who' he is.
Your question is common pn infidelity forums. There's never been a negative outcome.
Do not warn your wife. She'll warn him and he'll discredit you as jealous and abusive. His excuse (and probably your wife's) is they were only kidding about meeting.
You want different things, there’s nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship in which you foot 100% of the bills. She wants a partner to support her financially, you want a partner who contributes equally to the finances of the home. You are not compatible.
She’s being manipulative when she says you’re not supporting her dreams and guilt tripping you. Major red flag.
There is sexual assault references and people get put under the threat of sexual assault but it doesnt actualy happen
But i feel u watching rape on tv is lame
Thank you.
The best thing here is that he diesnt even seem to question for a second how his wife feels. Sure, she accepted this, but man. He doesnt mention how him being with another woman could make her feel while he is a surprised pikachu face about how he feels about HIS WIFE having another partner. Truly ironic
There's really not much advice I can give you. You already know your feelings are valid, but they're unfair. You even say your wife went through the same feelings. Do you think she's gotten over that? Perhaps open up a dialog and see what she's done to resolve those feelings so you can put them into action. If you really can't handle the mess you've caused, the only other option is to attempt to close it again. Maybe ruminate on how naked it must have been for your wife to think of you with someone else and let that thought guide your actions.
NTA at all not even a little tiny bit you're a great big brother dude so many people wouldn't be willing to do that, your gf is a huge ah she is an immature expletive you should definitely leave her like seriously she's messed up
When will people learn that words have consequences.
I kinda understand what he was trying to say. You're obviously extremely smart to have all of you achievements but street smarts is a whole different thing. For example I'm also what you would say book smart but I lack common sense and come across as ditzy sometimes and that's fine too. You are probably more academically smart and he's more life smart there's no competition
Why can't SHE also act like a grown up? It's ok to be hurting, but this doesn't give anyone the right to hurt other people.
Any parent who issues an ultimatum and threatens to disown their child, unless the child commited some heinous crime, is a selfish asshole.
The fact that she's a victim of cheating doesn't give her a free pass to act like a dick.
Just keep it in mind. Don't do to others what you wouldn't want done to you.
What a crock of shit. !! Like you even have a girlfriend. I just feel bad for the people responding who are indulging this fantasy of yours. Lmao
Damn… You’re saying the both goofed equally bad? Maybe he should even apologize to her for being hurt? I mean they both overreacted.
Or – get this, OR – she said something insanely hurtful and he has a naked time processing it and is still hurt. Those faults, or whatever, are not in the same universe.
I'm 46 yo and I would sleep in the same bed as my 43yo brother because it's all pure and just healthy siblings behaviour!???? I'm lucky to have this great relationship with my brother dammit! What the FUCK is wrong with your husband? This wouldn't sit well with me at all.
Which is why the comment OP replied to mentioned that OP contact the police or family to handle his wellness. His choice of whether to self harm/self terminate is not OP’s concern and she has no place in that conversation once she leaves. He needs to figure that out himself. Even if we had perfect foresight and could guarantee he would if she left, she still is under no obligation to stay. His mental health is his problem.
OP, I know this seems scary and overwhelming. You can make new friends, meet new people, and move forward with life. But you cant rewind the clock and get any of the time you have invested in this relationship back, so don’t add to that loss by staying with someone who by all accounts is emotionally abusing you and is manipulative. And the behaviour he displays to you is a pretty solid red flag that things will escalate as time goes on.
I recently read an article that said that for many men, it's not really about the right woman, but rather about the right time. That until a man is actually “ready” to settle down, he just won't. And when he is, it doesn't much matter who that ends up being with. Scary thought.
Ah so he is Def negging u. I bet he is very intelligent too?
This behavior needs to 100% be a deal breaker for you. Over the top. Out of line. The only way I would EVER stay in this marriage is if the husband admits and apologizes and specifically goes to therapy to address his abusive words, behaviors and manipulative thoughts to purposely have power over you.
He doesn't think u really f'd your brother. Get over that accusation and let him know you see right thru it. Od be out of the house and in a safe space AWAY from him when u do this. Go live w family.
He sounds like a power-mad jerk. Rules for thee and not for me, and all that. Just don’t respond. You were supposed to block him. Let him believe you did a better job than you did.
Disturbed that OP is falling for this. It's extra abusive and she needs to go to therapy WITHOUT HIM immediately.
Who said constant contact? I said I would like him to call me sometime during the day to check in for 5-10 min other than at night right before bed twice a week
probably just wanted to fuck you with minimal effort and money spent..not rocket science involved here.
Just to throw this into the fire – having sex won't give you some future insight or how to please a future partner. It'll make you more confident I suppose, which is more pleasing.
It's an intimate thing and different from partner to partner. Sort of learn as you go along what works, what doesn't. You can only find out what will please YOU.
you need to pick which is more important to you.
obviously long-term relationships don’t work out very often. Should probably make a pros and cons list of both.
A friend of mine who studies in healthcare told me that when they were taught about violence in relationships they were taught that it can start whenever -many years into a relationship, with someone you wouldn’t think was capable of it. Someone can become violent 4 years into a relationship, but it usually doesn’t start with physical abuse. There is a normalisation process. Now you know that he has it in him to at a point actually have become violent, so it’s safe to say that you are putting yourself at a huge risk if you stay.
He’s cheating and a douche bag – trying to justify it by you not cleaning?! Wtf. If you don’t have kids with him, invest all your time on getting a job and getting out of this toxic marriage asap.
Just have a look at her phone when she does t have it with her. You can trust her, but you need to verify.
OP, I understood you perfectly. You did great and there was no need to recap for those of us who actually read your post. Be strong OP and I wish you all the best.
I feel like I’m missing something. Four hours of cleaning one day once a week and maybe 30 minutes a day to keep up and I’m good for quite a while. Not to compare to someone else’s depression but I have depression too, so I get how challenging it can be. Unless he has some really high expectations I’m not sure how messy it could be. Regardless you don’t deserve to be treated that way, and communicating through messages is a really bad idea. Get a job, be financially independent if this doesn’t work out.
Agreed. Here's being a pussy about the house thing if that is really true.
?Novel idea. Don't buy major assets (car, homes, etc…) with SO unless you're, married or have a written “Partnership Agreement.”
You just need to on-line and learn from this. After a single week of knowing a stranger, he told you he’d never leave you and that he loved you. How could he logically know that?
Then, through the normal process of how dating is supposed to work, he realized you weren’t a fit. To now be fair to you, in most situations we could leave it at that and take the experience gained towards the future.
But the further problems worth pointing out are around some of the specific actions. You say he became a different person. Relationships might naturally evolve over time, but you were two weeks in. You had an expectation that wasn’t met, and you brought it up as you should.
In a healthy relationship, a logical response would be to address the situation and find sustainable compromise making you both happy. Instead, his response was “don’t worry.” How does that fix your concern?
Then the communication turns to booty calls. Obviously a red flag given the situation. But alright, you then find out he’s talking to at least one other person (how?) inappropriately given that you’re exclusive. You obviously know not saying anything was a mistake so there’s no need to harp on it.
He then had a “breakdown.” There’s a reason it’s in quotes; it’s bullshit. He used it to break up with you. To be fair to him, he (or anyone) didn’t need any reason to end things. That’s simply the decision he made. Now, he’s an asshole for lying, but he told you over and over that he can’t handle a relationship expecting you to just respect the decision and move on.
Instead, you said you’d be there for him. You then checked in on him a week later. You were met with cold replies. Why? Because he was just trying to break up with you. You pressed the issue and he was finally honest about it; he doesn’t see you as a fit.
I now need to take a step back and make it crystal clear that you’ve done nothing wrong, nor are you a bad or lesser person. You’re just not right FOR HIM.
I doubt the issue here was you being clingy. You matched his energy. Like I said, you need to learn from that, but again, that’s not the cause of him ending things. Your “clinginess” happened after he’d already dumped you.
So I promise you you’re all good and I can certainly empathize. Anecdotally, I’m a guy and I’m happily married. I tell you this so that you know I’m not here being negative for the sake of being negative. I love love and wish you nothing but the absolute best. But I give advice on here because I’ve been through it all and learned from it. You both were excited and rushed into things due to that excitement alone. You were still feeling that excitement. He wasn’t. You refused to let it go. I promise you that when it’s right, it won’t be this hard. Good luck.
She doesn’t have the knowledge either. It’s my dad that does.
Oh, swell. This dad?
My dad has literally no rights to be on the land or harvest from it.
How generous of him to teach you how to do this thing you're so arrogantly claiming ownership of; it's a shame you failed to learn anything else from him.
Be fair. This relationship should not end in marriage.
Your husband can choose to stay in contact with them, you can choose to walk away. He's the one that crossed the boundaries of your rules. That's not okay. He's not willing to make it right either.
So what you do is leave. He made his choice.
Dang, that stinks. Hopefully I don't get made fun of too much at work because of it. Really hoping that my eye is back to normal before the week is over.
I think because he decided it didn't matter, then slept with her and then broke up with her. If he had just said immediately that he could no longer trust her it would be fine, but he still had sex with her and then tried to ghost her, so for him it really was all about sex.
Yuuuup. In worse times and a decade ago, I was this girl with a friend. He lived halfway across the country from me so I didn’t see him often, mostly on-line. But we did sleep together when he was in town.
Years on he said he wishes we lived near each other, that he thought we’d be good together. I put it to him straight: said if he was that sketchy with his wife, I wouldnt trust that he wouldn’t do the same with me. Funny enough he agreed with me lol. Not in saying that he would do that, but he respected my perspective.
Oddly enough his wife did end up giving him full reign to go live and date – she helped edit his profile. He gave her a year to get things together for a divorce. I recently learned he’s engaged. Makes me wonder if he’s still just as sketchy but I have zero desire to find out.