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She definitely has intentions of undermining your relationship. That’s the whole reason she ignored you. It was a power play to steal your BF. The pictures are the same thing. I would definitely question your BF intentions. He may be naive to what’s going on but it’s painfully obvious from the information you gave us.
I know everyone is telling you it was probably just a dream, but that isn't helpful and gives you no answers and is ultimately harmful if he did confess to cheating. Sure this could totally be a half asleep dream, but when it's on top of the lack of intimacy and a rough patch I think it's worth being sure.
You shouldn't confront him either, you're right that if he did do it he'd just lie, and if he didn't he'd likely be offended, instead just state pointedly that you were awake when he woke up that morning or say “I heard what you said this morning” and see his reaction. Anything other than an innocent response like “oh sorry I woke you up” or confusion about what you mean warrants a search through his phone, I think.
In comments you said you’ve been with him 2 years. Not a short time, not a super long time either. I have been in your position when I made a career switch and my partner helped me. The difference was that I helped him build his career first, so it was not as risky since we went through it before.
I would recommend clearly defining role expectations on both ends and an exit should things turn sour. Does he mean you do everything around the house like a live in maid, or basic cleaning + dinners 5 nights/week? Is he talking about weird on-demand sex & you being at his beck and call type stuff, or just the current relationship with more domestic chores on your end while you finish the thesis? Will he expect you to be the breadwinner in the future because you got 6 mo for your thesis? Things like this need to be clarified if you feel you are handing over your power.
IMO It sounds like his offer is coming from a good place, not out of a desire to make you dependent/control you. I say that because he is giving you a 6 mo timeline with the clear goal to finish your thesis. If he wanted control over you then there would be no timeline and no thesis. If he starts monopolizing your time away from your thesis or minimizing your thesis then that will be a red flag and why an exit strategy needs to be defined/established beforehand.
You have a good group of friend though, because it is more common that this type of situation does form out of a desire to control or have a SAH wifey/domestic servant situation without understanding the value of that type of work. It is more risky for a woman in a traditional m/f relationship to do this in general. They’re just looking out for you, but you have to decide for yourself. Time for you to do risk analysis on the relationship, your options, and the timeline.
She definitely has intentions of undermining your relationship. That’s the whole reason she ignored you. It was a power play to steal your BF. The pictures are the same thing. I would definitely question your BF intentions. He may be naive to what’s going on but it’s painfully obvious from the information you gave us.
I know everyone is telling you it was probably just a dream, but that isn't helpful and gives you no answers and is ultimately harmful if he did confess to cheating. Sure this could totally be a half asleep dream, but when it's on top of the lack of intimacy and a rough patch I think it's worth being sure.
You shouldn't confront him either, you're right that if he did do it he'd just lie, and if he didn't he'd likely be offended, instead just state pointedly that you were awake when he woke up that morning or say “I heard what you said this morning” and see his reaction. Anything other than an innocent response like “oh sorry I woke you up” or confusion about what you mean warrants a search through his phone, I think.
The preferred vehicle, for this, is a semi. The drivers are pretty chill (usually), and down to screw with stalkers.
In comments you said you’ve been with him 2 years. Not a short time, not a super long time either. I have been in your position when I made a career switch and my partner helped me. The difference was that I helped him build his career first, so it was not as risky since we went through it before.
I would recommend clearly defining role expectations on both ends and an exit should things turn sour. Does he mean you do everything around the house like a live in maid, or basic cleaning + dinners 5 nights/week? Is he talking about weird on-demand sex & you being at his beck and call type stuff, or just the current relationship with more domestic chores on your end while you finish the thesis? Will he expect you to be the breadwinner in the future because you got 6 mo for your thesis? Things like this need to be clarified if you feel you are handing over your power.
IMO It sounds like his offer is coming from a good place, not out of a desire to make you dependent/control you. I say that because he is giving you a 6 mo timeline with the clear goal to finish your thesis. If he wanted control over you then there would be no timeline and no thesis. If he starts monopolizing your time away from your thesis or minimizing your thesis then that will be a red flag and why an exit strategy needs to be defined/established beforehand.
You have a good group of friend though, because it is more common that this type of situation does form out of a desire to control or have a SAH wifey/domestic servant situation without understanding the value of that type of work. It is more risky for a woman in a traditional m/f relationship to do this in general. They’re just looking out for you, but you have to decide for yourself. Time for you to do risk analysis on the relationship, your options, and the timeline.
It’s amazing how insecure people are on here. I guess Reddit is all 20 year olds now.
Kick him to the curb. He’s clearly not over her.