My partner, who was losing his hair, suddenly shaved his head and went full bald. I had no opinions on his hair other than I liked it and all of him. I was shocked when he made the switch to clean shaved head. It took at least a couple weeks to get used to, and it was a minor change compared to surgery, I know.
Eventually, this change in his personal aesthetic became more familiar, and then my initial “woah, who is this” went away. Now, I love his choice of hairstyle. It also feels minor because his whole self is attractive to me. I gotta say that bald head is sexy as hell, despite my initial “who is this.”
I would guess you’ll get used to this change, but it’s okay for it to be jarring. Also, as others have pointed out, the swelling and bruising after that kind of surgery is intense and lasts a long time. If this is the lynchpin in your relationship, be done, but because you like your gf I would bet it’s not.
Show her affection and cuddles outside of more sexual type encounters, like hugs doing dishes, having her sit close & holding her while watching TV, holding her hand, putting your arm around her in public.
Sometimes when we are self-conscious, affection can almost seem transactional (cuddles for sex). If you make an effort to be affectionate outside of sexual situations, it can resonate louder.
Has it not occurred to you that you, being one of this woman's male friends, would be a natural sexual outlet for that friend too? Of course it gives your wife the skeeves… particularly since you condone it.
I've seen often enough that women will recognize toxic behavior in other women before men do. I wouldn't be surprised in the slightest that your blind spot is a big part of the problem.
I would tell them that you know about the bet, that you don't sleep with people you work with, further, you don't find any of them even slightly attractive, and you have a partner that you faithful to. So drop the stupidity.
I would say that you do not like being approached outside of work, especially not at the gym (stare at the ah who is doing this). Tell them you find this stalkerish, and no woman would find it attractive.
Finally, tell them that you find their bet juvenile and sexist. You will forgive this stupidity once, and will judge them on their work performance, but that should watch themselves, because you are doing them a huge favor.
Yeah, break up. Door slamming is abusive, as is her shoving. Its early on, go and find someone else. And don't slam doors, really.
My partner, who was losing his hair, suddenly shaved his head and went full bald. I had no opinions on his hair other than I liked it and all of him. I was shocked when he made the switch to clean shaved head. It took at least a couple weeks to get used to, and it was a minor change compared to surgery, I know.
Eventually, this change in his personal aesthetic became more familiar, and then my initial “woah, who is this” went away. Now, I love his choice of hairstyle. It also feels minor because his whole self is attractive to me. I gotta say that bald head is sexy as hell, despite my initial “who is this.”
I would guess you’ll get used to this change, but it’s okay for it to be jarring. Also, as others have pointed out, the swelling and bruising after that kind of surgery is intense and lasts a long time. If this is the lynchpin in your relationship, be done, but because you like your gf I would bet it’s not.
Show her affection and cuddles outside of more sexual type encounters, like hugs doing dishes, having her sit close & holding her while watching TV, holding her hand, putting your arm around her in public.
Sometimes when we are self-conscious, affection can almost seem transactional (cuddles for sex). If you make an effort to be affectionate outside of sexual situations, it can resonate louder.
He wants a threesome and your gf knows it, but is willing to tolerate it, to get a free trip. ??♀️
Has it not occurred to you that you, being one of this woman's male friends, would be a natural sexual outlet for that friend too? Of course it gives your wife the skeeves… particularly since you condone it.
I've seen often enough that women will recognize toxic behavior in other women before men do. I wouldn't be surprised in the slightest that your blind spot is a big part of the problem.
Tell him you have a dick.
Lot's of sad news stories about how abusive relationships end in the victim's death. Leaving increases her survival rate and happiness.
I could try getting into the military but it's quite difficult where I live though.
Maybe not participate in events that can turn deadly. Just a thought.
She’s craaaaaaaaazy!
I wouldn't normally suggest this but maybe go to her house and tell her parents. Let them deal with their devil spawn.
I would tell them that you know about the bet, that you don't sleep with people you work with, further, you don't find any of them even slightly attractive, and you have a partner that you faithful to. So drop the stupidity.
I would say that you do not like being approached outside of work, especially not at the gym (stare at the ah who is doing this). Tell them you find this stalkerish, and no woman would find it attractive.
Finally, tell them that you find their bet juvenile and sexist. You will forgive this stupidity once, and will judge them on their work performance, but that should watch themselves, because you are doing them a huge favor.
Could your mother have been assaulted by a family member and she is ashamed or scared to tell your father?
Telling his family is rude and childish.