Some things can't be un-done, can't be unsaid. When you break something, you can't throw a tantrum because it broke and demand it be fixed. Some things just can't be fixed, and abuse is one of them. Leave her alone, she can't trust you. Get therapy and forget about the person whose world your presence destroyed.
“My wife cheats on me sometimes so it’s no big deal” but this last time she cheated on me is making me feel horny and upset.
Figure out what you want dude.
Some things can't be un-done, can't be unsaid. When you break something, you can't throw a tantrum because it broke and demand it be fixed. Some things just can't be fixed, and abuse is one of them. Leave her alone, she can't trust you. Get therapy and forget about the person whose world your presence destroyed.