Never accept to do something you are not happy about or you dislike. This is true for males, females , intimacy or other important things in a relationship ( it’s ok to do the dishes even if you do not like it) Open relationship is seen often as the next cool things to do and thus if people refuse they can be perceived as controlling or insecure. I do not think it is true , but that does not matter , what matters is that it is not for everyone It is not for you, so close that asap before she starts fooling around because when she does you will suffer until relationship is dead . Best luck OP
You asked him about STD status and said they “hadn't called him back”
He had unprotected sex with you without disclosing his HIV+ status.
He took you for a long drive so you could “wait around while he worked” …and then it turned out he needed you to drive his old car back.
He gets upset if you bring up his HIV+ status. *It is fair and reasonable for you to bring this up – your long-term health depends on his compliance with meds and honesty.**
If you start writing things down, you will certainly have more examples.
OP, he can't be made empathetic, and doesn't want to be empathetic. If you make your own safety, happiness and health a priority over his (claimed) feelings, what is your next step?
You are risking your friendship and will inevitably break up with this woman. You need to sort out your priorities and hopefully sooner rather than later.
It’s hot because when I get heated and tell him he’s literally does. Not. Talk. He will be quiet till I ask him the same question multiple times. He is hard to argue with at times when he is like this. I know I’m a Fckn spineless fuck , I will put my 100000000% best efforts in but when I turn my back, I’m done for. I’m trying to understand why I can’t do this to him as I have done it to exes. It’s like he has the upper hand in this
Yes, in fact that's exactly it. Men get to take the easy way out, every single time. Unhappy with wifey? “Ooo she's changed, she pays more attention to baby than to me, ima go find me a younger model with no kids and leave wife #1 in poverty, pooooor meeeeee.”
She completely recognised that they're was indeed a problem and recognised and promised that she will manage the situation the way she should have the first time.
It was temporary, it was completely hormonally related and treatable, much like menopause. She admits it was a problem, she's not an addict or a chronic abuser with mental problems.
She was bitchy and irritable and hurt his widdle feefees, and if it's anything like man-flu, we can be certain it's all greatly exaggerated, especially if she snapped out of it immediately.
He's just looking for an excuse to jump ship. Parenting and adulting are too hot, apparently.
Yes, in fact that's exactly it. Men get to take the easy way out, every single time. Unhappy with wifey? “Ooo she's changed, she pays more attention to baby than to me, ima go find me a younger model with no kids and leave wife #1 in poverty, pooooor meeeeee.”
She completely recognised that they're was indeed a problem and recognised and promised that she will manage the situation the way she should have the first time.
It was temporary, it was completely hormonally related and treatable, much like menopause. She admits it was a problem, she's not an addict or a chronic abuser with mental problems.
She was bitchy and irritable and hurt his widdle feefees, and if it's anything like man-flu, we can be certain it's all greatly exaggerated, especially if she snapped out of it immediately.
He's just looking for an excuse to jump ship. Parenting and adulting are too hard, apparently.
I don’t know man, if she feels entitled to have a say in this then I’m afraid this might become a slippery slope where she starts to control all my spending. What if we break up? Then I’m stuck with a house that I half dislike? And I payed for it. I don’t know man
This relationship was ruined at the moment your husband said he wanted to shag your friend. Even if you said 'no' and he would have accepted that, what did he expect? That you two could just go on as if nothing happened?
Sounds like he's sick and might be able to meet next week, not everything is some kind of fucking code
Never accept to do something you are not happy about or you dislike. This is true for males, females , intimacy or other important things in a relationship ( it’s ok to do the dishes even if you do not like it) Open relationship is seen often as the next cool things to do and thus if people refuse they can be perceived as controlling or insecure. I do not think it is true , but that does not matter , what matters is that it is not for everyone It is not for you, so close that asap before she starts fooling around because when she does you will suffer until relationship is dead . Best luck OP
You deserve so much better than this.
You asked him about STD status and said they “hadn't called him back”
He had unprotected sex with you without disclosing his HIV+ status.
He took you for a long drive so you could “wait around while he worked” …and then it turned out he needed you to drive his old car back.
He gets upset if you bring up his HIV+ status. *It is fair and reasonable for you to bring this up – your long-term health depends on his compliance with meds and honesty.**
If you start writing things down, you will certainly have more examples.
OP, he can't be made empathetic, and doesn't want to be empathetic. If you make your own safety, happiness and health a priority over his (claimed) feelings, what is your next step?
You are risking your friendship and will inevitably break up with this woman. You need to sort out your priorities and hopefully sooner rather than later.
Nope bruh
It’s hot because when I get heated and tell him he’s literally does. Not. Talk. He will be quiet till I ask him the same question multiple times. He is hard to argue with at times when he is like this. I know I’m a Fckn spineless fuck , I will put my 100000000% best efforts in but when I turn my back, I’m done for. I’m trying to understand why I can’t do this to him as I have done it to exes. It’s like he has the upper hand in this
Yes, in fact that's exactly it. Men get to take the easy way out, every single time. Unhappy with wifey? “Ooo she's changed, she pays more attention to baby than to me, ima go find me a younger model with no kids and leave wife #1 in poverty, pooooor meeeeee.”
She completely recognised that they're was indeed a problem and recognised and promised that she will manage the situation the way she should have the first time.
It was temporary, it was completely hormonally related and treatable, much like menopause. She admits it was a problem, she's not an addict or a chronic abuser with mental problems.
She was bitchy and irritable and hurt his widdle feefees, and if it's anything like man-flu, we can be certain it's all greatly exaggerated, especially if she snapped out of it immediately.
He's just looking for an excuse to jump ship. Parenting and adulting are too hot, apparently.
Yes, in fact that's exactly it. Men get to take the easy way out, every single time. Unhappy with wifey? “Ooo she's changed, she pays more attention to baby than to me, ima go find me a younger model with no kids and leave wife #1 in poverty, pooooor meeeeee.”
She completely recognised that they're was indeed a problem and recognised and promised that she will manage the situation the way she should have the first time.
It was temporary, it was completely hormonally related and treatable, much like menopause. She admits it was a problem, she's not an addict or a chronic abuser with mental problems.
She was bitchy and irritable and hurt his widdle feefees, and if it's anything like man-flu, we can be certain it's all greatly exaggerated, especially if she snapped out of it immediately.
He's just looking for an excuse to jump ship. Parenting and adulting are too hard, apparently.
I don’t know man, if she feels entitled to have a say in this then I’m afraid this might become a slippery slope where she starts to control all my spending. What if we break up? Then I’m stuck with a house that I half dislike? And I payed for it. I don’t know man
This relationship was ruined at the moment your husband said he wanted to shag your friend. Even if you said 'no' and he would have accepted that, what did he expect? That you two could just go on as if nothing happened?