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Skirt up + spank until red ass [Multi Goal]
Date: December 19, 2022
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Skirt up + spank until red ass [Multi Goal]
It's great he does pay you back but you usually sub off people temporarily while you sort a situation, not sub indefinitely while not fixing the issue at all. What happens if at some point you want to get married or have kids? Will you pay for everything all of the time? What if you also have unexpected bills of your own and can't be caught out and just foot the bill until he can pay you back?
Sit him down and say you're pleased that since your talk he's started to bring his card out etc. And it's lovely he helps his mum too. However, their arrangement is something that is directly affecting you and you're fed up being pulled in to it without being asked. He knew when making plans that his account would be drained and you'd just foot the bill. He can't just assume you're in a position to do that or basically help himself to your funds indirectly.
Then give him three options: 1. Set his mum up her own account with her at the bank and she can take her own card and pay her bill money in before they're due. Thus removing him from the situation
Set up a second account of his own which his mum can use in the same way she's using his account at present but by paying her cash and her cash only into it. Again, removing him from the situation.
He carries on the way he has been with the current arrangement but it means he cannot initiate plans without having money of his own and if he happens to have none he does what all adults do and not go/have/do if they can't afford to fund themselves
Very different situation if you pay for each other in turn and occasionally when it's your turn he's a little light in the pocket but the persistent expectation of you to sponsor days out he wants to do and his expenses. Nope.
If you're currently taking time off work I'd highly suggest you do a remodeling of the house if you're going to keep living in it. Change it up, make it look different so it doesn't remind you of your ex.
This will keep you busy, and you'll lay off the bottle, and it will help in the recovery process. Plus remodeling / changing things up is fun every once in a while. Make a man cave, or exercise room, or gaming/ movie room. Keep yourself occupied. Start that hobby you always wanted to do.
Don't get used to having a buzz going to help you sleep, that's a dangerous path to go on.
Good luck.
If you were a man you’d be in jail by now. Count your lucky stars that you’re a woman in 2022 america. Now, profusely apologize to your boyfriend, make a plan to never let this happen again, and move on. He has every right to be pissed at you. Let him be mad for a week. However, you can move past this. Good luck
This is really strange.
I don't think anyone was thinking along the lines of “consent”, do you?
I'm not sure that “consent” was ever a question.
I have to ask if you appreciate the point I was seeking to make?
I have this fear that I will be pressed to “dumb down” my writing
and forego working to provide actual guidance and advice.
Everyone has different boundaries. My SO doesn’t really drink, but I do. He knows that drunk or sober, when I say no, I mean no, and when I say yes, I mean yes. But we’ve also been together for 16 years so it’s been long since established.
You need to have a conversation about this.
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Honestly he may just be afraid as I’m assuming living with a significant other is something he’s never done. My boyfriend was very scared to move in at first because he feared giving up his alone time and breaking his habits. He’d never lived with a girlfriend before and had created all these ideas of the expectations he thought I’d have.
We ended up having several conversations to help him. We talked in depth about finances and how we’d split bills and save for things we want in the future. We talked about how we’d use our extra room for some of his stuff and how we’d have our own spaces for chilling out or me time. We talked about house chores and how we both approach them now vs how we may approach them while living together.
I think you just need to sit down and have a specific conversation about this. The first reason about being a light sleeper is kind of odd because does he just think he’ll never live with a significant other because of this? Outside of that, I imagine he’s just concerned about losing his independence so you just need to get more specific about what that means to him.
Unfortunately, there's not much you can do. I would have a serious talk with her explaining how her behavior and comments make you feel. I would hope, as your parent, that she would really take that to heart and have a good look at herself. She may be so caught up in it that she's not even realizing it stopped being “fun” a long time ago, for everyone except her. If it continues to the same severity, you may need to fall back a little, for your own sake and to let her miss you a bit.
That could be the difference. Was he close with his dad?
no never! i always think he looks nice and i have never pointed out someone else’s clothes and said he should try that instead. it really bugged me when he did it with a girl who was wearing lulu lemon leggings when he was pretty much just starting at her butt :’)
Are you a non practising catholic?
I would not recommend a one-sided open relationship as a solution for mismatched desire for sex. It’s very likely to just cause her pain to know you’re having sex with others, even if she doesn’t want it herself right now.
I say this especially because it sounds more like OCD or some sort of anxiety inhibiting her than plain old lack of sex drive, as I’ve been through something similar to what it sounds like she’s dealing with. For me, it was a very temporary thing, a physical problem triggered it and the mental issues lasted a few months, during which time my ex chose to leave me. Never had anything like it since, so I urge you to encourage her to get mental health help rather than give up on her. It’s not normal for a 21 yr old woman with a formerly high or normal sex drive to suddenly lose it.
She didn't lie. She said she didn't want children. And she didn't. Her medical issues are of no one's business but her own, and she only needs to tell people when she is ready, or if they desire children and she is in a serious relationship with them. And considering she told him once he decided he wanted children, in ever conceivable explaination of the situation, she did nothing wrong.
Then he definitely needs to know. The sooner the better. He is already isolated somewhat and has no external support or ability to escape from the situation, if it happens to him. He needs to know he is at risk and what that means. You are working under the guise that it hasn’t happened, yet. He could be suffering already.
And good old uncle needs to be reported for breaking the guidelines of being a sex offender.
On point 3, i worry that I will need to make certain compromises. Like schools for kids: I will either have to pay the bulk or they won’t get the schools I want. Or perhaps I want to fly business class but will have to go economy if he can’t pay for it.
If you terminate this pregnancy, will any doctor ever do IVF for you again?
He showed you his true self, who he is in your time of need. Now that you see him clearly, do you want him as a partner?
Get a partner and focus on moving onto someone else
Lmao dude no one cares. Go troll somewhere else lol
It makes no sense for him to create a whole profile, where he used his own pictures and information, to spy on them. And why not just tell you what he was doing? This is what loyal and non cheating people do when they see a situation that could cause doubt in their partner. And was he using the app to gather info on those dirty liars or as a way to make platonic friends? Neither of these excuses make sense to me, and they’re two different reasons that sound like quickly conjured up excuses. I’m not saying he’s definitely cheating, but he’s doing exactly what a cheater would do when caught on a dating app.
First no one deserves to be cheated on, those comments have no place on a platform like this.
With that said, your list is ridiculous. If its fair or not is something only you and her can decide.
It appears that you both thrive in chaos. I suspect she will agree with no intention of actually following the “Rules”. Smart money says breakup. I doubt to two will, toxicity is a very powerful glue to some relationships.
If you are not willing to discuss it then sit back and watch it continue to happen. Why would you not want to talk to him about something that you think could destroy your relationship? There’s no accusation. Tell him you see him with the twins and it breaks your heart that the two of you don’t have that together. Let the conversation flow from there. Also, is there any reason at all why you are not outside with him when he gets home? Instead of wallowing and watching from afar, go out there! Laugh with them, joke with them, play with them! Your making it sound like you’re pouting behind a curtain while he’s enjoying life, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be there too. If he goes over to fix something, GO WITH HIM! I’m sure the neighbor would love some girl talk. A single mother of young twins, I guarantee she is starved for adult conversation. I’m not meaning to be harsh, but you seem to be the one excluding yourself here.
She should have told you.
Thank you
Question: why does this feel like they lied to you about who they were? Did they ever preach to you about the merits of monogamy or chastity that makes you now judge them as hypocrites?
I’m glad I had my kids young. I had my oldest at 19 and my second at 24 and so far I have managed to keep them alive. My oldest will be 16 this year and I’m only 35. It’s pretty great.
Have you considered that your bigger (super) power is to take her power away from her?
One last time, people routinely describe their partners as just amazing people minus all the times when they're terribly abusive and manipulative. The questions define behaviors that could be helpful to the OP in defining their feelings.
She's definitely cut off contact as I saw the message and saw his reply which basically said no problem, which I wasn't surprised at because I could tell from their chats that she seemed far more invested than he seemed to be.
My read is that this has given her a massive scare, a really big one. I do agree that we need to be more open with what is going on outside of the home.
I'm going to talk to her more about it because I still have a few questions I'd like some answers to.
So unfortunately he’s an ex. While a nice person would respect you and give you space, he isn’t. You don’t have anything to use as leverage or compromise with him to get him to do what you want. So you are going to have to change your routine. So change the times you go, change where you go. Do whatever you have to to not be wherever he is. If he follows you to your new routine, then you might be able to get the police involved as it hopefully will be able to be seen as stalking, so a restraining order might be issued.
Now most importantly. YOU are not responsible for his actions. His driving drunk, and suicidal tendencies are not your fault.
Exactly. He is being manipulative of Alice and Alice chooses not to see it. I would find another friend group. Some friendships don’t survive a divorce.
i will find a way to leave ;(
for real though so many dramas. its fucking with my head everyday and im in fear everyday ?