You have nothing to lose. She may say no. In the meantime, start the healing process. Stay busy, get hobbies, dig in to your job, lean on friends and family. Do not expect a potential meetup is reconciling but only to see how her life is going and possibly get some answers.
Exactly, either I continue on same path rn without talking or I end up with a new friend, seems like a reasonable gamble. I just wanna sit on it a bit longer to make sure this is exactly what I want. I’m not planning to have that ulterior motive, my concern is say we do become friends, what happens if that physical or romantic attraction comes back? Don’t wanna have to fight to suppress that
update Since there were quite a few different people who gave their input, I felt as though I should share what has transpired since last night. Haven't talked about the part that was eating at me anymore, but last night I had to run over by a friend of hers house to pick up my buddy and give him a ride home. My ol lady had talked about the possibility of said mutual friend going with her so she wasn't traveling solo in days past, so I asked the friend if she still wanted to go with her & explained what had transpired and what not. Friend is more than happy to take the trip with her, just has to wait until the 2nd before she is able to leave, which my wife didn't mind putting off her departure for 2 more days.
She is still acting out of the norm about her phone, but otherwise, we are getting along like we always have.
So I dunno how to feel at this point. I know I had reason to feel how I felt about the deception and gaslighting, but unless she is having an emotional relationship of sorts with this guy (which I highly doubt), then I'm not entirely certain if I shouldn't just let sleeping dogs lie.
I got my girlfriend by asking to taste the inside of her mouth. It was a beautiful night on the 4th of july. We both just graduated highschool and this was our second time hanging out in person. We went to an abandoned train bridge over a river and it was beautiful. Shining night sky with fireworks going off all over, we could look down and see the reflections of stars and fireworks on the slow moving river. There was an abandoned factory connected to the bridge and it looked beautiful in the glow of the fireworks. Then i asked to taste the inside of her mouth lol and it worked
I’ll also say this. Something Reddit never tells you is that getting involved in things like this, especially when situations aren’t 100% clear, things get really messy and really fast. It ruins lives for everyone. Not just the couple but I’ve seen posters who have gotten involved and it backfire terribly. I’ve seen OPs post how they’ve lost full families and friend groups. You don’t know exactly the full situation for what happened.
Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t, I’m just saying that it’s never as easy as Reddit makes it out to be. Getting involved in stuff like this is never easy. And you rarely see updated posts with a happy ending.
Way in my past I was in a similar situation. The issue stemmed from the fact that she never let go of the wanting to be pursued mentality even after we got together. It's kind of like the other side of the coin as far as your upbringing. It wasn't that she was disinterested, it was more that she was passive because she just expected the man to take charge of everything. If you're uncomfortable with the situation, all you can really do is have a straight talk with her about it and see she'd agree to changing up the pattern.
It could be actually because you told him you feel insecure about it. He wants to keep reinforcing those insecure feelings. He touches and mentions your belly in front of other people to shame you and make you feel awkward. If he keeps you feeling bad about yourself, you'll never realize you can improve your self esteem and move on without him.
Having unprotected sex while having a STD or STI – and not disclosing that to a partner so they can make an INFORMED decision – is sexual assault.
People like her should be faced with fines and/or jail time since they won't seem to take it seriously otherwise. Do not trust this woman since she thought it was OK to expose you to a lifelong disease. If she throws a fit or tries to make you feel guilty – tell her to fuck off. She's a disgusting person. There's nothing wrong with having herpes, sex while outbreaks are not present and no shedding is fine, but you have the right to know.
He wants someone to fuck without expectations from you, not a relationship.
You have nothing to lose. She may say no. In the meantime, start the healing process. Stay busy, get hobbies, dig in to your job, lean on friends and family. Do not expect a potential meetup is reconciling but only to see how her life is going and possibly get some answers.
Why don’t you use the guest room to nap
Yup. Exactly!
Exactly, either I continue on same path rn without talking or I end up with a new friend, seems like a reasonable gamble. I just wanna sit on it a bit longer to make sure this is exactly what I want. I’m not planning to have that ulterior motive, my concern is say we do become friends, what happens if that physical or romantic attraction comes back? Don’t wanna have to fight to suppress that
update Since there were quite a few different people who gave their input, I felt as though I should share what has transpired since last night. Haven't talked about the part that was eating at me anymore, but last night I had to run over by a friend of hers house to pick up my buddy and give him a ride home. My ol lady had talked about the possibility of said mutual friend going with her so she wasn't traveling solo in days past, so I asked the friend if she still wanted to go with her & explained what had transpired and what not. Friend is more than happy to take the trip with her, just has to wait until the 2nd before she is able to leave, which my wife didn't mind putting off her departure for 2 more days.
She is still acting out of the norm about her phone, but otherwise, we are getting along like we always have.
So I dunno how to feel at this point. I know I had reason to feel how I felt about the deception and gaslighting, but unless she is having an emotional relationship of sorts with this guy (which I highly doubt), then I'm not entirely certain if I shouldn't just let sleeping dogs lie.
So what's your take on the situation?
I got my girlfriend by asking to taste the inside of her mouth. It was a beautiful night on the 4th of july. We both just graduated highschool and this was our second time hanging out in person. We went to an abandoned train bridge over a river and it was beautiful. Shining night sky with fireworks going off all over, we could look down and see the reflections of stars and fireworks on the slow moving river. There was an abandoned factory connected to the bridge and it looked beautiful in the glow of the fireworks. Then i asked to taste the inside of her mouth lol and it worked
I swear I've seen many similar stories recently on this sub.
I’ll also say this. Something Reddit never tells you is that getting involved in things like this, especially when situations aren’t 100% clear, things get really messy and really fast. It ruins lives for everyone. Not just the couple but I’ve seen posters who have gotten involved and it backfire terribly. I’ve seen OPs post how they’ve lost full families and friend groups. You don’t know exactly the full situation for what happened.
Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t, I’m just saying that it’s never as easy as Reddit makes it out to be. Getting involved in stuff like this is never easy. And you rarely see updated posts with a happy ending.
Way in my past I was in a similar situation. The issue stemmed from the fact that she never let go of the wanting to be pursued mentality even after we got together. It's kind of like the other side of the coin as far as your upbringing. It wasn't that she was disinterested, it was more that she was passive because she just expected the man to take charge of everything. If you're uncomfortable with the situation, all you can really do is have a straight talk with her about it and see she'd agree to changing up the pattern.
It could be actually because you told him you feel insecure about it. He wants to keep reinforcing those insecure feelings. He touches and mentions your belly in front of other people to shame you and make you feel awkward. If he keeps you feeling bad about yourself, you'll never realize you can improve your self esteem and move on without him.
Gaslighted indeed. Time to move on.
You shouldn't have created a fake asking to test your boyfriend's loyalty. That's bad
In 6 months you never touched his “vagina” and realised something is off.
You are right to be upset, she lied to you for 6 months. Leave and never look back.
I also don't believe this is a real story by the way, way too suss.
Having unprotected sex while having a STD or STI – and not disclosing that to a partner so they can make an INFORMED decision – is sexual assault.
People like her should be faced with fines and/or jail time since they won't seem to take it seriously otherwise. Do not trust this woman since she thought it was OK to expose you to a lifelong disease. If she throws a fit or tries to make you feel guilty – tell her to fuck off. She's a disgusting person. There's nothing wrong with having herpes, sex while outbreaks are not present and no shedding is fine, but you have the right to know.