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LYNSY-1 Public Chat Channel
Date: January 11, 2023
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LYNSY-1 Public Chat Channel
Absolutely zero need to body shame. Get lost.
Well she thinks you like it because you said so. Pretty easy problem to solve. And yes, we are jealous as fuck.
There's another difference between your cat and your roommate's: your cat is “competition” for your love/time/money. Not in the mind of anyone healthy and well adjusted, but that is definitely the vibe that I'm getting from your story. If it were me, we'd be having one more conversation about the cat. I'd articulate that you love them both, but since he is a grown man and she is a cat, you feel a sense of responsibility to care for her that you don't for him. Your values/worldview are that she is a part of your family that you need to protect and care for, and you need to know if he is compatible with that or not.
I understand your hesitation about telling him that this is a dealbreaker – nobody likes an “ultimatum”. But the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum is basically whether it's a healthy, reasonable expectation or not. This is, and he hasn't respected it so far. I think he needs to know how important this is if you want to continue this.
Right. He really needs to hear you’re not his babysitter/flatmate and he actually needs to act responsibly. Ask to go to couples therapy sessions and if nothing improves, sounds like you’ll be less worried on your own.
No, I absolutely love him. I found out about the pregnancy 2 weeks ago, and we were already together by then.
Most people have an attachment style in their relationships. Either anxious or secure. I already ended things with him, which is sort of the issue. He told me to tell him if I changed my mind and I have changed my mind. I'd like to tell him I still want to be together, but also talk about what I'm going through so we can be a bit healthier. I'm just not sure how to tell him that.
Why would he level up when no one expects him to? He has his mommy take care of him at home and you take care of him at your home. He is benefiting greatly all the way around. Maybe stop doing so much until you see some effort on his part. If he’s not willing to put in any effort then he’s just into doing what’s best for him. Partnerships are supposed to be more or less equal, not one person reaping all the benefits while the other does all the work.