lots of missing context here, i think shes valid for her boundaries and not unreasonable either. shes inexperienced, sometimes you dont know what you’re comfortable with after trying or getting close to
I've tried moving on, i really did. But I'm not able to get her out of my mind. I know I've been a jerk to her, but I'd do better this time, given a chance. Other than that, i don't have a leg to stand on and tell that it'll be good for both us. But yeah, I'll do my best and do right by her. I'll not let her down this time.
I've tried moving on, i really did. But I'm not able to get her out of my mind. I know I've been a jerk to her, but I'd do better this time, given a chance. Other than that, i don't have a leg to stand on and tell that it'll be good for both us. But yeah, I'll do my best and do right by her. I'll not let her down this time.
It sounds like you are going through a very difficult and painful situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your girlfriend and have been doing your best to support her during this time. However, it's also understandable that the constant emotional strain and focus on her problems is taking a toll on you.
It's important to remember that you are not responsible for fixing your girlfriend's problems or being her sole support system. While it's admirable that you have been there for her, it's also important to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially when you still love them. But it's important to remember that ending a relationship doesn't mean you stop caring about the person or that their struggles are any less valid. It simply means that you have recognized that the relationship is no longer healthy or sustainable for both parties.
It might be helpful for you to talk to a therapist or counselor about your feelings and how to move forward. They can provide support and guidance during this difficult time. Additionally, it might be helpful to talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and try to come up with a plan for both of you to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's necessary for your own health and happiness, and it can also benefit your loved ones in the long run.
I would say no. Don't take major steps other than moving in together, but give it a try! Worst case scenario you have to find new living arrangements when your lease is up.
I would tell. Maybe it's not my business, but I would. Personally I think your SIL is crazy staying with a man who cheats on her for the 3rd time. I think there're plenty of good men who can respect her, but if she doesn't respect herself that's another story.
“Who’s wrong here? Me for caring? Or her, for wearing a ring her uncle gave her?”
Well, she’s not in the wrong for wearing a jewelry gift… so by process of elimination, you’re in the wrong.
Can you elaborate what “me for caring” means?
What do you mean about this? Like you care for your girlfriend and she shouldn’t wear jewelry… or you care meaning it bothers you?
“It really creeps me out”
How? Why?
Is she wearing it on your left ring finger like an engagement ring? That would be a little weird, since it’s not one.
Or are you sexualizing their relationship over this? Because that would for sure be extremely creepy… but it’s not your girlfriend, her uncle, or the ring that’s creepy… it would be you.
Maybe she’s experimenting with a new style while with her friends to see if she likes it before trying it when she’s with you.
And the hand shaking? Maybe she doesn’t like hugging boys she’s not dating but it’s fine with her girlfriends.
He could maybe cheer me up and tell me how his training goes
Geez, I feel sorry for the poor guy. Hope he sees you're one big red flag
lots of missing context here, i think shes valid for her boundaries and not unreasonable either. shes inexperienced, sometimes you dont know what you’re comfortable with after trying or getting close to
You should feel angry. He lied. You don't have to accept his apology
What does that even mean? I can't make sense of it…
I've tried moving on, i really did. But I'm not able to get her out of my mind. I know I've been a jerk to her, but I'd do better this time, given a chance. Other than that, i don't have a leg to stand on and tell that it'll be good for both us. But yeah, I'll do my best and do right by her. I'll not let her down this time.
I've tried moving on, i really did. But I'm not able to get her out of my mind. I know I've been a jerk to her, but I'd do better this time, given a chance. Other than that, i don't have a leg to stand on and tell that it'll be good for both us. But yeah, I'll do my best and do right by her. I'll not let her down this time.
He can talk to anyone he wants. Doing so with someone they have romantic/sexual feelings for while in a relationship though is disrespectful.
It sounds like you are going through a very difficult and painful situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your girlfriend and have been doing your best to support her during this time. However, it's also understandable that the constant emotional strain and focus on her problems is taking a toll on you.
It's important to remember that you are not responsible for fixing your girlfriend's problems or being her sole support system. While it's admirable that you have been there for her, it's also important to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially when you still love them. But it's important to remember that ending a relationship doesn't mean you stop caring about the person or that their struggles are any less valid. It simply means that you have recognized that the relationship is no longer healthy or sustainable for both parties.
It might be helpful for you to talk to a therapist or counselor about your feelings and how to move forward. They can provide support and guidance during this difficult time. Additionally, it might be helpful to talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and try to come up with a plan for both of you to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's necessary for your own health and happiness, and it can also benefit your loved ones in the long run.
I would say no. Don't take major steps other than moving in together, but give it a try! Worst case scenario you have to find new living arrangements when your lease is up.
I would tell. Maybe it's not my business, but I would. Personally I think your SIL is crazy staying with a man who cheats on her for the 3rd time. I think there're plenty of good men who can respect her, but if she doesn't respect herself that's another story.
“Who’s wrong here? Me for caring? Or her, for wearing a ring her uncle gave her?”
Well, she’s not in the wrong for wearing a jewelry gift… so by process of elimination, you’re in the wrong.
Can you elaborate what “me for caring” means?
What do you mean about this? Like you care for your girlfriend and she shouldn’t wear jewelry… or you care meaning it bothers you?
“It really creeps me out”
How? Why?
Is she wearing it on your left ring finger like an engagement ring? That would be a little weird, since it’s not one.
Or are you sexualizing their relationship over this? Because that would for sure be extremely creepy… but it’s not your girlfriend, her uncle, or the ring that’s creepy… it would be you.
Soul ties are real. She didn’t enjoy the sex and doesn’t want to tell you. Plenty of fish in the sea you’ll be alright