You ask her to go through the court to settle the matter.
Feelings aside, if she cannot arrange daycare and you are unwilling/unable to take care of the child during work hours, what else can she do? It may be unsustainable for her to be a stay-at home, even part time, taking into account child support payments. Put yourself in her shoes or better yet, try it yourself to be a full time father. She'll pay you 500 quid.
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I have heard a bit of most pop psychology theories, that wouldn't be something I don't understand.
You ask her to go through the court to settle the matter.
Feelings aside, if she cannot arrange daycare and you are unwilling/unable to take care of the child during work hours, what else can she do? It may be unsustainable for her to be a stay-at home, even part time, taking into account child support payments. Put yourself in her shoes or better yet, try it yourself to be a full time father. She'll pay you 500 quid.