Well don’t join your finances, that’s for sure. Do his/hers/ours where you each put into “ours” based on % of total income to cover shared expenses. You can do the same with a savings acct. Then the rest goes into your personal accts. That way, if he wants to buy things for his mother, he can and it doesn’t impact you. You don’t even have to know about it.
He doesn't want to get married. That is your answer. You pressuring and pushing doesn't sound like it is going to change that. If he is great and you are truly happy in the relationship, it seems you need to accept it and be ok with being unmarried partners personally wouldn't want to feel like I was fighting someone to marry me. You have to decide if you can live with his answer.
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It’s over and you know it.
This is by far the best response. Thanks man, i’ll get over this anyway
If she wants you plus a toy, then go shopping together for a fun toy.
Threesomes ruin relationships.
Well don’t join your finances, that’s for sure. Do his/hers/ours where you each put into “ours” based on % of total income to cover shared expenses. You can do the same with a savings acct. Then the rest goes into your personal accts. That way, if he wants to buy things for his mother, he can and it doesn’t impact you. You don’t even have to know about it.
Thanks everyone for your input. You all confirmed that my gut instinct is correct. I guess it’s time for a tough conversation
He doesn't want to get married. That is your answer. You pressuring and pushing doesn't sound like it is going to change that. If he is great and you are truly happy in the relationship, it seems you need to accept it and be ok with being unmarried partners personally wouldn't want to feel like I was fighting someone to marry me. You have to decide if you can live with his answer.