Too fast is relative to the specific relationship. He proposed 5 months after meeting. We’ve been married 20years. Obviously we were both on the same page. This relationship is different and he needs to be clear about not being ready from the get go because he thinks it’s too fast. This is how people end up immediately divorced because they didn’t say no beforehand.
I would say that they don’t seem to be in the same place emotionally. He’s dealt with divorce before and probably wants to be more secure in his relationship before marrying again. Be glad he told you now vs later and you might be able to work on things and take time until both of you are ready.
First of all, get an attorney and file for divorce.
Second, with the help of your attorney see what your options are for charging her with identify theft/fraud. You may be able to work with the bank to get any money drawn from your account back (since you didn't authorize the charges). You'll probably have to file a police report.
The amount here is going to put her into felony territory, so there is a chance she will go to jail. Are you willing/able to take full custody of the child if it comes to that?
Whoa if a family member or loved one was going through what you are I'd at the very least be willing to cut my trip short to be there for them. Your girlfriend seems a bit selfish imo. This isn't you being out with a cold this is pretty serious shit and you need her! Wtf?
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Too fast is relative to the specific relationship. He proposed 5 months after meeting. We’ve been married 20years. Obviously we were both on the same page. This relationship is different and he needs to be clear about not being ready from the get go because he thinks it’s too fast. This is how people end up immediately divorced because they didn’t say no beforehand.
I would say that they don’t seem to be in the same place emotionally. He’s dealt with divorce before and probably wants to be more secure in his relationship before marrying again. Be glad he told you now vs later and you might be able to work on things and take time until both of you are ready.
Hope they are not planning to move in with your parents ;).
She clearly an attention seeker and will use anyone to get what she wants.
First of all, get an attorney and file for divorce.
Second, with the help of your attorney see what your options are for charging her with identify theft/fraud. You may be able to work with the bank to get any money drawn from your account back (since you didn't authorize the charges). You'll probably have to file a police report.
The amount here is going to put her into felony territory, so there is a chance she will go to jail. Are you willing/able to take full custody of the child if it comes to that?
This is where you lost the plot.
Almost plausible before this comment.
Whoa if a family member or loved one was going through what you are I'd at the very least be willing to cut my trip short to be there for them. Your girlfriend seems a bit selfish imo. This isn't you being out with a cold this is pretty serious shit and you need her! Wtf?