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AshlyFoxx1 Public Chat Channel
Date: December 12, 2022
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I think it also depends what the childs relationship is with her Bio mom too.
I'm trained/educated to be a therapist. I have been a therapist but I am not currently a therapist.
This sounds like someone who lacks boundaries and is not focusing on their training. The only time that a session should go over is in the instance of imminent risk or very very occasionally if things need some extra time to be wrapped up at the end. I'm not saying she is a bad therapist but she is not modeling good behavior if she can't even stick to basic scheduling and rules.
I have challenged people when I was working with them to gauge their response and evoke a conversation on a certain topic. These always came from a place where the conversation already was. For instance if someone had been flirting with the idea of divorce for a few sessions I might approach them with “you've mentioned this a few times now. So you decide to file for divorce, how are you feeling and what happens next”. It's never to push someone in a direction and it's never brought up if the topic hadn't been discussed before.
It is in very poor taste ethically to offer to be a couples therapist when you are already working with one half of said couple. It creates a power imbalance where your husband will feel the need to defend you to the therapist and you will feel ganged up on, not to mention your therapist wanting to put herself in the middle of your marriage which is… Odd. I've never seen a good couples therapist offer to work with partners individually.
I'm not saying that she has a crush, but at best she's not a good therapist for your husband and at worst she's using her position to create a power dynamic. If your husband is open to the suggestion I think it would be beneficial for him to seek another therapist who has better clinical practice.
An abuse apologist. Nice ?
Mental illness is chronic, you never really get better. All you can do is like, build an environment that is accepting of it and keeps symptoms to a minimum (career, support network, lifestyle). Idk I guess you can get better at managing the way it affects others (like she can choose not to hit people), but speaking as a somewhat mentally ill person myself… the crippling emotions are just a part of who you are. Your wife was always like this, she always will be, never get into a relationship with someone expecting them to change.
Now you have to make the decision to leave her (You can’t be “forever” with someone you resent, it would be a kind of suicide for both of you). And yeah she may choose not to pick herself up after. But that would be her choice. It sucks and it would be really sad to see but at the end of the day she has to choose to take action for her own life. Sorry you’re going through this, hope you both can find the right person for you.