Okay, dealing with consequences is one thing. Natural consequences of cheating in a relationship is to be dumped by that person. Or to work on the relationship in therapy and gain your partner’s trust back. It is not confessing to that transgression every time you meet a new person. Past relationship mistakes should not continue to haunt you for the rest of your life. There is no opportunity for personal growth if you continually have to pay for the same transgression over and over.
Maybe she didn’t realize that everything she’s ever done in a past relationship is any of his fucking business. I sure as fuck didn’t. I guess I need to start that list of why every relationship didn’t work out, what sexual positions were used in them, and how often because apparently my husband has some expectations I need to fulfill.
Red flag one: 6 months in and you have a relationship with her kid? Talk about moving in together? I don’t think I’d introduce my kid until at least 6 months of things going super well.
Red flag two: into conspiracies. If you don’t share that view, run away.
Being with someone (especially one with a kid) just because you don’t want to be lonely is never a good plan. Try to find someone you fully enjoy being with, and not just because you would rather not be alone.
I appreciate what you're saying. But I disagree with the idea that it was soured. Because we spoke about it. She had no reason as to why she didn't with me. I even said along the lines of. I get it if you i ly did it to please an ex. To which she said. It was never like that. She did it to please her.
Also. The time difference isn't years. It's months. From when she last had it. To us getting together, wasn't a big amount of time.
As I said to someone else. If we split up today. I'm certain at some point. Like most of us would. She would txt an ex for a bit of a confidence boost. No strings hook up. And she would do it with them. As she has before.
Keeping your last names is okay. Y'all can both be married and have different last names. But if y'all plan on having children then the discussion y'all need to have is how the children will be named.
She’s either a prick teaser who loves the attention or she doesn’t give a shit about your feelings.
Talk to her again. If this behaviour is a deal breaker for you (and I agree it’s unacceptable to openly encourage someone she knows likes her) then you may have to break up.
You’re young. She’s immature. This is how you decide what you want from a partner and what you don’t for when you start looking seriously.
So, you helped clean HIS place and he wants you to pay him back for 2 sponges?
What can you do???
You run and never look back? This is truly psycho. Instead of thanking you the yells at you? Um, I dont think so. WTF did you actually stay?
Come on
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Please don't lighten your skin. Dark skin is just as beautiful as light, and I say that as a white man. You just haven't met the right guy yet.
Okay, dealing with consequences is one thing. Natural consequences of cheating in a relationship is to be dumped by that person. Or to work on the relationship in therapy and gain your partner’s trust back. It is not confessing to that transgression every time you meet a new person. Past relationship mistakes should not continue to haunt you for the rest of your life. There is no opportunity for personal growth if you continually have to pay for the same transgression over and over.
Maybe she didn’t realize that everything she’s ever done in a past relationship is any of his fucking business. I sure as fuck didn’t. I guess I need to start that list of why every relationship didn’t work out, what sexual positions were used in them, and how often because apparently my husband has some expectations I need to fulfill.
There aren't a lot of questions.
There's “does he understand the full gravity of the problem” to which the answer is no because he is still gambling.
You cannot build a future with someone who is behind you dismantling it brick by brick and gambling it away.
You're way too young to shackle yourself to someone with a gambling problem.
Her job is scamming gullible American men.
People do dumb things when they’re drunk. She’s 19 and dumb. Talk to her sober and see what she says.
Run
Red flag one: 6 months in and you have a relationship with her kid? Talk about moving in together? I don’t think I’d introduce my kid until at least 6 months of things going super well.
Red flag two: into conspiracies. If you don’t share that view, run away.
Being with someone (especially one with a kid) just because you don’t want to be lonely is never a good plan. Try to find someone you fully enjoy being with, and not just because you would rather not be alone.
Saying you don’t have direction in life. ☠️
If you have to ask the answer is no.
My husband has to move in with me several months before we got married. Even shared a bed
Still waited until we were married
No regrets
Just because it wouldn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for anyone
Why in gods name did he schedule his wedding for anywhere near your graduation?!
I appreciate what you're saying. But I disagree with the idea that it was soured. Because we spoke about it. She had no reason as to why she didn't with me. I even said along the lines of. I get it if you i ly did it to please an ex. To which she said. It was never like that. She did it to please her.
Also. The time difference isn't years. It's months. From when she last had it. To us getting together, wasn't a big amount of time.
As I said to someone else. If we split up today. I'm certain at some point. Like most of us would. She would txt an ex for a bit of a confidence boost. No strings hook up. And she would do it with them. As she has before.
DUMP HIM, you DO KNOW it's not smart to go back.
Keeping your last names is okay. Y'all can both be married and have different last names. But if y'all plan on having children then the discussion y'all need to have is how the children will be named.
Why is that insane?
Girl. Why are you still with this man?
You are literally wasting your best years with him.
She’s either a prick teaser who loves the attention or she doesn’t give a shit about your feelings.
Talk to her again. If this behaviour is a deal breaker for you (and I agree it’s unacceptable to openly encourage someone she knows likes her) then you may have to break up.
You’re young. She’s immature. This is how you decide what you want from a partner and what you don’t for when you start looking seriously.
She may not be the one for you.
What exactly did he say or do while you were on the trip?
Isn’t anyone else concerned by the fact that she held on to these things? I’d be really upset about that if it were my partner
But she's accepted she isn't going to get better, I suspect that attitude is the issue for him.