Take the sugar for example. If she takes 10 packets every time she goes to get coffee but only uses 3 – 4 packets that means that she's bringing home 6 – 7 packets of sugar every time she had coffee.
Does she ever use those packets? Otherwise that's a whole lot of sugar being stashed.
Let's say she goes for coffee once a week for a year and that she uses 4 packets every time. That means that she brings home 6 packets of sugar every week.
There's 52 weeks in a year so that's a total of 312 packets of sugar taking up space just because “you never know if you might need them”. And that's just one year's worth.
The “just in case” mentality could be hoarding tendencies, having grown up poor or with parents who were poor, or a combination of both. Either way that can become a serious issue if you have a hot time letting go of things and not knowing when to stop.
I feel I did, he did apologize and we talked but that night he made advances on me so I'm not sure it really got through. I know I said it clearly. It's if he understood that I'm questioning.
u/Sunshine7080 isn't stepping out on her boyfriend. She may identify as poly but she's chosen to engage in a monogamous relationship and has not acted out on any attraction that she may feel towards someone else because she respects the boundaries that were clearly discussed and agreed for the relationship at the start. Her boyfriend is the one who chose to break those boundaries by attempting to solicit a sexual connection of some sort with someone else, without her knowledge or consent. I'm not seeing how that makes her the bad guy here?
For me they definitely are. I think the emotions (intense closeness, comfort, love, acceptance, etc.) that I feel with my current bf are what make it so great.
I'm a carpenter and I pay for vacations I invite my girlfriend on.
A carpenter.
Your boyfriend sounds like Dr Loser
The fact you had to jump on camera and smile about it? You need therapy.
You made the right call. That's some immature, insecure teenage bullshit.
Exactly. It really comes down to how much.
Take the sugar for example. If she takes 10 packets every time she goes to get coffee but only uses 3 – 4 packets that means that she's bringing home 6 – 7 packets of sugar every time she had coffee.
Does she ever use those packets? Otherwise that's a whole lot of sugar being stashed.
Let's say she goes for coffee once a week for a year and that she uses 4 packets every time. That means that she brings home 6 packets of sugar every week.
There's 52 weeks in a year so that's a total of 312 packets of sugar taking up space just because “you never know if you might need them”. And that's just one year's worth.
The “just in case” mentality could be hoarding tendencies, having grown up poor or with parents who were poor, or a combination of both. Either way that can become a serious issue if you have a hot time letting go of things and not knowing when to stop.
You are a person too. Your feelings matter too. And you deserve to voice what you are feeling in this situation.
I feel I did, he did apologize and we talked but that night he made advances on me so I'm not sure it really got through. I know I said it clearly. It's if he understood that I'm questioning.
u/Sunshine7080 isn't stepping out on her boyfriend. She may identify as poly but she's chosen to engage in a monogamous relationship and has not acted out on any attraction that she may feel towards someone else because she respects the boundaries that were clearly discussed and agreed for the relationship at the start. Her boyfriend is the one who chose to break those boundaries by attempting to solicit a sexual connection of some sort with someone else, without her knowledge or consent. I'm not seeing how that makes her the bad guy here?
For me they definitely are. I think the emotions (intense closeness, comfort, love, acceptance, etc.) that I feel with my current bf are what make it so great.