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IN NEW GIRL *SHOW SQUIRT* [237 tokens remaining]
Date: October 3, 2022
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IN NEW GIRL *SHOW SQUIRT* [237 tokens remaining]
No, everywhere it's an implied threat. Maybe in more privileged spaces like Reddit or white collar work spaces people won't react to the implied threat, but it is.
All of you? Statistically speaking, a lot of you don't get along at all. The only time you can seem to agree on anything is when it involves shitting on women. Which- great teamwork, I guess. I have a couple men in my life that are great people, and they all agree that the vast majority of men have really fucked up their own reputation. Sad, but not sad to the point where I'd bother helping or being specific about which men I like.
It's suspicious that he was genuinely contemplating leaving you for her and he purposefully didn't tell her he had a gf until after you knew. The whole “he'd never want to leave me” is clearly not true because he was literally making plans to do it, whether they were just in theory or not, he had the thought. If he loves you then why seriously contemplate leaving you for someone else? All the things he's saying contradict what his actual actions/motives were during the affair. Soooooo… personally I'd be out the door, I have 0 tolerance for cheating, but it's up to you if you think you could ever trust him again, you'd have to figure out ways he'd even be able to do that.
Your marriage is over.
Congratulations I'm so proud of you
Unfortunately, this is not a “misunderstanding.”
You are wilfully ignoring some very odd family dynamics both within his family and within your relationship. He left you over a disagreement about his brother when your daughter was 2. Yet, you continue to push this sore spot like a bruise. At the same time, he lacks the self-introspection to view his relationship with his brother critically.
Both of these – you insistence of pushing old sore spots and his inability to take a step back – probably manifest in countless other aspects of your relationship.
He thinks that his brother is misunderstood in this situation and that my judgements are unfair.
You need to unpack this issue a lot more closely, especially since your bf's own father seems to agree with you about the brother.
It's not about “best man” but about his relationship with his brother.
They’re jealous
No not SA, just an uneducated sex partner
People ask this all the time, but in my experience, it’s usually a way of letting someone down nicely (like, “I’ve had a great time getting to know you but I think we should just be friends”). If you do ask him to be friends, you’ll have to make it clear that it’s genuine and initiate the first friend hangout. I think it’s worth giving a shot, if he’s being weird and making it romantic you can easily call off/fade out the friendship later.
I'm 18. I've had one previous partner. That good enough for ya
Well white goes with most things so it's not an issue of coordination, but purple…not so much.
Lolololol 90/10 never seen someone articulate their nonsense with numbers like that, props to her for breaking it down lol now you should break it off.
You can do it, you’re strong enough to leave, he isn’t worth another day.
He thinks he is fundamentally better simply because he has a deformed y chromosome with no evidence. I have a hot time believing that, if you stay in this relationship, these views won't come out in more toxic ways. Of course you should set your job aside for me because I am male and smarter. Of course you should do most of the childcare, women are naturally better at that. I am not saying you need to break up, but I would definitely call this a big red flag.
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but if on the chance they were then separated people should not date people until they are sure about the divorce. It causes too much heartache on the single person.
Then the single person shouldn't date someone whonis not divorce even if they are separated. It's not as if you didn't know so don't play it aq if ir was just on him.
Also if the wife was ok with him dating you (no matter if rhey were separated or their marriage were open) he didn't cheat on her.
You made you own choices, you choose to date him even of he was still married, you choose to destroy his life when you thought they actually were not separated even if you're not sure, it seems you even find it funny with your comment “he is seen as crazy now lol.” You say je got karmz for his action, well you're getting yours too.
I have since moved on and now have a new boyfriend.
You may have moved on but his life was destroyed by you, even if you don't care and have no regret, well he obviously hasn't move on and wants you to regret. Why would he stop? His goal is likely to make your life as miserable as you made his. You should have thought of the consequences of doing what you did.
She only wants you now because she can't have you. Ghost her. Seriously.
Don't string them along. End it.
And none of that helps OP. You just made a list of normative ethical judgements of OP's boyfriend's behavior; I may even agree with most of it, but it doesn't matter, because OP is asking for advice, boyfriend is not asking for advice about changing his behavior, and he's the only one who can control that – not OP.
Definitely do the beard hairs. At the very least, piss under the toilet seat before you leave so when he lifts it to take a leak, he will hopefully notice the dried piss and realize “hey, ladies don't stand to pee! What the heck!”
Are you 10 to be so naive that you think a guy would actually tell his girl hey please don’t post about me. No guy unless he works for the gov or fbi would tell his girl hey babe please don’t post me. Ask your brother guy friends whatever
Great sec life as in he’s the only person that’s ever made me cum/squirt, and we have sex more than once or twice a week like a lot of other couples I know. His finger game is A1 lol
Well, not to worry. Everyone has a first time.
Absolutely get tested, along with him. I’d recommend condoms in addition to any other birth control you may decide to use. I would not recommend ditching condoms for a while. You guys need to get to know each other and find a comfortable trust level.
Yeah that’s a you problem. Have you considered therapy?
I wouldn't call it cheating, necessarily, but it IS disrespectful as balls
If you're living with someone who works full time it's okay for them to pay the rent.
My wife doesn't pay rent or mortgage. Doesn't mean she's leeching. Quite the opposite ….
Every relationship has unbalanced incomes. That's okay.
Nah, you trolling. You can't be this dumb. I refuse to accept it haha
They can both be bad it’s not that’s serious
I HAVE BPD AND I KNOW THE SYMPTOMS. LEARN TO FUCKING READ.
Girl, you're 22 and klhave known this man for 6 months. Where are you rushing
Marriage doesn’t make it more permanent, just messier. Seriously, you have a LOT of life experiences and adjusting/growing coming up over the next few years- 6 months may seem like a lot of time at your age, but when you compare it to how long I would think you plan on being married it’s like you’ve barely known each other.
right. not against prenups, theyre smart, but trying to fuck over your partner is cruel. it should be a conversation about what they want to happen in the event of a divorce just like a will is a conversation about what you want to happen after death. neither are scenarios you like thinking about or want to happen but theyre necessary documents. its usually a red flag to me when someone has an extreme reaction about even the idea of getting one, but in this case its justified
When money is tight and you are a sensible adult, the last thing you want is an expensive valentine's gift
Feel like it’s the age thing
Exactly! You are actually fortunate because your ex-girlfriend is an immature nutcase and you are better off without her. My suggestion is run the other direction. Someone who doesn't understand the obvious necessity to clean a disabled person so they are not uncomfortable is not worth your time.
on that same note, who tf gets turned on while they are actively wiping shit from a disabled persons butt. like nothing gets them more in the mood than the smell of rash powder and diapers. ffs she's so dumb
Lots of single mothers do this, and his job is remote, so he has a job many single parents would love having. Hopefully he lives in a country or state that has paternity leave and supportive family. If he really wants to be a parent, even if unplanned, he can totally step up and be a great single parent. He’ll probably get primary custody if he can document that his home is safe and stable and that his baby mama can’t keep a home very well.
The commenters are calling OP child in the context of a parent and child relationship.
Hilarious, no they aren’t and you’re fully aware of it. When you’re ready to stop being disingenuous let me know.
She claims to have all the love languages. It is a deal breaker but it isn’t. I’m aware that I am very young and dealing with young love, I can see myself being with her long term. She has changed other things to accommodate me so I am hoping she will change with time. I also do not know if these certain issues will change with time. Say she gets pregnant, she wants to be a stay at home mom. I won’t be able to drive everywhere and I can’t be the only one giving love to a child and a life partner. If the issue is short term I can deal with it but I won’t be able to long term. I also don’t know where the turning point of it being detrimental would be without my feelings clouding my judgement.
I know making it work isn’t a viable option anymore, it wasn’t ever but I chose not to see it. I knew it was the wrong choice but I held out hope for some reason. As you may see the chances I have to give have run out. Purely I’m looking for ways to make it an easier process to follow through and get it done as me clearly being an attached person. I hate giving up on anything and relationships being no different. Anything in life I have a hot time giving up and it can be a strength and a downfall. How do I get past that hurdle. I’m trying here brother
Even if the brother gifted the house to her parents and it was in their name at the time of their death, OP still would not get half the value of the house. There is likely a mortgage that would need to be paid off before any assets were distributed.
My guess is that her parents had little to no assets and OP’s brother was footing the bill for their retirement by paying for their housing.
When someone is depressed they aren’t capable of doing much. Reading that you have anxious attachment style makes me think you may be asked too much. But, if it’s depression he needs to be treated like he would with any other illness. If he’s just a bit down, then he is still spending time with you and that alone shows he cares.
Is she still breastfeeding or did she recently stop? While I was breastfeeding I was not at all turned on by boob play. When I stopped, things went back to normal.
I do think you guys should do counseling though. 4 times in a kid’s first year is a bit rough but not insurmountable. Not feeling like the boobs are sexual in the first year where there was some scar tissue around breastfeeding seems not abnormal either. But both of you seem to have adopted this sort of “never again” mentality instead of a “the first year with a new baby is rough” mentality which seems potentially damaging for your relationship.
Lol these comments, the guys are all saying who cares and the women are all saying hell no.
If this is the first time he's said something like this to you and it's out of character, just keep an eye on his behaviour. We all have weird dreams, but he should have filtered himself and never talked about that. Just watch for any other strange behaviour because you never know at that age – could be something like early onset Alzheimer's.
Yeah look, I’m quite a bit older, I share hugs and have had other women fall asleep on my shoulder before and my partner doesn’t flip her lid.
This seems like it’s coming from an insecure place. This chick was a total random who you felt bad for, you didn’t catch feels from her sleeping on your shoulder, you’re not going to run off with her. To me it sounds like your partner is insecure or hates other women.
Now of the situation was different, like it was your ex or something I’d say your partner has the right to be upset, but if what you say is true than I’d say she has over reacted and this problem unless addressed by her will only resurface until you get the shits and leave.
How much debit that these “boundary” posts are always just thinly-veiled excuses for controlling an SO’s behavior?
Chrisean Rock has 24 hours to respond.
I think I just read your bfs view of this story but some details are altered. Did you cut communication with him and ask for some space to think things over? Anyway, if it is him then he is also not looking good in his post…
Sounds like a solid plan: trust him, but stay vigilant in case your trust is misplaced. Have a talk with him to see if he knows more about the situation than he let out at first, and after that stay put in case either he does something sketchy or that stranger contacts you again.
… the worst part is he seems to think he's innocent? Why would he think that
I'm ugly so my wife doesn't need to worry about this.
Lol.
In all seriousness get counseling if you feel this is something you can handle. You will always wonder what he's doing, who he's talking to, where he's going. It will be really hot and it will destroy you
I have experience here being on your end. It's not the end of the world for you even though it feels like it.
Add “magnetically irresistible to former companions” as a skill and just leave it there for a few days
She’s not unreasonable.. befriending a young attractive girl gives creepy vibes to me. I 100% would have an issue with this. Makes me wonder when my SO will get in an accident and fall in her vagina. However only you can decide if you want to respect your SOs feelings or completely ignore them. If you do ignore this, than maybe your not compatible.
Why not leave him now? 6 years is a loooong time!
Different story, but my mother always said she stayed with our sperm donour “for the kids”! Yet she's still with him and they're in their 60s/70s now. Their case is different as my mother has no spine and is an enabler narc!
Back to you: you're fed up with this man, it'll be 6 years of having to do everything for him and creating a more poisonous atmosphere! Defo save yourself the trouble and make preparations to divorce him now.
Best of Luck
Absolutely agree, and the seatbelt cutter worked great!
If she ideologically believes in equality, she could’ve reasoned out of this toxic attitude. If she has no real underlying principles behind this attitude, then it’s probably a lost cause.
Why do he treat me like a child?
Because he doesn't respect you.
Yea I went through his laptop and he was annoyed
she suggested I reason with my girlfriend, but my gf literally has an answer for everything, she's become some kind of expert in this strange philosophy.
You're done.
My brethren. You are NOT QUALIFIED to fix what is broken here. If you continue to stay then you will fail miserably and disrespect yourself in the process. Training is needed to deal with the level of insecure and fucked up your gf is. Also, you have no experience with a person that is in the state that she is in so your inexperienced ass is definitely worsening her condition. You are not a therapist or a psychologist, you've not even been in a relationship before so i doubt you understand even how to manage or aid such heavy projections. Do the both of you a favor and leave that situation. Anything opposite of leaving is sabotage. Please don't be stupid. She needs professional help.
UK moment
But I'm not being asked all the time about that. My behavior is not relevant to the story. Also they see the signs that I am on my period. I look like i am pregnant when I am before. So they also know that. They're not stupid and they never mentioned my period before. Only this one time that I wrote about. I told them “I can't, I am on my period” they said nothing. Then this situation happened months after I mentioned my period. This is why I said to you that this is about me, not every woman. Nobody ever gave me crap about being hormonal on my period until you. I even got a t-shirt that says “I'm hormonal and what you're gonna do about that?” It was a gift from a friend. All in good spirit. No idea why you're so snappy about this.
The fact that she has seen what this has done to you and is still pursuing it tells me everything I need to know. If you love someone you don't continue to pursue something that is clearly hurting them.
Age has nothing to do with it. Im the same age as them and i dont get wasted or do acid, and neither do most people. Likewise there are people in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s who do similar irresponsible behavior.
I think focusing on the cost is a defense mechanism. She’s searching for a way that things can be okay or not as bad as they seem. She’ll snap out of that with time.
So let him leave? It sounds like he is very intentionally trying to baby trap you
Tell him that British English came first and American English is a rip-off of it, which means The Queen's English is the superior of the two. ?
Yes you should absolutely dump him. The fact that you came here to reassure yourself over breaking up should tell you that you're ready to leave this piece of trash behind.
You deserve better than someone who's willing to disrespect you and not even defend you.
It does erode trust and causes real pain. Especially when she was sharing something vulnerable and scary. She just learned that he won’t handle it well. That her feelings aren’t safe with him. That’s a big deal. He can be upset without deeply cutting his partner.
You need to tell her how you feel and how her revelation was hurtful to you. Tell her how important having kids is to her. You guys have time to figure this out. Meanwhile, apologize to her about your hurtful words. Is she her mother? Hell no she clearly isn’t. It’s not the wine that called her her mother. It was you, and that is a BIG no no if you want your relationship to be without unnecessary drama and hurt. Never ever ever call each other your parents…EVER!!!! That’s hurtful by design.
I mean my partner and I think it’s hilarious, neither of us would be particularly bothered. But we’re not you. Only you can decide what you’re okay with. Sounds like she wasn’t trying to hide it, maybe she thought it was harmless. Talk to her about your feelings and if you’re not okay with it, see how she responds.
She gets to fantasize about whatever the fuck the she wants when she wants you fuckin weirdo.
Yeah you where a dick, but kids or no kids is a talk you need to have calmly. I wanted kids but my ex did not. at the time he said he wanted what I wanted 10 years later divorced and no kids. It still really angers me that I wasted 10 years of my life with someone that didn’t want the same thing as me, but said they did. Maybe he was hoping if we kept putting it off as “it’s not a good time.” That I would simply give up.
This, except find out if he’s single first. Ask around.
God say get your s*** back then block them
Please explain the humour in rape and pedophilia
This is easily the most off kilter advice/response I’ve ever seen on this sub. Like holy shit.
First, I’m sorry this happened. It terrible. Pets are family.
A) your husband sucks. B) stop blaming the co-worker C) you have an unhealthy relationship with the cat, and it will make many relationships difficult, not just this one. It’s not your dads soul. Or your dad at all. It’s a cat. (Sounds like a cool one, but still) And if this is really still a crutch, consider professional help.