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That sounds probably one of the most reasonable if not the most reasonable actually. Good on you
I hate the idea of my son being the only child to separated parents.
OK, so what work are you willing to put in with your partner in order to stay together? What counselling and tough conversations are you prepared to have, what EFFORT are you willing to put in? What effort is SHE willing to put in? There is literally nothing in your post about what work or effort either of you is doing here.
Exactly, that is horrible Brittney Spears level control thinking there, she is a 22 year old adult, not a child. I mean the hyperbolic calling her a monster? I agree cat fishing is ethically wrong, but it’s hardly monster level evil jeez, especially when it seems motivated by wanting to talk and be close to a brother who has shut everyone out. Still very wrong and she needs to stop.
interesting username.
Lots of things make me uncomfortable. It's nearly always my issue to deal with.
Thus is something to discuss with a therapist and your doctor, not reddit. And just so you know, the grass is only greener because they water it with instagram filters and botax.
He doesn’t want to be with you
He needs to leave and find someone on his level And hopefully she can too
There wasnt much dust. And the design of the panties were not around 4 years ago
He’s drawing the picture of you while thinking he has a chance and you know this. Tell him you only see him as a friend and are not attracted to him in that way.
This sounds like borderline abuse.
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Honestly, anyone with such different views about animals would be an instant deal breaker. If he cant recognise theyre family and treat them as such, I dont know if its a good idea at all to move in with him
You can't force him into a relationship with you that's for sure. But you can move forward and work on yourself. Don't let the situation controls you, instead take control of it. But if you feel like things are going out of control, take the necessary action, cut him off.
Yeah I understand maybe 6 months or even a year of her being pissed but if everyone else is happy and moved on she needs to really move on too. Would she go on a couples trip with them just to maybe get to know her or even a girls trip with her and some mutual girlfriends maybe.
Things don't have to be firsts to be special 🙂
For real! I would have shoved him in the dress at that point.
Did you try the dress on with a regular bra to show him how stupid it looks?
Unfortunately this seems like the common case of a guy doing his all to date the woman he’s attracted to, and then not caring once he finally got you. Also, him apologizing and not changing his behavior is manipulative in my opinion. If you really like this person I’d try to have one final talk with him, to see if the spark will come back. If his actions still don’t meet your needs then it’s up to you to decide if you want so deal with this lack of affection for the long run.
Ok so all you really can do is apologize the one time, say you wont do it anymore, and move on from there. Just work on proving that you mean that your sorry and show your not gonna do it anymore
I'm very sorry about your pup. Losing a pet sucks. I lost a pup myself not too long ago. Time makes it easier.
Your girlfriend is cold and insensitive about your loss. I'd have to rethink a relationship if someone said that to me.
I do think you will get further if you talk to someone professional.
But something you write about is control. You could perhaps explore that a bit. Is control just about deciding when to have sex and not? Or do you feel more sexual when you are in control during sex or perhaps when he is in control?
The most common way of working with sex in couple therapy is to start from zero and gradually increase sexual contact over weeks or months to create a space where both partners can reflect and feel without beeing pressured or hopeful. That would perhaps make it possible for you to find yourself while making the plan clearer for your bf.
Another reflection is that it's quite common, particularly amongst women, to have reactive arousal. That means that you get aroused because your partner is aroused or because he makes you aroused. If you say no to early in the process, you might never come to that stage.
Imagine the provocative photo in the middle of the night is in no way tied to the occasion, where she was catching up with some friends, and it had to moved to someone house from the restaurant. Such things do happen. It sure can be coincidence.
It comes to the quesrion if you really trust her, not if you want to trust her.
For me it's unusuall to want to marry someone after only one year. One year, for me, is time to start talking about moving in together.
Let me twist your question around.
Is it fair to stay with someone you really don’t want to be with? Is it fair to them? when they could be out looking for someone who actually wants to be with them?
The relationship is prett3new and it's best to wait.
Best solution there
Google “rupture and repair in relationships.” It’s a critical skill for close relationships to thrive. However, many people are taught to not speak up, or to not express hurt or anger, and to go along to get along. So when someone is upset they resent it because they probably put up with stuff that they’re mad about, or they’re not use to someone being upset with them so it feels hurtful to them rather than them recognize they’re the ones who caused hurt.
The solution is to learn to share hurt more often, and when it’s small, so it doesn’t get too big so that people arent overwhelmed by the hurt they caused and are more able to fix it. Also google how to turn complaints into requests, so even when you do speak up you say it in a way that encourages negotiation and cooperation, rather than aher and hurt. I’d start there, see if it helps.
I hope you’ll be willing to go with her, improve your physical self as well and not just put it all on her.
You marry for the heart, not the looks and for you to say it’s a turn off, is your opinion yes, it’s just kinda shitty. I’m sure her doctor would tell her when it’s impacting her health.
Tbh I’ve never sent nudes anyways to anyone other than my hubby so I knew that was a false claim. But the hacking into my phones camera and recording me was freaking me out. ? I did end up sending an email back saying something insulting like “ you’re only creeping on other girls bc you can’t get one irl “
I’m glad it was fake as well!
Honestly, if you mutually work on a relationship (excluding abusive ones) and it doesn't work out, you've learned a whole heap of important lessons that will help you in future. It's all work on yourself and basically good relationships with occasional issues are the goal, not inadequate.
Bottom line is that you don't need to have a logical or unassailable reason not to be with someone. If being around him makes you cringe or feel embarrassed, maybe he's not the guy for you and you're not the girl for him.
This is a very hot issue to usefully give feedback on, or where you could reasonably expect him to change. It may just be him, and you can take or leave what he is. It's only been 4 months.
Never tell someone what NOT to buy, they will buy exactly that.
I told my family not to buy Dell, they bought dell. I said “don't buy me an iPod”, they bought me an iPod.
People do this stupid fucking thing where they interpret “don't” as “Secretly I like that”
You said “don't buy me a stand mixer” and your BF heard “BUY ME THIS OTHER STUPID FUCKING MYSTERY”
Seriously, could you vague it up a little? What the fuck did he buy?
Totally agree!
This is it. I was going to say something similar, especially regarding how OP shouldn’t be his secret.
I've only ever heard the term wingman used to mean someone who helps another person in social situations, often to find dates or ONS.
yeah those are just words, said in thousands of relationships around the world every day. you said it herself she made it very clear that nothing was going to happen when she had the chance to make something happen between the two of you.
best of luck, hope everything works out for you
It’s totally normal
Dad has been incredibly generous,, giving you and hubby a place to stay in the past. So, clearly this is not simply a mean man.
He feels disrespected because his daughter married a man who only worked weekends and couldn't adequately support her and baby plus he's talking ish to her father. I understand dad's disappointment. (I hope your husband is working full time now).
While I do think both men should move forward and try to get along, I think dad sees asking to be in the house as another issue of respect (since hubby didn't show proper respect for living there in the past. You don't insult your host FIL who is financing your existence). If someone has to budge, I would say hubby should ask to attend and ask that they move past their ire once and for all.
Children having children
You say you know she doesn't want to go out with her. Confessing your feelings is just going to make it weird. Really weird. I'm sure you're a teenager and you really want to get this out, but don't. You're going to want to say and do a lot of things in your life, like tell your boss or teacher or parent how you really feel about them. Start praticing the art of tact. Now.
My (28m) girlfriend (30f) of 2 years just attacked me for the 3rd time.
Don't let it get to a 4th time.
Time to move on. By staying, you send a message that it isn't a dealbreaker.
Run
Split up, but ensure her you will take care of the baby if it's your's. Let her know you don't, trust her, so you have no other choice. Without a DNA test now, this is the best you can do for her.
Trust your gut. Way too many red flags here to let her try to hang onto you hoping once you see the baby, you will change your mind on the DNA test, which I assume she is hoping for.
OP cheating is always a decision. She decied to do it. If she truly loved you, she would never think of doing such a thing.
You’re still young and have good oppurtunity to find somebody who can give you their 100%. My grandparents stayed together even after my gma found out about gpa’s multiple cheating. But after finding out more I realized I’ve never seen them hug, kiss, snuggle…. They were just with eachother like roommates. Gma never forgave him. And the people who stayed together might aswell have strong trust issues or might not be fully happy.
Couples counseling is needed more before some tragedy, not after the tragedy. It’s for couples to help keep the love they have/had. She does not has that towards you and thats why she cheated
I just checked the archive to see if they were right. Yep, he said 15 yesterday.
I suffered a terrible skateboarding accident at 15 that unfortunately left me 100% sterile. Like the parts responsible for baby batter got removed and replaced with prosthetics so there’s no chance this is my kid.
Doesn’t matter. She still said no. Break up with her or drop it
Did you read it right? Because it is 13/1000 Women over 5 years.
And OP can always get tested to make sure her tubes have not re-attached if she is really that worried. Then she could have 100% certainty.
Yeah I wasn’t planning on giving her all the details unless she asked, just feel like I’d rather she knows now then finds out in 4 or so months that I was so recently out of something when we met. I like the way you’ve layer that out though, thank you that’s helped
Because she’s not their grandmother, I guess? I don’t know how to respond to this. Also, I don’t “love” her in the way that she expresses, so I need advice as to how to respond when she says it in person. I don’t want to lie, but I’m just not close with her. At all. I appreciate you responding so quickly but it does feel a little rude when it’s not helpful.
if a woman posted this everyone would be telling her that she was sexually assaulted
No they would not. I’ve seen those posts on here plenty of times and it’s very similar to responses on this post — a mix of people telling the OP that alcohol isn’t an excuse for cheating and people bringing up the possibility of sexual assault. Especially given that in this case the partner chose to drink alone with their coworker then chose to go back to their place and keep drinking, I can guarantee that even if the genders were reversed there would be many people telling the OP that she cheated and not to forgive her. I hate when people use the “if the genders are reversed everyone would agree this was assault!!” — as if women are always believed and never accused of lying?
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due to holidays and literally life, she was probably just busy. i know i can’t make random plans in a week most weeks because of work or school.
either way, ur text did end things (i would not respond to that message if i was her) and was passive aggressive. if u want to spend time with someone who is busy, ask them what works for them and be patient.
The only reason a person would start feeling weird by something like this is if that person was incapable of making and accepting their own decisions without receiving positive validation from others.
It's like picking apart your BMW because everyone else has a Mercedes. Kinda stupid.
We don't have a HR department. Even if we did I don't want to cause any trouble for him since I consider him my friend. Lonely and misguided but still a friend. I don't want to hurt him.
Show it to me then? Cause nowhere did I find a conclusive x amount of crying a week = depression 100%. And it’s really weird how you speak about a therapist, almost sounds degrading. We’re hearing a one sided story here now. Might be that her crying is excessive but not to the point OP describes it. I do agree there is something deeper going on but not solely with her alone.
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It isn’t hard for women to shower at night. lol! Most women I know shower at night. I personally take a quick “wake up” shower in the morning & have my long showers in the evening, after I’m in for the day. This shower is longer because I wash my hair (2x week), exfoliate, shave, etc. There’s no way I’m getting all that done in the morning because it takes my hair an eternity to dry + I’m usually rushing. When I need to wash my hair, I just take my evening shower a little earlier so my hair will have time to dry – there’s no reason for the shower to be right before bed if I’m in for the night. And, I sleep with a silk/satin scarf so that my hair doesn’t get on my pillow/face or get tangled while sleeping. I know many women who have similar routines. It’s not hot at all.
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“He went to take a bath alone” Um, do you normally keep him company?
Has he completely forgotten what the clitoris is or?
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I’m sorry that happened, but it’s in the past. She’s trying to make things better for you by going to a different gym. Give things a try again at your old gym. You never know how you’ll really feel unless you try it
Idk I'd rather find the comfiest looking chair or pile of pillows on the floor than a bathtub but that's just me. Or just sleep in the bed, but reverse directions (like so each person's head is on the opposite side) and have separate blankets. I feel like that might be the optimal comfort while keeping it platonic solution.
Ultimately it is your choice whether or not to tell your BF. He’d probably never know otherwise. The fact that you are asking here means you feel some amount of guilt
I keep telling my wife that cats are sneaky like that.
Broooo.
She left a relationship of half a year because you accidentally blurted something out while cumming?!?
She doesn't deserve to be Mommy
Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. This is tricky in the sense that we are not talking about matched desire, but her wanting to be 'purer' in her views with God. If she is the one for you try to wait, maybe there are other things you can do that aren't intercourse to hold you over.
That said looking at the long term, do you want kids to have a conservative Christian world view? Pretty sure she will.
I would eat the cost. Having respect for my partner is way more important than a trip with my ex.
She was also drunk, he was making comments and she was smiling the whole time they were there. And that's if said coworker doesn't tell anyone else in his circle about her “standing him up”
You guys are dating if you’re going out on dates.
And again the person I was replying to was not OP
OP didn't make this suggestion, the other commenter did
And I never said she's the problem, in fact the very first thing I said was that he is a dumb dumb
And who is “you people”?
The story never changed. You just can't read. I said this happened three times. One time I was able to give him proof because he asks for it everytime. This time, This time with a different movie: I just said he was right. But it still resulted in being ignored all day.
Definitely , 2xMoron
Actually his dad did cheat on his son because time spent with his AP could have been time spent with his son.
People in affairs are usually distant from their family’s.
Unlikely. If shes concerned she should take a pregnancy test and consider additional birth control
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I used facial hair and not shaving as well for idiots who are gonna nitpick what I said, you don't even know what bf did
Very true, and he does have 1 ex that is on the creepy stalky side of things but after the first 6 months of dating him that settled down so it’s weird that this would happen now after two years
I’m a dancer, so I see no harm in the strip club obviously because I work there. But I do see a problem with him complaining about your spending habits when he himself is clearly irresponsible with money. Please Don’t let the fact that he went to the club make you feel insecure!. But let’s be for real… what country was he is? Because most foreign strip clubs are more like brothels than a dance club… $450 is a VIP room.. not just a dance. Unless he took out $450 ones to throw.. it’s highly unlikely he got “just a dance”
Sounds like it. Break ip now in amiable terms. It seems like you’ll spiral into destroying it yourself if you stay. So, break up now to save the relationship, her, and yourself.
Yeah I would be more comfortable with that arrangement. She told me that she has changed her view on something during the years, that she dont want me to tell her if I cheat on her to protect the family. And also questioned if I really wanted to know if she developed feelings for someone else. I was clear about that I wanted to know everything about both feelings and cheating. Would you think the same? This was during a talk about infidelity in general and not very related to this topic, but it was catalyst for that conversation for sure.
how would i end it if she doesnt answer my texts? shes been leaving me on read but gets mad when i dont text her
I never used a condom with my ex, but now have to use one and it takes practice to get used to
Your sister has to choose. You’re not going to make grown adults with this kind of history do whatever they or you want. It’s down to her to make a choice and live! with the consequences.
Please don’t stay in this situation. This is a road map to abuse.
Yeah, this is done, OP. She's gone. You two are no longer compatible.
Besides, think about this: if she's this easily swayed by some low-grade tik-tok videos, what does that tell you about her stability as a partner? It means that you wouldn't be able to count on her if things in life get rough. She can be easily talked into/out of things. You need a solid rock, not someone wishy-washy. Most likely, this is all for the best.
Is that even possible? I just got divorced myself, and although I decided to go back to my maiden name (bc my children are grown and I don't want to be associated with it), I seriously doubt he could enforce something like that. Sounds like the BF is an ass.
Wait, he chested on you and is asking you for closure? You don't owe him anything. Don't meet up with him. He's just using you for his own fucking ego. Go on a date with your husband instead.
I’ve rarely heard of a 1 bedroom house? Condos yes but an actual house usually has At least 2 bedrooms.
Bro. I know you don’t want to ruin the relationship, BUT SHE ALREADY FUCKING RUINED IT. leave her if you have any respect for yourself. So you really plan to keep her as your gf for many years knowing she is a liar and delete something out of respect for you, she has no respect for you. Drop her right now. You don’t want a girl like that in your life becoming your wife.
There is nothing to ruin. She ruined it becasue she isn’t good enough for you
I also don’t like the way my vagina looks though. He isn’t the first guy to say something to me. So it’s kind of always been something I’m insecure about. He didn’t make me insecure about it
How many times have they laid viable eggs before?
Your own mental health comes first and that should be your partner’s first priority. To make sure you are happy and feeling okay. Always choose yourself FIRST! If all he is doing is just adding more stress then its just not meant to be.
Honestly I never truly overcame it. I accepted it. I knew that moving to be with my partner was better for me. I knew that I would miss my safespace and everyone I knew back home, but that moving to a different country would be better. At the end I never regretted moving and i’m even happier here then I was back home.
If you want to move back home then honestly go! You tried living in the city and it ain’t it for you.
Let her know what you are dealing with and see what choice she makes based on your feeling. This will tell you where you stand with her.
The longer this goes on the harder it will be for the both of you
It's not worth teaching someone basic respect in relationships certainly not someone who gets pissy about it. Find someone who actually wants to respect your very normal boundaries in a relationship
I mean, TBH the things my other guy friends have told me always revolve around making their relationships better. The M31 male case is the only case that is different from the rest. The rest openly tells me about their lover's identity and their lovers know me, although we're not close. But they're welcomed to read my text messages with them, and they have no issue with their lover reading the messages between us.
While I do fully agree with you for some cases, I do think that there are friendships that doesn't fall into that category.
What advice do you really want here?
It’s clear that neither of you respect eachother because you both cheated on ONE ANOTHER. Like wtf? I don’t understand how people don’t have enough self respect and self worth to walk away from someone who cheated on them. The disrespect??? It truly blows my mind.
Plus she waited 3 YEARS to tell you. 3 YEARS?!!! – If I were you I could never trust her again. God knows what else she’s been hiding from you.
Please OP, ask yourself what YOU really want here? At the end of the day you decide. I know it hurts, but it seems like you guys are not good for one another.
You can love someone but realize it’s no longer working out anymore. And that’s okay. You can Love them from a distance. You are SO young. You’ll meet so many other people who will treat you with respect.
They did this in a situation where they could rather easily be caught. And your sister hasn't even reached out to you.
Definitely a good thing to consider. It sounds like the actions of someone who is either completely unaware of what they're doing or is mistaking someone for someone else
I just…Have a gut feeling that this absolutely was not the first time that something happened between them.
wait what?
How in the heck could he not judge you you’re his partner and you’re breaking his heart and destroying your relationship how she’s not supposed to judge that that’s unreasonable
but it isn't going to help if everybody knows what I did.
You've given her plenty of reason to think that you're a creeper that wants to fuck their friends. Her telling people is warning them of the kind of person you are. It sucks for you, but overall it's good for everyone she tells so that they know what kind of person you are.
Excuse me, but you are replying to the wrong commenter here. I am not O.P.
If you want another kid, then you are going to have to leave him.
Neither of you are wrong wanting what you do regarding kids, but the incompatibility means that one of you is always going to resent the other, you for not having another child, or him if you manage to ‘convince’ him to have another.
And do not try to get pregnant by deception (going off your pill, removing your iud, poking holes in the condoms etc) as all that will do is make you a single parent to 2 children, and have your name slammed around your family and friends as someone who assaults their partner to get pregnant.
All I'll say as someone also with their partner for 10+ years, was that despite my belief that communication was the salve that healed all wounds – some topics are just outside of our wheelhouse to have a discussion on without hurting the person we're talking to.
I was going through a depressive episode during my wife's second pregnancy in 2019. Shit was not good professionally and I was unable to function in the roles I was trying to perform as a father, a husband, and a home owner.
And while she was forming this special bond with our son, I just couldn't actualize that we were going to have another child. I couldn't get psyched up for it, and it didn't seem like it was really happening.
And I couldn't explain why, or how exactly it was affecting me but I was distraught.
So I tried to talk to my wife about it, and I hurt her.
I know NOW since going into therapy and such that I was just in survival mode. Moving from crisis to crisis. Failure to Failure. Trying to keep everything afloat, there was no certain future for me.
But that's not what I said.
I said I didn't feel like I could get excited, because it was very hot to actualize our son.
And my wife broke down. She took it as a rejection of her, and our second child. She wasn't in a place to process what I was saying any more than I was in a place to be eloquent and patient about how I tried to explain myself.
And it caused pain. It caused harm.
Harm I couldn't handle causing to a person I loved. It was MY personal problem but she'd taken it and made it an attack on her personally.
Back to you.
You've admitted that you're both in survival mode IMO. That stress has you both thinking about anything other than yourselves, but you're trying to help each other.
He's been pushy, trying to help you and keep you open and right. Almost controlling in how he drags you into doing shit he thinks is best for you.
And at the same time he's freaking out. He can't take his own advice. He's terrified he's not good enough.
It's 2023.
It's okay to be angry and resentful for him walking one road with you and another road for himself.
But it's also okay to empathize with someone we love being afraid.
Because ultimately he wasn't afraid for his ego.
He was afraid of losing you. Hurting you. Making your own stresses and feelings worse.
It's the wrong move – but there are times when Fear of losing the ones we love make dishonesty look preferable to increasing that risk by even a percent.
Because you mean so much to each other.
I mean they've been together 5 years.
You're being quite dishonest here.
I would not let any man talk to me or do me that way… he wold be an ex partner..
Except the correct parallel would be he's not enjoying sex with his fiance, and he's being told it'll be better once they're married, in which case I would absolutely suggest to go and have a look and know what you could be letting yourself in for.
Yes, those subreddits need to come with a health warning, but when you can see hundreds of stories of normal people who seriously regret a fundamental part of their life and it breaks relationships and lifestyles.
I think one of the reasons these places need to be visible, is that the absolute cultural zeitgeist is to have kids, that sex shouldn't 'supersede' a relationship, that you're a man or a woman (and your gender is based on your sex). Sometimes you need to explore and hear from the other, very marginalised/quietened viewpoint.
I'd be absolutely shattered if my partner said that I was a manipulator like my mother, especially after she said something that has probably been heavy on her mind for awhile but was waiting for the right time to tell you. I assume that since you said her mother was a manipulator and a terrible woman, you have expressed to your fiancee how much you dislike her mom. Now, after opening up and being vulnerable about something she was probably scared to tell you, you lash out and tell her that she is just like the person that neither of you don't like. Now she is faced with, 1) if she sticks to her opinion about not wanting kids, you will dislike her as much as you dislike her mother and 2) she has to change her mind for you to not think she is like her mother, who probably manipulated her as she was growing up, which is basically you manipulating her to change her mind about wanting kids. Just my opinion of course, but as someone who grew up with a manipulative mother, this is what would be running through my head.
This is 100% true. I got divorced at 44 and my gyno urged me to get Gardasil. I finished the series at 45.5.
Please don’t help her with anything wedding related anymore. I wouldn’t even entertain her talking about it with me anymore. That’s fucked up! I would rethink this friendship if I were you tbh.
You are totally just a wallet to her.
$1100 is pretty steep to learn this lesson, but to be fair, it sounds like the lesson has been trying to teach you for a while, and you’ve been just ignoring it.
I think this is the wrong sub. You might be looking for /r/offmychest
Honestly, the only thing I can think of was this was some sort of cum = syrup joke? Maybe I'm just getting old but I genuinely cannot imagine being upset by this comment, it just seems silly.
Honestly, the only thing I can think of was this was some sort of cum = syrup joke? Maybe I'm just getting old but I genuinely cannot imagine being upset by this comment, it just seems silly.
If she is borderline and dealing with those sorts of issues, and managing it/self medicating with cocaine, you should leave her, to be honest… you sound like a toxic person, unfortunately, especially for her and the type of person she sounds like. Being toxic and incompatible in that way will just fuel the symptoms of her borderline and make her use more, if not more drugs.
She is 31 you are 20, I don't know why you guys are together with that age gap, but you are too young for her also imo… you are just both completely different in regards to mental maturity and development. You want to mess around while she might want to find a more serious relationship and hopefully ideally get off the drugs and try to settle down… you aren't healthy for her. Break up and move on. Don't be the person to cause so much issue in someones life. Maybe they feel desperate for a relationship but they need to find someone and something better for their own sake. And she isn't compatible or good for you either. End it.
Girl ew. You know you aren‘t a prisoner and can do whatever you want?
As soon as a guy tries to „compromise“ about what I wear, it‘s over for me. Super controlling for no reason. It also shows his views on women and this disgusts me.
Dump him.
Is it possible for him to find a job in todays environment?
My wife’s a stay at home mom by mutual choice, so I don’t have an issue with one parent being stay at home. But, you didn’t mention any other contributions that he’s been making to the relationship, which may or not bring value. If he’s just sitting around, I would NOT consider purchasing a home or having children with him. If he’s doing all the stuff around the house, including meals to support you, then that’s something enviable and your dealing with a role reversal of the stereotypical marriage roles.
You bring up valid concerns that your husband needs to think about and help address. Therapy can help provide that third party analysis to share each persons point of view.
Personally, if you’re going to want to finish school, then he should consider stepping up job wise until you complete and then you can think about kids after you find employment with good benefits. Some companies will pay you full salary while you’re out with a newborn, so that can help cover you after birth.
She spends 8 hours a day, 5 days a week on those tasks?