OP needs to put an ultimatum on her husband and confront him about his behavior, not in a rude, demanding way, give him a time frame to see the changes that both agreed to, is nothing changes, time to move on.
At first, I would be upset but it's for reasons that didn't you choose, so I would respect that and understand. I would rather someone tell me they need to take time for themselves and heal mentally than just drop off the face of the Earth or reply with short text messages.
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Sweetie. Internet mom here. I know how much this hurts. We all do. You’re not going to miss him forever. That’s a promise. You do need to get some help for your depression. You will go on to find another love. A better love. You really will. But now you need to address your depression.
You read a journal that apparently was left out where you could easily find it, next to other journals.
You've got no reason to feel bad. If they were private/sensitive they should have been locked up.
You're young. I'd drop this relationship like a naked rock and look for a woman that doesn't have a habit of sleeping with old boyfriends while they are seeing you.
What you could do differently is leave. This is an emotionally violent man who doesn’t give a shit about how his actions and behaviours hurt you. I’m guessing there’s a very good reason your family doesn’t like this guy. Why are you settling for someone so horrible?
You need to just leave him. He can't pull you back in if you don't let him. His comment about not wanting another man to have you is concerning. That sounds possessive.
Remember that having this baby means you're tied to him forever. He will always be your child's Father. Hopefully you can co-parent well together. Make sure everything is done through the courts and only use a court approved parenting app. All texts are about your child only.
Also be prepared that he could walk away and you're raising your child alone. If you don't like either of these options, then you can terminate your pregnancy or look into adoption. He has rights and can say no to adoption though.
I know an 8 year old who knows more about women than OP's boyfriend
OP needs to put an ultimatum on her husband and confront him about his behavior, not in a rude, demanding way, give him a time frame to see the changes that both agreed to, is nothing changes, time to move on.
At first, I would be upset but it's for reasons that didn't you choose, so I would respect that and understand. I would rather someone tell me they need to take time for themselves and heal mentally than just drop off the face of the Earth or reply with short text messages.
Best of luck with your mental health! 🙂
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Your boyfriend is disgusting! Apologize to your parents for bringing a low-class goon to dinner.
Sweetie. Internet mom here. I know how much this hurts. We all do. You’re not going to miss him forever. That’s a promise. You do need to get some help for your depression. You will go on to find another love. A better love. You really will. But now you need to address your depression.
I like the house lit up and window shades open.
Exactly!! Finally someone gets it.
I'm a guy (not that it makes a difference), but I did not sign up to online in darkness.
stop projecting onto op
You read a journal that apparently was left out where you could easily find it, next to other journals.
You've got no reason to feel bad. If they were private/sensitive they should have been locked up.
You're young. I'd drop this relationship like a naked rock and look for a woman that doesn't have a habit of sleeping with old boyfriends while they are seeing you.
What you could do differently is leave. This is an emotionally violent man who doesn’t give a shit about how his actions and behaviours hurt you. I’m guessing there’s a very good reason your family doesn’t like this guy. Why are you settling for someone so horrible?
You need to just leave him. He can't pull you back in if you don't let him. His comment about not wanting another man to have you is concerning. That sounds possessive.
Remember that having this baby means you're tied to him forever. He will always be your child's Father. Hopefully you can co-parent well together. Make sure everything is done through the courts and only use a court approved parenting app. All texts are about your child only.
Also be prepared that he could walk away and you're raising your child alone. If you don't like either of these options, then you can terminate your pregnancy or look into adoption. He has rights and can say no to adoption though.
Context is everything & so is consent. If you're language was implying you wanted that to happen, you probably weren't assaulted. Did you say no?