I once had a guy dm me a lot of weird shit, dick pics and encouraging me to ghost my then bf for him despite how we had never met. I didn't engage in the convo once he started that (and it went from 0-100 QUICK). But before I blocked him, I noticed he had his wife and kids on his profile.
So I sent her the screenshots of him trying to get some fucky fucky on the side.
At first she thanked me and said she knew he was trash, and was thankful for the proof.. Two days later she messaged me again with threats, saying I had “photoshopped” the images because I wanted her man. A dude I had never met.
To start, can you provide more context around how this has only now just started at 23? What has led up to it?
Regardless, I’d honestly be the first person out of context to say that limited texting during the day and seeing each other once per week (for what, four months?) is largely a non-issue.
The problem here is that you almost present it like a complete surprise, but it seems like it you’re a musician yourself and completely understand the situation in the sense that you know she’s exactly where she says she is. So it’s not an issue of being insecure that something else is going on.
Have the cancellations always been school related? That’s important. Also, I could get on board with just the one day in person, but this couldn’t work if there’s no communication at all otherwise.
I think we can all logically understand that people get busy, so while I’d normally be here telling you to let it go, given your situation, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want some kind of communication even if it’s just a quick text during a break. A relationship just isn’t going to work with silence for 6 days and then seeing each other for one.
If this is truly a limitation that can’t be avoided then you need to ask yourselves if you can handle it for this timeframe. Good luck.
Tell him to look up what steroids will do to his dangly bits.
Yeah this comment terrifies me because that’s what this entire thread has just proven to me
I hate how true this is.
I once had a guy dm me a lot of weird shit, dick pics and encouraging me to ghost my then bf for him despite how we had never met. I didn't engage in the convo once he started that (and it went from 0-100 QUICK). But before I blocked him, I noticed he had his wife and kids on his profile.
So I sent her the screenshots of him trying to get some fucky fucky on the side.
At first she thanked me and said she knew he was trash, and was thankful for the proof.. Two days later she messaged me again with threats, saying I had “photoshopped” the images because I wanted her man. A dude I had never met.
Sometimes it's just not worth the drama
Never lend or invest anything you're not prepared to lose.
To start, can you provide more context around how this has only now just started at 23? What has led up to it?
Regardless, I’d honestly be the first person out of context to say that limited texting during the day and seeing each other once per week (for what, four months?) is largely a non-issue.
The problem here is that you almost present it like a complete surprise, but it seems like it you’re a musician yourself and completely understand the situation in the sense that you know she’s exactly where she says she is. So it’s not an issue of being insecure that something else is going on.
Have the cancellations always been school related? That’s important. Also, I could get on board with just the one day in person, but this couldn’t work if there’s no communication at all otherwise.
I think we can all logically understand that people get busy, so while I’d normally be here telling you to let it go, given your situation, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want some kind of communication even if it’s just a quick text during a break. A relationship just isn’t going to work with silence for 6 days and then seeing each other for one.
If this is truly a limitation that can’t be avoided then you need to ask yourselves if you can handle it for this timeframe. Good luck.