Honestly don't know why you are getting downvoted Nobody she feel obligated to wear want he wants it's her clothes. Girls don't wear revealing outfits for male attention ?
You learned a lot from your first boyfriend. So it is not waste that the two of you are no longer compatible. Spend time with just yourself – get to know who you are as a single woman. Go on dates without the sex. Or just make friends and hang out. You are still a teenager. You have lots of time to learn and grow. It is time for you and your boyfriend to part ways. It is time for you to focus on yourself, your education, your aspirations for your future. It is okay to cry and miss your boyfriend. Feel your emotions , remember lessons learned. You will be okay and in less than a year thank the Gods you are a free woman.
Yes we’ve discussed marriage, although I’m not sure just when that’s going to happen. Both of our goals is to get married. I would like to at least be engaged by the end of the year, and he’s been asking a lot of questions about our timeline, so I’m thinking he might propose soon?
That’s a good idea. Idk why she expects me to pay her monthly bill after I bought her the phone itself? Especially if we aren’t together anymore. I just don’t know what to say without coming off as harsh
That is one very big exception that I do agree with.
While I mean, it’s terribly to be in that position, for any couple. But that is a non-negotiable thing. It’s also not rape to not disclose it the first time you have sex, tho.
LOL, this has to be a troll. But I kind of agree with you. I don't think the baby was his. A woman wouldn't wait two months and not tell her husband that she's pregnant. I'm not sure she even miscarried. She probably got an abortion when the baby's actual father said he wanted nothing to do with it.
It doesn’t matter if it hurts or not, it’s spousal abuse. One day she will pick something up and hit or stab you with it and cause real damage. She absolutely will hit any kids you have with her. She has anger issues and no impulse control.
Hey! Thank you, so much. Ive never really had apologies from him when he fucks up. So when he says “okay, sorry”. He said that he is at least now saying sorry which he didn’t before, and trying and that its still not good enough and that i never seem satisfied and it never feels like enough. What do I do?
They are trying to make this about how petty and jealous you are, but it's really about how petty and controlling they are. He is mad you are not bending to his will, that's all.
She sounds super toxic and is looking for excuses to start drama with you, even creating situations where no matter what you do she will get upset. You shouldn’t have a partner that adds on frustrations, resentment, anger, disappointment, stress, disrespect, and unhappiness to your life. The fact you have to go on Reddit and ask what to do for a situation like this that she purposely created says all you need to know about her as a person. She’s toxic and you deserve better, you obviously are a good partner and it’s obvious that she’s using you for her own amusement while not caring about your feelings. If I were you I’d break up with her, there’s way to many red flags in this to pretend there’s anything redeemable about her or your relationship and it’s all based on how you described the way she treats you and the relationship.
I on-line in Thailand and go to Bangkok often (a few times a month). If his office is here for business with a Thai company, here is my opinion:
Do you have proof he’s actually not in the office? Thais LOVE taking pictures and posting them on Facebook, even in professional settings . Find the Facebook page for the business, find a local who works for that business, and see if they have pictures of him in an office setting – or other professional setting
420 is legal in Thailand. Lots of Thais HATE it, especially the middle class (I’m expecting it to be greatly reduced after the election). There is no way he is getting high around his Thai coworkers.
Depending on the industry, he may be going to gogo bars after work with his coworkers – especially from the Thai side. I would be surprised if it’s an everyday thing though. Plus, they are extremely boring in my opinion.
In Bangkok, the line between “bar” and “restaurant” and “cafe” is extremely blurred. If he’s here on business, he is not getting drunk during working hours.
Thais value personal relationships over actual business discussions, and Thais prefer doing business with friends.
However… if this “office trip” is more of a holiday for the workers for doing a good job, it’s a massive red flag.
That’s absolutely not consent. He had sex with you without your agreement. You need to run from this guy and tell your mom.
Honestly don't know why you are getting downvoted Nobody she feel obligated to wear want he wants it's her clothes. Girls don't wear revealing outfits for male attention ?
You learned a lot from your first boyfriend. So it is not waste that the two of you are no longer compatible. Spend time with just yourself – get to know who you are as a single woman. Go on dates without the sex. Or just make friends and hang out. You are still a teenager. You have lots of time to learn and grow. It is time for you and your boyfriend to part ways. It is time for you to focus on yourself, your education, your aspirations for your future. It is okay to cry and miss your boyfriend. Feel your emotions , remember lessons learned. You will be okay and in less than a year thank the Gods you are a free woman.
This is 100% without question physical abuse.
I have only read the TLDR, but Jesus christ OP. Get the he'll out of there.
Maybe introduce her as your ex once.
The short answer: No.
I think you meant to say “Yes, she should leave him for good “
The rest of your reply is spot-on.
We don’t have sodas on campus lol
Yes we’ve discussed marriage, although I’m not sure just when that’s going to happen. Both of our goals is to get married. I would like to at least be engaged by the end of the year, and he’s been asking a lot of questions about our timeline, so I’m thinking he might propose soon?
That’s a good idea. Idk why she expects me to pay her monthly bill after I bought her the phone itself? Especially if we aren’t together anymore. I just don’t know what to say without coming off as harsh
That is the most insane thing I ever heard. And gross. The plunger was invented for this exact purpose. WTF.
Honestly can't believe you lasted this long. For me this would have been an ultimatum after the second incident.
That is one very big exception that I do agree with.
While I mean, it’s terribly to be in that position, for any couple. But that is a non-negotiable thing. It’s also not rape to not disclose it the first time you have sex, tho.
LOL, this has to be a troll. But I kind of agree with you. I don't think the baby was his. A woman wouldn't wait two months and not tell her husband that she's pregnant. I'm not sure she even miscarried. She probably got an abortion when the baby's actual father said he wanted nothing to do with it.
Mum is right. This guy failed to reveal something that's pretty important. Makes you wonder what else he might be hiding.
This is your queue to dip. Get out while you still can.
He’s like a brother to me is the biggest of the big red flags OP, ???You sew those red flags together and paraglide away from that friendship
Time to lose 180lbs fast by dumping him
It doesn’t matter if it hurts or not, it’s spousal abuse. One day she will pick something up and hit or stab you with it and cause real damage. She absolutely will hit any kids you have with her. She has anger issues and no impulse control.
I’m in the music industry, I wouldn’t want a partner that raves until 6am.
I’m 34 though. I’m ready for that, nothing good happens after midnight life. Lol
Hey! Thank you, so much. Ive never really had apologies from him when he fucks up. So when he says “okay, sorry”. He said that he is at least now saying sorry which he didn’t before, and trying and that its still not good enough and that i never seem satisfied and it never feels like enough. What do I do?
Give it a month or two. But if you want to express how you feel then you should.
They are trying to make this about how petty and jealous you are, but it's really about how petty and controlling they are. He is mad you are not bending to his will, that's all.
She sounds super toxic and is looking for excuses to start drama with you, even creating situations where no matter what you do she will get upset. You shouldn’t have a partner that adds on frustrations, resentment, anger, disappointment, stress, disrespect, and unhappiness to your life. The fact you have to go on Reddit and ask what to do for a situation like this that she purposely created says all you need to know about her as a person. She’s toxic and you deserve better, you obviously are a good partner and it’s obvious that she’s using you for her own amusement while not caring about your feelings. If I were you I’d break up with her, there’s way to many red flags in this to pretend there’s anything redeemable about her or your relationship and it’s all based on how you described the way she treats you and the relationship.
I on-line in Thailand and go to Bangkok often (a few times a month). If his office is here for business with a Thai company, here is my opinion:
Do you have proof he’s actually not in the office? Thais LOVE taking pictures and posting them on Facebook, even in professional settings . Find the Facebook page for the business, find a local who works for that business, and see if they have pictures of him in an office setting – or other professional setting
420 is legal in Thailand. Lots of Thais HATE it, especially the middle class (I’m expecting it to be greatly reduced after the election). There is no way he is getting high around his Thai coworkers.
Depending on the industry, he may be going to gogo bars after work with his coworkers – especially from the Thai side. I would be surprised if it’s an everyday thing though. Plus, they are extremely boring in my opinion.
In Bangkok, the line between “bar” and “restaurant” and “cafe” is extremely blurred. If he’s here on business, he is not getting drunk during working hours.
Thais value personal relationships over actual business discussions, and Thais prefer doing business with friends.
However… if this “office trip” is more of a holiday for the workers for doing a good job, it’s a massive red flag.