Whoa. Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. Idk why you keep agreeing with her hanging out with other men/women but what a horrible idea. There are no consequences when she cheats so of course she keeps doing it. This is a hot mess that doesn't look like will end well.
You two are so young and have a lot to look forward to. You should look out for yourself, and your goals. If you're not feeling this relationship then it's best to just end it and not drag it out for the both of you. She may feel like you have a future that's not there, and you may feel even more trapped.
She sounds like she has some mental health issues going on. If you're concerned, perhaps speak to her parents about it if they can be trusted. Just so they know there are potential problems and she has some concerning behaviours.
The fact that you're so concerned to the point where you're afraid to communicate or do what you want to do, is exactly why I think you need to end it. Even without the prior history of abusive behaviour, which for someone so young freaks me out even more, this is toxic and has the potential to become even more so.
I just want to point out, that just because you’re not in your “early 20’s” anymore that doesn’t mean someone can stop going out to bars and having a good time especially if they’re out of town.
Me and my husband are mid-20’s, expecting our first child together, we love to go out! We agreed that if either of us wants to go out, we would give each other that freedom and take turns although of course not all the time since we are parents.
However back to the main issue, I think your husband may have sent the picture to the wrong person instead of you or your sister. He may be cheating with someone else. I would ask to look through his phone and if he gets offended by it, something suspicious is going on.
Then have conversations about concrete actual things. Does he want kids? Does he want a farm? Does he want to move to Montreal (say yes!)? Does he want to start a business? If all he wants to do is talk, maybe your role is to jump start these family projects. Honestly ten years is a of time as a couple to not have plans. The thing that confuses me is getting a home and three dogs is actually quite the achievement. Are these dreams possible?
Was she with the aunt and uncle? Can you call them and ask? Maybe your gf was trying to get custody from them because of the new kids and made a huge lie? Oh what tangled webs we weave…
Take the plunge. Figure it out. Easy.
Whoa. Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. Idk why you keep agreeing with her hanging out with other men/women but what a horrible idea. There are no consequences when she cheats so of course she keeps doing it. This is a hot mess that doesn't look like will end well.
That sounds like a lot to handle.
You two are so young and have a lot to look forward to. You should look out for yourself, and your goals. If you're not feeling this relationship then it's best to just end it and not drag it out for the both of you. She may feel like you have a future that's not there, and you may feel even more trapped.
She sounds like she has some mental health issues going on. If you're concerned, perhaps speak to her parents about it if they can be trusted. Just so they know there are potential problems and she has some concerning behaviours.
The fact that you're so concerned to the point where you're afraid to communicate or do what you want to do, is exactly why I think you need to end it. Even without the prior history of abusive behaviour, which for someone so young freaks me out even more, this is toxic and has the potential to become even more so.
She needs help, not a relationship.
Yeah! As a child of divorce the sooner the better honestly.
Thank you. It is a tough decision to take.
I just want to point out, that just because you’re not in your “early 20’s” anymore that doesn’t mean someone can stop going out to bars and having a good time especially if they’re out of town.
Me and my husband are mid-20’s, expecting our first child together, we love to go out! We agreed that if either of us wants to go out, we would give each other that freedom and take turns although of course not all the time since we are parents.
However back to the main issue, I think your husband may have sent the picture to the wrong person instead of you or your sister. He may be cheating with someone else. I would ask to look through his phone and if he gets offended by it, something suspicious is going on.
She may be delusional, but your obviously a fucking idiot.
Then have conversations about concrete actual things. Does he want kids? Does he want a farm? Does he want to move to Montreal (say yes!)? Does he want to start a business? If all he wants to do is talk, maybe your role is to jump start these family projects. Honestly ten years is a of time as a couple to not have plans. The thing that confuses me is getting a home and three dogs is actually quite the achievement. Are these dreams possible?
Was she with the aunt and uncle? Can you call them and ask? Maybe your gf was trying to get custody from them because of the new kids and made a huge lie? Oh what tangled webs we weave…