You go to her house, ask her if she would like to leave, if she says yes, she leaves with you. You take her to your house or the police and help her find help for the abuse. If she says no, but you suspect abuse. Call police. If she says yes and family won't allow her to leave. Police.
I also have no idea why she isn't taking the initiative to give him things he's enjoyed. There's no way you can't think of a game or movie that he would enjoy having and buying it as a fun surprise to acknowledge all he has done. Even if you somehow don't, which is a problem from YOUR side because you clearly aren't asking his interests, what is stopping you from going and getting a ton of your and his favorite snacks and letting him pick a movie he's really wanted to watch or one of his favorites – especially if it's one that is more up his alley – and watching that during a date night in. You're so concerned he's going to burn out but what are you doing to stop that from happening?
Tell me, what boundaries did he set?
She's an adult.
You go to her house, ask her if she would like to leave, if she says yes, she leaves with you. You take her to your house or the police and help her find help for the abuse. If she says no, but you suspect abuse. Call police. If she says yes and family won't allow her to leave. Police.
Notice a theme here?
I also have no idea why she isn't taking the initiative to give him things he's enjoyed. There's no way you can't think of a game or movie that he would enjoy having and buying it as a fun surprise to acknowledge all he has done. Even if you somehow don't, which is a problem from YOUR side because you clearly aren't asking his interests, what is stopping you from going and getting a ton of your and his favorite snacks and letting him pick a movie he's really wanted to watch or one of his favorites – especially if it's one that is more up his alley – and watching that during a date night in. You're so concerned he's going to burn out but what are you doing to stop that from happening?
It's all Roth