He doesn’t listen or even pretend to care what you have to say. He doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t consider you his equal. You dumped all your friends because he said to. Why are you not running?
Tell her. It's not like you were asking her to be your live-in nurse, but to be aware that you can drop dead, and that you're on a waiting list to get a surgery that will drop you in hospital for a month, then you will have to take it easy for several months.
That's the problem.
You decided. On your own.
so I could try to get through the crazy parts sooner for us to start a family.
That wasn't for you to decide alone, that was for the two of you to decide together.
He doesn’t listen or even pretend to care what you have to say. He doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t consider you his equal. You dumped all your friends because he said to. Why are you not running?
Just tell her you don't want to know what sex she had with her ex. Simple.
Have you fixed the family issue yet? Don't contact her until you do.
Yes, what he's saying really explains him and not OP. If he falls to get her to accept blame, other forms of abuse will follow.
Tell her. It's not like you were asking her to be your live-in nurse, but to be aware that you can drop dead, and that you're on a waiting list to get a surgery that will drop you in hospital for a month, then you will have to take it easy for several months.