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Date: October 11, 2022
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You should learn to be happy when alone. It will give you a baseline for comparison with future relationships. Being alone is better by far than being in the wrong relationship.
We all have a past, and yours will never be the same as someone else's. Our past includes the way we were raised, things that have happened to us, and choices we have made. Not all of it is within our control, right? How we deal with things is part of how we learn and grow.
Her past has helped shape her into who she is today – the person you say you think is amazing, who you love, and who loves you.
Love is respect, kindness, loyalty, and trust. She opened up to you and shared her past. She was honest, and in doing so, made herself vulnerable to you, to your opinions, and whomever you may decide to tell. That's a pretty nude thing for most of us to do.
If you really love her, remember those four words, remember that our experiences shape us into who we are, and let the rest go. We can't change the past, but we can do better going forward, and it sounds like that's what she is trying to do. Support that and be thankful.
“Cracks knuckles and neck” I advise you do not do a TLDR thing on this.
Okay…….lets do this. First of all you were not wrong in doing something to help her out with the physical needs. Nor are you completely at fault for any of this honestly. Your first mistake right now is beating yourself down as you stepped up. What did she do during all of this? Did she even lift a finger to help out? Did she communicate anything with you of how she was feeling? Did she do any work at all? In a relationship, even a marriage it takes two people. It's a team effort, not a solo mission. She is not completely to blame for this as well. As I said it takes two. You BOTH are half to blame for this, the other half…….actually a BIG half who is at fault for this is the people who pushed you two to get married. Marriage does NOT make ones life easier, it does however if you put in the effort on all fronts and from both sides make life and love even better. But a lot goes into that. Compatibility, compassion, intimacy, communication, understanding, small efforts and believe it or not……differences. Differences are a good thing, gives a chance to try things you never have before and it shows strength and character when both of you do something that the other likes even though the other doesn't but is still willing to do it because it's something together. I was married before and my ex wife and I were together for 9 years. We had a lot of ups and downs but the thing is, she thought I was a bad husband. I really wasn't and she realized that after she cheated on me and we split up. Two weeks after we split up she called me to tell me she realized I wasn't bad at all after observing the relationship her friend and her boyfriend were in. And it was a BAD one. The guy was physically abusive, verbally abusive, controlling mentally and financially towards his gf. I never did any of that with my ex wife. She wanted to work it out, but I don't ever forgive infidelity. Ever. What I am saying is that your wife should have realized all the sacrifices you were making while supporting her and your daughter as best as you could. If she couldn't see that and step up her game while also communicating what was bothering her in the emotional department, then she is at fault too and really isn't worth it. Do NOT beat yourself up over this anymore. My advice, get a divorce, get custody of your daughter and be done with your ex. If she wants to live with her boyfriend then he can support her. She is not your responsibility anymore. And my god…….if ANY woman ever treated me like that EVER. I would be gone.
One question though……..what is or was your plane when you come to America as far as a job goes? Do you happen to have a college degree by any chance? Because if you don't have a plan at all or something set up……..you will not do so well. Unless you come to America as a student then you have a shot.
Yeah this kinda hits the nail on the head. the people screaming its her money she can do what she wants is missing the point and make no mistake, she knew exactly what she was doing and there is something under the surface here you may very well be seeing for the first time.
If you really think nude about it, does she treat your other child as one of her own? Take your time…
Expecting your partner not to worry about someone they care about is ridiculous. They're going to care about you, that's not something you can control.
Lying to them and refusing to get therapy is just making your life worse. If that's how you want to on-line your life, whatever but don't drag someone else into it.
It happens a lot more than we hear about.
My partner's ex wouldn't involve himself with potty training or bath times and similar things. He won't even use real words for their privates, he calls vaginas their front butts ? This is all because a friend of his was accused of molesting his teenage step daughter years ago (of course none of them believe this man was guilty, but as a person who isn't his friend I find it questionable). To be clear our kids are still under 10, but he's been like this since they were little and this instance happened to his friend. It's so bad that the older one came to us because daddy walked in the room while the little one was still changing and she got into an argument with him over it, so he's made such a huge deal of it even the kids believe it's wrong for daddy to see them undressed.
I know a lot of men who are afraid of dating or similar things because stuff happened to friends and they want to believe their friends are innocent rather they are or not. Guys who've seen friends get accused of abuse and just flat out refuse to date because it could happen to them too. It's crazy as shit, but it happens a lot more than we talk about. Also a ton of female friends who are unmarried because they had dads who abused their moms or cheated is a common one I've noticed. It's weird to me but it definitely exists.
I accept that she is gone. That's not the problem, the problem is the pain. The Doctor idea is good but I don't wanna keep going with some pills. I've always said “This was last, you're not gonna find anyone to love” every time when I've ended a relationship, but now, I don't wan to. I don't want to talk anyone, I don't want to get over the same things again. I accept that she is gone but I really wished that she could give a chance. That hurts more than anything.
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That’s what im thinking as well and i really want to work to understand him as im not entirely him and you in this case.. i love giving gifts but i dont always like receiving gifts as a whole as i think i don’t deserve to receive gifts.. but thats a totally different thing..
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Nah that was my leads raise I got a nickle
Thank you! I’m going to have him go get tested on Monday and I’ll be going with him. I’m going to try this after the testing to see if he comes clean if he doesn’t I’ll just have to deal with it. I just really don’t want to get a divorce if there’s any possibility he’s innocent. As much as I don’t trust him anymore, I do still love him and it’s gonna be a nude process.
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Dropping your resentment toward your boyfriend is not the correct problem. Your boyfriend is not being a good boyfriend, he's minimizing your feelings, he has shown you that he doesn't care as much as you care. It's a new year, celebrate by finding someone who treats you better than this bare minimum lack of effort.
Yeah, but I'll wear a hoodie. How often do you go around wearing your girlfriends bra?
Doing BDSM in a safe and consensual manner is vital to really enjoy it. Usually, it's the sub who declares boundaries and who is in the actually more powerful position to decide what can and will happen.
Safewords, talking about boundaries, declaring nonverbal signs to stop are all important to that. A system using colors (green for go harder, yellow for keep it at that intensity but no more, red for a full stop) can be useful too.
Please have such conversations, talk about all of this and install safety means before doing such. Because it can end badly if you don't. As you have seen, sadly.
His “excuse” that you made him angry is not at all okay, and a dom should never let anger get involved. If he gets angry at you and uses physical force or violence in that situation, that's abuse.
My lord did you not even read the first section of the first source at all? I wasnt linking it for the court case or the specific law at all. “Sexual coercion is classified as a duress crime. Coercion involves obtaining consent from a person in such a way that their consent was given under pressure. This type of consent is not the product of a person’s free will.” The part i linked the first source for. If your having trouble with the second source since you hadn’t mentioned it at all. Take a look at this section. Repeated Attempts
“One form of sexual coercion is wearing you down by asking for sex again and again. Whether you’ve gently declined or directly rejected someone’s advances, they shouldn’t keep the pressure on — they should accept your boundary and stop asking.”
Don’t go out with him, you are way too young but also who knows if he’s nice.
This is both rude and wrong.
I'm sorry but that 8 year thing is nonsense.
Yes is a kink. I'm seeing a lot of kink-shaming in this post and it's really not a problem that he has this kink… what IS a problem is that he didn't discuss it with you. Kinks are perfectly fine as long as they are consensual. And yes when someone engages in their kink but there wasn't even a discussion about it, let alone, consent, it's a problem. You feel violated because he is violating your consent. Your options are to break up and immediately move out if this is a deal breaker, or discuss about his kink, your boundaries and if you can meet middle ground if it's not a deal breaker for you. For me it would not be a deal breaker if everything else in the relationship is fine, but I'd make sure he understands consent because it doesn't seem that he thought about it, which I get, we are not taught about kinks anywhere or how to handle them, but doesn't mean that he should continue to do it without your consent.
I understand that some people simply do not want their images out on the net because the idea just creeps them out. You should respect the people you care about, even if you don't understand the why of their quirks.
With that said though, she's responding to a reasonable request with threats. That's a bit excessive and a definitive red flag. If your gut is saying something is off about her reaction, you are probably correct that there's something up here. Have you considered doing a background check? If she's got a husband out there somewhere, that would definitely bring it to light…and if it turns up nothing of significance, Burn the evidence.
Where's reddit's age gap police when you need them?
r/unexpected
So? If her plan is get paid, get a free trip and spurn this guys advances and no do anything with him, what’s the deal?
OP either trusts his gf or not.
One thing of he’s worried for her safety. But if it’s her job, what is she supposed to do? Not get hit in by guys?
Don’t worry about. It’s a natural reaction. Keep it to yourself.
Op, things are only sexual when you associate it to something sexual.
Some countries don’t sexualize breasts on women. Which is a perfect example of how tightly wound up America is about how things are viewed.
Op, you might be sexualizing this clothing for two reasons:
1) Porn. If you e watched women wear this exact clothing on porn, it’s why you associate it in this manner. When you stop thinking in terms of what women in porn are wearing, you’ll stop thinking your GF is dressing sexual.
You’re views about women and sex. You could be struggling with the idea your partner is not dressing sexually for men. She’s trying to find out who she is and in doing so she’s doing it through clothing. Ages 16-25, you are learning who you are. You are changing through these years because life helping you figure out things about your personality. Her dressing has absolutely nothing to do with you and other men. It’s about her finding herself in her expression in clothing.
Yes but it's Reddit. God forbid its fair.
Are your career path comparable? If they are and it's just that you are behind her then ask her if she prefers you huslte for a while to try to get in par or have more time to care for her/the house.
If careers are not comparable say like my case nurse vs CFO then there is nothing you can do besides doing stupid thing like working 2 jobs.
Of course you couldn’t support it. It would be nuts if she expected that. I really hope you are wrong but if you aren’t, know that you have done nothing wrong. You don’t choose a man that your best friend had a relationship with. You just don’t.
Absolutely. I used to be a carer for disabled adults and when I helped them to her bathroom or changed nappies I didn’t think about their genitals. I just cleaned them well and made sure they had everything done professionally. And kept a pleasant attitude and had a chat with them about what I was doing so they could feel in control of their body. E.g I’m getting the wipes out now, it’s going to be a bit cold, just a bit more to go, now I’m turning you to the side, etc etc.
Have you asked your son why mom doesn’t wake you up for these outings?
In short: you're right. You're husband is a lazy ungrateful bum at this point. Tell him to either change now and change a lot or follow up with consequences and file for divorce
Nah. He’s only abusing you, girl. Nothing at ALL to leave him over. ?
My high ass brain was trying to figure out the name of the spammer. Thank you.
I think I didn’t want to acknowledge I felt pressured because it would mean that he was able to manipulate me and that’s a little embarrassing, tbh. You’re right though I should just keep it as friends, that’s the way I prefer us. :/ just wish I knew how to tell him without seeming wishy-washy.
that stranger things comment could have just been him trying to be clever for reddit karma.
I have a friend who owns a company that installs “bespoke kitchens” and his company is in an incredible place financially. His employees are trained to a high standard, do good jobs and word gets around. A company like that, in the right scenario, can be incredibly profitable.
I think some important things to consider would be that you don’t know whether or not there are other revenue streams, whether or not the family owns property, whether or not the family invests, whether or not they’ve saved for a long time to live the lifestyle you’re seeing.
There’s every chance that the minute you said “Yea but how do kitchens pay for that?” after she made it clear she wasn’t discussing finances with you it came across in an accusatory way, opposed to a genuinely curious one.
I had an ex push for information pertaining to what my business was earning once in a similar way and it just didn’t sit well with me. My husband didn’t know what my business made until after we were married, he knew what it paid me monthly when we moved in together, I didn’t want it to be a motivating factor in any decisions related to fastening ourselves together financially.
There’s a chance something dodgy could be going on, but there’s also a chance that she doesn’t want to discuss their business’s finances with you.
Men cannot breastfed no matter the delusion. Transmen are women biologically so if they still have breasts they can breastfed.
Hell, even if you don't have a pass code, you can make a secure folder for sensitive pictures, it hides them, and you need a pass code for it!!!
Welcome to marriage with young kids. If you want to reignite a spark, figure out some way for the kids to be out of the picture for a night regularly, and clean up the house for her when she's not expecting it. Take all the weight off her shoulders and show her you care. It takes extra work, but it's part of the deal.
I will try this tonight thanks
I will try this tonight thanks
I will try this tonight thanks
I want to see the film adaptation of this. It'll prolly be a slasher but… Good base for a film nonetheless.
Sorry just for clarification, she had 3 kids by the age of 20?
Ik I'm hilarious
So your expectations for which he comes to are the opposite of his probably. A half marathon (or full) usually starts much earlier and is 2-4 hours. I have run a couple of the former and I would not expect anyone to come.
I would say reasonable expectations would be a) he doesn't belittle or question you wanting to do them, b) is supportive and asks you how they went etc and c) maybe comes to one or two 5Ks or something.
It seems he isn't even willing to do a) and b) and that is a huge problem. It speaks to a lack of basic respect and love. Just because he doesn't “get it” doesn't mean he has to insult the hobby
Sounds like a vilain straight from a highschool movie damn. Hopefully this cunt gets karma d nude. Gotta wonder how your cousin even fell for her. I feel for you cause I don t know what I d do in this situation.
Gut punches are tough to prove… just sayin
First, is he taking a perscribed testosterone from a legitimate doctor, or is he taking something he's buying in the gym parking lot, or even some of the over-the-counter “boosters” from the local vitamin place?
At 41, he likely needs testosterone not (necessarily) for fitness goals specifically, but just for overall health (he may still be taking it for fitness, but all men start to have low T at some point, and for most it starts to happen in their late 30s to early 40s, but I digress)
It sounds like his dose may be too high, or he may be mixing it with other suppliments. While too much testorsterone can make you more aggressive and short tempered, when it's at the right balance it should really have the opposite effect. If his levels were at 100-200, and they suddenly shoot up to 1500-1800, that'll do bad things to his attitude and he may not even realize it. You can be mad at the world and not even know why. And if he's actually taking steroids, or mixing the two, that can definitely cause big mood swings and lots of other problems – the term “roid rage” exists for a reason.
As far as talking to him about it, if you approach him calmly, kindly, and rationally, and he still reacts with blame and anger, unfortunately I don't have a lot of advice for you. Come at it from a place of love and concern, and if you can't get through to him, it may be time for a change. Relize that he may not be able to help it, but that doesn't mean that you have to continue to on-line with it.