My mom was a SAHM and my dad was a tradesman (welder) and he would cook at least 3-4 meals a week for dinner for us all.
My husband works as a tradesman (HVAC) and I have an office job. He usually is only home for dinner hours 2-3 nights a week, but either cooks or helps cook every time he is.
Your husband easily could, he just won’t and is making excuses. You both work. You’ve explained you need him to cook a few times a week, hold firm on that boundary and don’t take no for an answer. If he trashed your boundary and doesn’t care about your feelings, I’d be very cautious to continue a relationship with someone who is making you slave after them and not regarding your thoughts and feelings on something as simple as cook a meal or two a week when you have been fully taking on that burden.
There is 100% no reason he shouldn’t cook on days off or early dismissal days, other than he’s being lazy.
It’s really messed up that you listened in on his private therapy session. That is not okay..All you can really do it talk it out and go from there..
Rant time:
Isn’t it kinda insane though how it makes both a woman and a man to make a baby right? So it’s half yours and it’s his. If you want to “get rid of it”, he has no say in that decision. He can either support you or not. Even if he wants a family and kids you can make the choice to rip that away from him.
If you want to keep the baby and he doesn’t want it or anything to do with it. You give birth to that baby, raise it alone or raise it together but separately and he legally has to pay child support for 18 years. If he doesn’t pay, he’d go to jail. (unless if he signed his parental rights away) So either way, if you keep it or not the guy cannot win in the situation.
So just be careful who you sleep with and if you really don’t want a kid, then get on birth control (there’s many different types) including condoms. Or just don’t go all the way. Sorry but sex can possibly lead to pregnancy. That’s just how life works
I’m not at all saying you should force yourself to try sex again but also…sex is rarely good when you’re starting out. You had sex a total of 5 times when you were 16 and a virgin. There’s so many factors as to why you wouldn’t like those experiences like he was also inexperienced, you weren’t mentally prepared, you weren’t warmed up enough, you could have medical issues like endometriosis, you could have vaginismus, etc. You were literally a child. But you wrote it off and decided you just hate sex. Do you not have any sexual desire at all? Do you masturbate?
As far as everything else it sounds like he does care for you a lot so it doesn’t seem impossible but just you have to talk to him about it.
Your husband doesn't think oral SEX is a SEXual act? Yeah, no. It's definitely a sexual act. Last I checked a foot isn't a sex organ but a penis is. It doesn't matter if he doesn't “think” of it as a sexual act. It IS a sexual act.
Yeah that’s what I mean , she taught me everything and was really affectionate and loving
She shouldn’t have cheated. He shouldn’t have stayed. It’s not rocket science. They should divorce already.
My mom was a SAHM and my dad was a tradesman (welder) and he would cook at least 3-4 meals a week for dinner for us all.
My husband works as a tradesman (HVAC) and I have an office job. He usually is only home for dinner hours 2-3 nights a week, but either cooks or helps cook every time he is.
Your husband easily could, he just won’t and is making excuses. You both work. You’ve explained you need him to cook a few times a week, hold firm on that boundary and don’t take no for an answer. If he trashed your boundary and doesn’t care about your feelings, I’d be very cautious to continue a relationship with someone who is making you slave after them and not regarding your thoughts and feelings on something as simple as cook a meal or two a week when you have been fully taking on that burden.
There is 100% no reason he shouldn’t cook on days off or early dismissal days, other than he’s being lazy.
It’s really messed up that you listened in on his private therapy session. That is not okay..All you can really do it talk it out and go from there..
Rant time:
Isn’t it kinda insane though how it makes both a woman and a man to make a baby right? So it’s half yours and it’s his. If you want to “get rid of it”, he has no say in that decision. He can either support you or not. Even if he wants a family and kids you can make the choice to rip that away from him.
If you want to keep the baby and he doesn’t want it or anything to do with it. You give birth to that baby, raise it alone or raise it together but separately and he legally has to pay child support for 18 years. If he doesn’t pay, he’d go to jail. (unless if he signed his parental rights away) So either way, if you keep it or not the guy cannot win in the situation.
So just be careful who you sleep with and if you really don’t want a kid, then get on birth control (there’s many different types) including condoms. Or just don’t go all the way. Sorry but sex can possibly lead to pregnancy. That’s just how life works
He’s just looking for an easy lay he can you with and ghost again- DON’T FALL FOR IT!!
Feel it's best too that it happened now although it still hurts
I’m not at all saying you should force yourself to try sex again but also…sex is rarely good when you’re starting out. You had sex a total of 5 times when you were 16 and a virgin. There’s so many factors as to why you wouldn’t like those experiences like he was also inexperienced, you weren’t mentally prepared, you weren’t warmed up enough, you could have medical issues like endometriosis, you could have vaginismus, etc. You were literally a child. But you wrote it off and decided you just hate sex. Do you not have any sexual desire at all? Do you masturbate?
As far as everything else it sounds like he does care for you a lot so it doesn’t seem impossible but just you have to talk to him about it.
Your husband doesn't think oral SEX is a SEXual act? Yeah, no. It's definitely a sexual act. Last I checked a foot isn't a sex organ but a penis is. It doesn't matter if he doesn't “think” of it as a sexual act. It IS a sexual act.
That’s what I am saying. Why now? Why didn’t her best friend tell him after the fact? Why wait three years?