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a month without expressing milk impress [873 tokens remaining]
Date: October 25, 2022
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a month without expressing milk impress [873 tokens remaining]
Imagine if you made a move. And he cheated on his partner to be with you. Now he's a cheater – does that impact your image of him?
Now imagine you're dating, and things go badly. Now you've gotta see each other at work every day. Sounds pretty great, right?
Did that help?
See it from that perspective:
She was a minor and high, so basically not able to consent. This could very well be seen as assault. I don't know why you would want to experience that yourself.
Definitely engrained racism many old generation Asians have. Not worth trying to change or fix
So, in other words, you have a martyr complex.
You don't have to watch those shows with her. It sounds like you're so desperately dependent on having time with her that you're willing to martyr yourself to do so and now you're upset that she won't do the same.
That's an unhealthy dynamic. Try to stop viewing liking television shows as your identity and taking it as a personal affront when someone doesn't want to watch them. Your personality shouldn't be defined by what television shows you watch. Additionally, “taking an interest” in someone's likes/hobbies doesn't mean you have to participate in them. My SO golfs. I will never, ever golf. It doesn't interest me. But at dinner, I'll ask my SO about their recent round of golf, ask follow up questions if I don't understand what they are talking about, and if I happen upon say an interesting article about golf while reading something else I'll send them the link. None of those things actually require me to participate in or sit around watching my partner golf.
What other hobbies do the two of you engage in – together or separately? What do the two of you do together and what do you do to share aspects of your lives (such as sharing about your hobbies and interests over dinner or finding a television show to watch that you're both interested in instead of you defaulting to hers or getting offended if she doesn't want to watch yours?)
I hope you break up with her for HER sake. Interrogating her over mud around her collar? JFC.
No, she hasn’t spoken to him since she blocked him 6 years ago. I truly don’t believe she ever cheated again or thought of him since then. She hasn’t acted sus or been secretive with her phone at all. I’ve honestly never caught her in a lie all this time we have been together. Still in shock she kept this secret from me.
Seems like that to me. Why wouldn't he be honest with you about it, especially when he is telling you he wants to work things out as well.
I would think hot if this is someone you actually want in your life. You are right to have him move out sooner rather than later. The space may help you decide if this is what you want.
Personally, I don't believe in “breaks”, either you're together or you're not, and this is one very good reason why. While on a “break”, you aren't working at dissolving feelings so you still have certain expectations you want met, but you aren't technically “together” so you have no real say. Too much of a muddy mess.
I suggest either breaking up or working through it.
this person is only acting this way recently because they have had a recent life style change that has made them a little more isolated from family and friends. There is also a 50/50 chance that they will make a public post indicating they are having a breakdown when I ignore their messages – these posts haven't mentioned me or my partner, but they happen pretty much only after I have ignored them … so I am somewhat threatened by the idea that if I stop responding to them directly they will just have another emotional breakdown.
Their emotional breakdowns are not your fault and not your responsibility. You are not their therapist or counsellor and you cannot be that for them.
They have also been serial spamming my instagram messages with multiple videos a day – my dms have gotten so piled up I have largely abandoned the platform because seeing the amount of unread dms stresses me out.
You can ask them to stop, you can say “Hey, this is a lot, I need you to stop sending me this amount of stuff, thanks.” You can block them. YOU ARE ALLOWED.
They want to hang out nearly every day as soon as my partner and I get off work (no dinner or alone time or anything considered).
I recommend you set up a scheduled meet-up with your friend, maybe once a week, and re-direct everything else to then. “Not today, JoAnn, we'll talk on Wednesday as usual.”
They also text us at night when we are trying to fall asleep (they also on occassion keep me up late at night for even longer than my partner, as some nights they keep sending me tiktoks from 9pm to 3amish). I haven't had a single quiet night in the past three months with my boyfriend; nights are a barrage of dm after dm by this friend sending messages to us.
TURN OFF YOUR ALERTS, put your phone down. “Hey, JoAnn, there's no way I'm going to respond to all of these, please stop sending them to me, thanks.”
If she's spiralling this much she needs to up her time with her therapist. You cannot be her only support.