I think it would be worth discussing with him if this type of scenario, Peter making a last minute change and then the parents telling Tim to go along with it, is common. I agree that he should uave told you as a soon as he knew. This is where I suggest explaining how you would like him to handle the next time something like this occurs.
I know work has been stressful, so i totally get that, but i think everything else has been pretty normal for the most part. I will totally accept her not being into me i just wish i knew so i could move on
I agree with this. OP did something 5 out of 10 bad – if her boyfriend had gotten mad and a serious talk with her about respecting his boundaries in the future, I'd support him all the way. But the boyfriend reacted 10 out 10 bad. He threatened her with violence, the only reason he didn't elbow her was because she moved out of the way in time, and then he threw a box out at her head. It's batshit people are acting like this is the same level of toxic, it is not.
OP needs to learn how to respect people's 'no' in her NEXT relationship. Threats and attempts of violence are the best indicator of future violence.
because i felt like i was bothering him in a way that he didn’t wanna talk to me. i’ve never been in a “relationship” so i really don’t know what to do
I mean, it worked a bit more like that when the expectation was that sex, cohabitation, etc has to wait until after marriage. It was assumed after a point that a proposal was coming.
I think he loves you and is confused. And I think you should cut contact with him and move on emotionally as soon as you possibly can.
He’s a fool to let you go for a bag of magic beans, and it won’t turn out well for him, but you shouldn’t settle for less than you deserve. There’s a world of good guys out there for you to meet once you’re ready.
And you most definitely can do this. Many people before you have. It just sucks huge ass.
I included everybody except your boyfriend. I would think that would be the first person you would check with. They all me and she got to have your seasonal work buddy in there over your boyfriend night. I completely understand that so I don’t even know how to read this I stopped.
I don’t know the whole story, maybe add more to it? Like how long have you been seeing each other, do you hang out a lot, have you communicated about this to him? Things like that. Because based on your post I can just say he’s a dick ??♀️
If this is something you can’t get past, it may not be good for your mental health to hold it in. You may have to come clean about it, because your guilt might manifest in less healthy ways
You are 8 months pregnant, you have a developing human being in you and your blood is filled with chemicals and hormones in quantities it never usually has.
Apologize and ask him to understand and try and make it work. Acknowledge your issues but say the pregnancy makes it worse. Offer to go to counseling either by yourself or as a couple to help work through it. Dont force an answer, but on your part work to be better. Note, this doesn't mean be a doormat your 8 months pregnant, you need to take of yourself. It means be kind and loving
How can you say he doesn't like her more than you? You're speculating just as much as everyone else, only difference is no one here is thinking about telling the friend. You keep saying you're not jealous, which might be the case, but you are very full of yourself.
I understand and agree that this information should be more widespread. Most people don't know.
And she's not OP's friend, AFAICT.
You want him to change. He’s 45. It isn’t going to happen. He’s not going to stand up to his mom either.
This was very helpful, will def do this with him. Thanks so much ??
I think it would be worth discussing with him if this type of scenario, Peter making a last minute change and then the parents telling Tim to go along with it, is common. I agree that he should uave told you as a soon as he knew. This is where I suggest explaining how you would like him to handle the next time something like this occurs.
I'm so sorry you had to find out like that but I also hope that you saved all of the texts and have the information.
Geez she's 30 years old and out drinking like that?
I'm almost 40 and have been sober for 8 years.
I'm so glad I am and I regret so much of what I did when I was drinking.
You said you hadn't seen her like that before but how often does she go out without you?
There's a point when you have to figure out some accountability and stop.
I know work has been stressful, so i totally get that, but i think everything else has been pretty normal for the most part. I will totally accept her not being into me i just wish i knew so i could move on
I agree with this. OP did something 5 out of 10 bad – if her boyfriend had gotten mad and a serious talk with her about respecting his boundaries in the future, I'd support him all the way. But the boyfriend reacted 10 out 10 bad. He threatened her with violence, the only reason he didn't elbow her was because she moved out of the way in time, and then he threw a box out at her head. It's batshit people are acting like this is the same level of toxic, it is not.
OP needs to learn how to respect people's 'no' in her NEXT relationship. Threats and attempts of violence are the best indicator of future violence.
because i felt like i was bothering him in a way that he didn’t wanna talk to me. i’ve never been in a “relationship” so i really don’t know what to do
It's Randy Marsh with his no no channels!
I mean, it worked a bit more like that when the expectation was that sex, cohabitation, etc has to wait until after marriage. It was assumed after a point that a proposal was coming.
I think he loves you and is confused. And I think you should cut contact with him and move on emotionally as soon as you possibly can.
He’s a fool to let you go for a bag of magic beans, and it won’t turn out well for him, but you shouldn’t settle for less than you deserve. There’s a world of good guys out there for you to meet once you’re ready.
And you most definitely can do this. Many people before you have. It just sucks huge ass.
He was cheated on in past relationships. Trying to build trust, but navigating this has been a challenge.
I included everybody except your boyfriend. I would think that would be the first person you would check with. They all me and she got to have your seasonal work buddy in there over your boyfriend night. I completely understand that so I don’t even know how to read this I stopped.
No he said he wouldn't have sex with the girl if we did ffm
They really think abortion clinics have punch cards like BUY 9 ABORTIONS, GET THE TENTH ONE FREE!! like so fucking absurd
I don’t know the whole story, maybe add more to it? Like how long have you been seeing each other, do you hang out a lot, have you communicated about this to him? Things like that. Because based on your post I can just say he’s a dick ??♀️
If this is something you can’t get past, it may not be good for your mental health to hold it in. You may have to come clean about it, because your guilt might manifest in less healthy ways
You are 8 months pregnant, you have a developing human being in you and your blood is filled with chemicals and hormones in quantities it never usually has.
Apologize and ask him to understand and try and make it work. Acknowledge your issues but say the pregnancy makes it worse. Offer to go to counseling either by yourself or as a couple to help work through it. Dont force an answer, but on your part work to be better. Note, this doesn't mean be a doormat your 8 months pregnant, you need to take of yourself. It means be kind and loving
Just tell her that.
How can you say he doesn't like her more than you? You're speculating just as much as everyone else, only difference is no one here is thinking about telling the friend. You keep saying you're not jealous, which might be the case, but you are very full of yourself.