Recently divorced. Not worth it. You already have an asset to fight over that will cost you lawyer fees if you split and decide she needs to go or you decide to leave and sell.
Good luck!
Just do NOT get legally bound to her. You can stay together and figure shit out; or allow her to cheat but ask her to be open about it. There are options and it’s not our place to judge whatever you decide, but at this point I’d take marriage off the table.
Something is up. If she was doing fine this whole time and suddenly her behavior changes that, to me, would indicate something has happened to cause this. I would advocate that she needs to talk to a doctor, a therapist, family. Because this sounds sound like just a bachelors degree, this sounds like a masters or doctorate which you dont go willy nilly into and are in it for the long haul.
My untreated ex would do this if I ever wore a high pony tail without being next to him. It was his favorite, so it was his.
Another little anecdote for you. Years after I'd found a song I loved, Blood in the Cut by K-flay, and he told me that he thought I was so gross for loving it because he thought it meant I wanted people to “make my p*ssy bleed”…….
I suppose that would be possible, to make sure he had uninterrupted time to browse. Doesn’t say how long they’ve been dating but yet another red flag was going through the phone in such manner. I’ve been dating my gf for over a year, possibly close to two and I wouldn’t dream of browsing her phone, especially without consent. Modern phones are so smart and personal. Until we start talking marriage, I wouldn’t try to browse her phone without consent.
You can attend both and should. Great job getting your medical degree! I hope your work gives you the kind of independence that minimises your family's tendency to play favourites.
Sex he wants sex. Why else would someone who doesn't like you or have any affection toward all of a sudden turn on the charm? You are a means to an end.
Oh god…if they’re still together when she becomes a copywriter, he’ll be back to say “well, she’s home all day anyway, so I don’t see why she can’t do all the housework”
I hate to break this to you, but if he’s on tinder it’s Because you aren’t providing to one of his needs. Point blank…
Has he asked you to join him at his location and you’ve given 30 excuses not to?
Perhaps a little intimate time via video? When’s the last time that happened?
Do you argue when calling? Long distance calls shouldn’t have any arguments (litterally your so far apart what are you arguing about?)
Look if he’s on tinder and you don’t figure out why, he’s gunna or is planning on leaving.
You can confront him about it, argue about it or use that attitude that it’s his fault.
Hey how was work, like what I’m wearing, any plans for the day? Oops this strap just came loose….Tell me what do you think about after work.
Been in 10 year relationship long distance (trust me this is the problem, your not meeting a need)
Recently divorced. Not worth it. You already have an asset to fight over that will cost you lawyer fees if you split and decide she needs to go or you decide to leave and sell.
Good luck!
Just do NOT get legally bound to her. You can stay together and figure shit out; or allow her to cheat but ask her to be open about it. There are options and it’s not our place to judge whatever you decide, but at this point I’d take marriage off the table.
So why are you worried about your reputation with people you don't have a relationship with?
I'm sorry but she can be friends with whomever she likes. Frankly it's none of your business who's she friends with, let her do her own thing.
Something is up. If she was doing fine this whole time and suddenly her behavior changes that, to me, would indicate something has happened to cause this. I would advocate that she needs to talk to a doctor, a therapist, family. Because this sounds sound like just a bachelors degree, this sounds like a masters or doctorate which you dont go willy nilly into and are in it for the long haul.
Thank you this is exactly what I was looking for.
Just ask her where her ring is. Simple question should elicit a simple answer.
My untreated ex would do this if I ever wore a high pony tail without being next to him. It was his favorite, so it was his.
Another little anecdote for you. Years after I'd found a song I loved, Blood in the Cut by K-flay, and he told me that he thought I was so gross for loving it because he thought it meant I wanted people to “make my p*ssy bleed”…….
Seriously, this is the shit you want away from.
I mean they can’t be very good friend if he’s willing to dump her completely for a new gf.
Someone needs to provide common sense advice.
There is a mob echo chamber of emotion based advice. Just look at the downvotes.
If you want mob advice there is plenty that give you what you want.
Not angry at him for feeling lonely per se, but for his reaction to it I think
Is it a penis?
I suppose that would be possible, to make sure he had uninterrupted time to browse. Doesn’t say how long they’ve been dating but yet another red flag was going through the phone in such manner. I’ve been dating my gf for over a year, possibly close to two and I wouldn’t dream of browsing her phone, especially without consent. Modern phones are so smart and personal. Until we start talking marriage, I wouldn’t try to browse her phone without consent.
You can attend both and should. Great job getting your medical degree! I hope your work gives you the kind of independence that minimises your family's tendency to play favourites.
How will your gf get health insurance?
Sex he wants sex. Why else would someone who doesn't like you or have any affection toward all of a sudden turn on the charm? You are a means to an end.
Tell her you would like more effort on her part in accepting you.
Oh god…if they’re still together when she becomes a copywriter, he’ll be back to say “well, she’s home all day anyway, so I don’t see why she can’t do all the housework”
You saw him again after the first time…?