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The problem is, his only incentive to move is your happiness. Everything else seems like it would be worse for him (leaving the town he has always lived in, selling a house he loves, being further from friends and family, etc.). You have every right to want to, and take, this new job opportunity. But you also DONT have the right to expect him to uproot his life and move, especially if he is the “breadwinner” and there are other cons too. Maybe there is some sort of compromise here, but ultimately think of it this way: if the roles were perfectly reversed, would you uproot your whole life and move just so he could take a new job when it makes less?
NTA she can have a dress up party if she wants, but that doesn’t mean everyone has to dress up. If it makes you uncomfortable then don’t do it. Explain to her that you’re not keen on dressing up, you will support her by being at the party but not by spending extra money and dressing up
You know who leaves 30 minute audio messages, psychos, that's who.
It's ok to outgrow people and their friendships. But anyone who dedicates 30 minutes to try and prove you wrong is bananas. And she does this all the time.
Text her to stop. And tell her you're deleting them from now on without opening them. When she wants to be a real friend again and have a normal conversation, she can meet you out for coffee. 99% chance the trash takes itself out after that.
She sends you a nasty response. Block her. I mean, she doesn't respect the fact that you can have a different opinion, so is she even really a friend anymore??? And if she continues to insult you, aren't you heading in that direction anyway? Blocking her and her absence might be a relief.
Yeah. What would be mature is choosing your well-being and your safety. But you’re choosing manipulation, control and pettiness. You’re young, si it’s normal for you to be immature, I guess, but this is a learning opportunity.
Don’t try to make him react. You’ll never win and it’ll be never-ending. Just do what needs to be done and move on.
I texted him on the way there “why dont you want me to come” and he just never responded. When we were coming home from his friends place I asked him why didnt he want me to come and he said that other people canceled and he knew it would look bad if only the two of them together.
I dont know how he would earn my trust back. I genuinely dont know, sorry
Get records of everything possible, line up a lawyer, go to HR. If the HR team and company is competent, they'll handle it. If they suck, get that lawyer on the phone and wait for that paycheck.
Changing her number has 0 to do with cheating. That's so extra and cringe. If you don't trust her, break up with her. But it's not her job to change her phone number (which is a ginormous thing to ask someone to do) just because you're unhappy someone has her number. That's just controlling, which is a red flag on your part.
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The problem is, his only incentive to move is your happiness. Everything else seems like it would be worse for him (leaving the town he has always lived in, selling a house he loves, being further from friends and family, etc.). You have every right to want to, and take, this new job opportunity. But you also DONT have the right to expect him to uproot his life and move, especially if he is the “breadwinner” and there are other cons too. Maybe there is some sort of compromise here, but ultimately think of it this way: if the roles were perfectly reversed, would you uproot your whole life and move just so he could take a new job when it makes less?
NTA she can have a dress up party if she wants, but that doesn’t mean everyone has to dress up. If it makes you uncomfortable then don’t do it. Explain to her that you’re not keen on dressing up, you will support her by being at the party but not by spending extra money and dressing up
You know who leaves 30 minute audio messages, psychos, that's who.
It's ok to outgrow people and their friendships. But anyone who dedicates 30 minutes to try and prove you wrong is bananas. And she does this all the time.
Text her to stop. And tell her you're deleting them from now on without opening them. When she wants to be a real friend again and have a normal conversation, she can meet you out for coffee. 99% chance the trash takes itself out after that.
She sends you a nasty response. Block her. I mean, she doesn't respect the fact that you can have a different opinion, so is she even really a friend anymore??? And if she continues to insult you, aren't you heading in that direction anyway? Blocking her and her absence might be a relief.
Yeah. What would be mature is choosing your well-being and your safety. But you’re choosing manipulation, control and pettiness. You’re young, si it’s normal for you to be immature, I guess, but this is a learning opportunity.
Don’t try to make him react. You’ll never win and it’ll be never-ending. Just do what needs to be done and move on.
How do u know for sure it was a relative he was on the phone to?
yes its fine
I texted him on the way there “why dont you want me to come” and he just never responded. When we were coming home from his friends place I asked him why didnt he want me to come and he said that other people canceled and he knew it would look bad if only the two of them together.
I dont know how he would earn my trust back. I genuinely dont know, sorry
Who the hell drives six hours so thier kid can have a booty call? I love mine more than life but that sounds absurd.
Get records of everything possible, line up a lawyer, go to HR. If the HR team and company is competent, they'll handle it. If they suck, get that lawyer on the phone and wait for that paycheck.
Changing her number has 0 to do with cheating. That's so extra and cringe. If you don't trust her, break up with her. But it's not her job to change her phone number (which is a ginormous thing to ask someone to do) just because you're unhappy someone has her number. That's just controlling, which is a red flag on your part.