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Yeah, let him get that PHD so all the 19yo can get in line. Report his ass. I am in academics, and he does not deserve to be, no matter how little more it takes, and how many years he spent towards that goal. His fault.
Sheâs going to be bringing rebound bandmate/affair partner into her kidsâ home and lives when she barely knows him. Thatâs why sheâs getting hate.
Sometimes, no matter how sorry you genuinely are and no matter how much youâve changed, bridges that were burnt stay burnt. Sometimes there is no path to forgiveness, only one to respecting othersâ wishes and to self-acceptance.
This is the case with the parents of the child who passed. The have made it abundantly clear that they donât want to hear from you. Ever. And it has nothing to do with your ability/inability to craft the ârightâ verbiage, or find the perfect place or time, or how pure your intentions may be, or how genuinely to-the-depths-of-your-soul sorry you are. Itâs just not about you, itâs about them, and they donât want contact. Period. So donât. In any way, shape, or form, for any reason. That is how you can show them respect.
The situation with your parents is different. They love you, and are happy for the changes youâve made, which is positive. But thereâs no way to hit a magic button and erase the past, and it sounds like they still need more time to process all the hurt and upset that came before. Not because they want to hurt or punish you, but because they, too, are human, and it just takes time. Thereâs no switch to flip, no shortcut button, no accelerator pedal. Theyâve got to process things in their way, at their speed.
And with that in mind, what they need from you – what will show them love and respect – is for you to be patient, and to be respectful of their space. Like did you ever have a coach in high school tell you to âwalk it off?â Well, this prior pattern of behavior and the consequences it wrought had a substantially larger impact than a bumped knee in gym class. Theyâre going to need to âwalk things offâ for a good while.
So donât crowd them, or prod them, or continue to explain or apologize – that can all come across as a guilt trip, even if thatâs not your intent. Just let them âwalk,â and at their speed and in their direction. No more pressure.
Some further advice for you would be to 1. Talk to your therapist about all this (and to get a therapist, if you havenât already). 2. If your therapist agrees, look on-line to see if you can find accounts of otherâs experiences with âmaking amends.â Youâre not alone in going through the process, and not alone in it being a struggle. I would just remind you to be exceedingly respectful of the safe spaces that people and groups have built for themselves live, particularly around a vulnerable topic like this. 3. Again, if your therapist agrees, carefully seek out and build new relationships, with people who you can build a fresh start with. Also working with your therapist on how and when to be honest about your past with people you get close to. Who you were doesnât have to define who you are going forward.
She is going to likely be entitled to a share of your assets and possibly some minimal spousal support. Do a complete work up of your finances and book a consult with a lawyer. Stratagize from there. One option is to have them draft up a separation agreement, give her the draft, tell her to get independent legal advice then sign and return to your lawyer and she'll get a cheque to cover her expenses while she determines her next steps. Then leave. You have no guilt if your proposal is fair, she can use that money to transition out of your marriage.
The longer you stay in this situation, the more money you will owe her.
If you are still sleeping together, you are jeopardizing your chance at a clean break.
You guys are too young. Walk away. Maybe she'll get her shit together and you'll see her again down the line. But if not, your life isn't ruined too.
Especially if you know your ex to be a dick it will be for the best to indeed proceed the way your boyfriend suggests. I know the white knight army will soon come here and say how it's never okay to lie, but the reality is some things are more important in life (like the good of the child) and making the child officially your boyfriend's is for the best here probably.
In a way you are kind of lucky, a lot of women have to do that kind of thing behind their partners' backs and lie to them as a result which causes very unhealthy relationship dynamic. The fact that you boyfriend is on board with this is a huge win for you, I wouldn't waste it.
If you think it's fake, why didn't you start with that point? Why all this crap about talking down to someone about their own culture? You just like to argue.
as an idea, perhaps start planning a large 30th birthday party for your wife and invite everyone in your neighborhood, your kids school, camps, etc etc etc, Make it very large and very public
Yeah, I kind of think that your sister or somebody there did inappropriate things and they shifted the situation over to your girlfriend so anything she said would be ignored because she was so dramatically caught in that really good video that they they filmed. I would wonder what your sister did
Your reaction alone to this shows that itâs difficult to speak with you about things. You ask to thread for help but seem pretty stuck on being mad.
The double standard isnât in your relationship it is in society im saying you should forgive this slip up on his end because this is something heâs been conditioned to do as a man. Take care and hold his own problems in. Iâm suggesting that you are indeed blowing this out of proportion.
Acknowledge the good in the situation that he put solving your problem first and held the burden of his own on himself. Itâs not what you wanted but itâs not coming from a bad place.
Now that youâre aware of it discuss how it made you feel and let him feel open and confident in working through problems with you in the past instead of adding more anxiety to the pile.
If you havenât read this subreddit before this is a small problem that you can certainly work through in comparison to other posts you will see.
Pick what you want to do most. For me Iâd rather be at my brothers wedding. I would have skipped my Grad but my mom really wanted to go. Although it wasnât medical school. But seriously do you
His actions after the fact don't paint him in good light. And yes he was raped so he needs to break up with the 21 year old. His ex is allowed her feelings and if she has chosen to move on, that's ok too.
I donât think it is unreasonable for you to end the relationship because of that. If you would have mentioned that she had that amount of debt because she was studying to become a surgeon in a very niche specialized field or computer science studying machine learning and AI, etc I could see the investment but for a job that would pay 60-85k or max $125k (which is not that much these days) thatâs way too much debt.
I wouldnât continue the relationship if this is bothering you right now, finance destroyed couples every day. It will be worst when you have a house or kids, both are very expensive and I donât see how you guys will be able to get approved for a mortgage with that amount of debt. What are you going to do if you lose your job or she lose hers or have unexpected expenses?
If you're friends with the guy then not only is it a no-bro thing to keep it from him; it's gonna eat you up every time you're with them. If I was him I'd want to know.
Could it be possible your wife isn't happy with this situation at all and that's her real reason behind the lie? Is is possible she's mistreating your eldest child behind your back and that's why he intervened saying he doesn't care? Could it be she hates that you have a child with another women and she didn't birth your first born?
She says she lied because she's concerned with how it looks. But you didn't abandon your child, you didn't know he exists. Technology has advanced quickly. Most people would understand how impossible it would have been to find the father of your kid 15 years ago and then suddenly how easy it was 5 years ago. Sure, your situation is most men's worst nightmare, unknowingly having fathered a child. But that's the worst that can be said. Especially as now you know you're incredibly involved.
Yeah, let him get that PHD so all the 19yo can get in line. Report his ass. I am in academics, and he does not deserve to be, no matter how little more it takes, and how many years he spent towards that goal. His fault.
We need an update.
Well, marry him and start your own tradition with him being the first to pass.
Then, marry someone even older and so on…
Don't let those technicalities and moral choices stop you.
Sheâs going to be bringing rebound bandmate/affair partner into her kidsâ home and lives when she barely knows him. Thatâs why sheâs getting hate.
Sometimes, no matter how sorry you genuinely are and no matter how much youâve changed, bridges that were burnt stay burnt. Sometimes there is no path to forgiveness, only one to respecting othersâ wishes and to self-acceptance.
This is the case with the parents of the child who passed. The have made it abundantly clear that they donât want to hear from you. Ever. And it has nothing to do with your ability/inability to craft the ârightâ verbiage, or find the perfect place or time, or how pure your intentions may be, or how genuinely to-the-depths-of-your-soul sorry you are. Itâs just not about you, itâs about them, and they donât want contact. Period. So donât. In any way, shape, or form, for any reason. That is how you can show them respect.
The situation with your parents is different. They love you, and are happy for the changes youâve made, which is positive. But thereâs no way to hit a magic button and erase the past, and it sounds like they still need more time to process all the hurt and upset that came before. Not because they want to hurt or punish you, but because they, too, are human, and it just takes time. Thereâs no switch to flip, no shortcut button, no accelerator pedal. Theyâve got to process things in their way, at their speed.
And with that in mind, what they need from you – what will show them love and respect – is for you to be patient, and to be respectful of their space. Like did you ever have a coach in high school tell you to âwalk it off?â Well, this prior pattern of behavior and the consequences it wrought had a substantially larger impact than a bumped knee in gym class. Theyâre going to need to âwalk things offâ for a good while.
So donât crowd them, or prod them, or continue to explain or apologize – that can all come across as a guilt trip, even if thatâs not your intent. Just let them âwalk,â and at their speed and in their direction. No more pressure.
Some further advice for you would be to 1. Talk to your therapist about all this (and to get a therapist, if you havenât already). 2. If your therapist agrees, look on-line to see if you can find accounts of otherâs experiences with âmaking amends.â Youâre not alone in going through the process, and not alone in it being a struggle. I would just remind you to be exceedingly respectful of the safe spaces that people and groups have built for themselves live, particularly around a vulnerable topic like this. 3. Again, if your therapist agrees, carefully seek out and build new relationships, with people who you can build a fresh start with. Also working with your therapist on how and when to be honest about your past with people you get close to. Who you were doesnât have to define who you are going forward.
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She is going to likely be entitled to a share of your assets and possibly some minimal spousal support. Do a complete work up of your finances and book a consult with a lawyer. Stratagize from there. One option is to have them draft up a separation agreement, give her the draft, tell her to get independent legal advice then sign and return to your lawyer and she'll get a cheque to cover her expenses while she determines her next steps. Then leave. You have no guilt if your proposal is fair, she can use that money to transition out of your marriage.
The longer you stay in this situation, the more money you will owe her.
If you are still sleeping together, you are jeopardizing your chance at a clean break.
You guys are too young. Walk away. Maybe she'll get her shit together and you'll see her again down the line. But if not, your life isn't ruined too.
Leaving her was the best thing you could have done. What a narcissist
Especially if you know your ex to be a dick it will be for the best to indeed proceed the way your boyfriend suggests. I know the white knight army will soon come here and say how it's never okay to lie, but the reality is some things are more important in life (like the good of the child) and making the child officially your boyfriend's is for the best here probably.
In a way you are kind of lucky, a lot of women have to do that kind of thing behind their partners' backs and lie to them as a result which causes very unhealthy relationship dynamic. The fact that you boyfriend is on board with this is a huge win for you, I wouldn't waste it.
If you think it's fake, why didn't you start with that point? Why all this crap about talking down to someone about their own culture? You just like to argue.
as an idea, perhaps start planning a large 30th birthday party for your wife and invite everyone in your neighborhood, your kids school, camps, etc etc etc, Make it very large and very public
Yeah, I kind of think that your sister or somebody there did inappropriate things and they shifted the situation over to your girlfriend so anything she said would be ignored because she was so dramatically caught in that really good video that they they filmed. I would wonder what your sister did
Your reaction alone to this shows that itâs difficult to speak with you about things. You ask to thread for help but seem pretty stuck on being mad.
The double standard isnât in your relationship it is in society im saying you should forgive this slip up on his end because this is something heâs been conditioned to do as a man. Take care and hold his own problems in. Iâm suggesting that you are indeed blowing this out of proportion.
Acknowledge the good in the situation that he put solving your problem first and held the burden of his own on himself. Itâs not what you wanted but itâs not coming from a bad place.
Now that youâre aware of it discuss how it made you feel and let him feel open and confident in working through problems with you in the past instead of adding more anxiety to the pile.
If you havenât read this subreddit before this is a small problem that you can certainly work through in comparison to other posts you will see.
Says the person who came to Reddit asking for adviceâŚ
Well either way, someone wasn't listening and apparnelty is now.
Pick what you want to do most. For me Iâd rather be at my brothers wedding. I would have skipped my Grad but my mom really wanted to go. Although it wasnât medical school. But seriously do you
His actions after the fact don't paint him in good light. And yes he was raped so he needs to break up with the 21 year old. His ex is allowed her feelings and if she has chosen to move on, that's ok too.
I donât think it is unreasonable for you to end the relationship because of that. If you would have mentioned that she had that amount of debt because she was studying to become a surgeon in a very niche specialized field or computer science studying machine learning and AI, etc I could see the investment but for a job that would pay 60-85k or max $125k (which is not that much these days) thatâs way too much debt.
I wouldnât continue the relationship if this is bothering you right now, finance destroyed couples every day. It will be worst when you have a house or kids, both are very expensive and I donât see how you guys will be able to get approved for a mortgage with that amount of debt. What are you going to do if you lose your job or she lose hers or have unexpected expenses?
> The guy was saved under a different name, and almost all messages were deleted
Leave, for good
If you're friends with the guy then not only is it a no-bro thing to keep it from him; it's gonna eat you up every time you're with them. If I was him I'd want to know.
Could it be possible your wife isn't happy with this situation at all and that's her real reason behind the lie? Is is possible she's mistreating your eldest child behind your back and that's why he intervened saying he doesn't care? Could it be she hates that you have a child with another women and she didn't birth your first born?
She says she lied because she's concerned with how it looks. But you didn't abandon your child, you didn't know he exists. Technology has advanced quickly. Most people would understand how impossible it would have been to find the father of your kid 15 years ago and then suddenly how easy it was 5 years ago. Sure, your situation is most men's worst nightmare, unknowingly having fathered a child. But that's the worst that can be said. Especially as now you know you're incredibly involved.
Even when I do try to leave she posts me all over Facebook man lol. No whining