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In response to your question of “how should I deal with this?” I would suggest you stop being so shallow, and that you stop asking your boyfriend stupid questions that you don't actually want the answer to.
Physical appearance is the least interesting thing about a person. Whilst it can be what attracts someone in the first place, long term relationships are built on so much more than physical appearance. Your appearance also changes over the years, so its not something you can count on not changing.
Have you ever asked him who was his most interesting girlfriend? His most intelligent? The most well-read? The most academic? The most daring? The most trustworthy? The funniest? The best in bed? These are all important aspects of a person's overall character.
NB: DON'T ASK ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS, I'm just pointing out some of the other, arguably more important aspects of character that you are ignoring in favour of something people have no control over.
You need to stop comparing yourself to other people, and you also need to stop asking your boyfriend stupid questions that can only make you feel bad. You're setting up both of you, and the relationship, for failure if you continue down this route.
It's always hot ending relationships, but know you did the right thing. There's no right way to them, just getting it over the line is enough.
Blocking her was wise, at least for right now. You don't need to be guilt tripped back into a relationship, which is all that would happen. Be strong, you've got this.
Damn. What the holy fuck. I’ve told employers to go fuck themselves. But throwing papers around and rage quitting like that is some shit my 5 year old does. He’s a grown ass man and doing shit like that?
sounds like he found out that people in the same field talk to each other. Starbucks has insurance….
I know exactly what you're talking about, I had the same thing happen to me. It was like something flipped a switch and the man I loved and whose touch I usually craved suddenly grossed me out. For no reason at all. From one day to the next. When he hugged me, I felt trapped and wanted nothing more than for him to let me go, when he kissed me, I had to wipe my mouth after. Like you, I was concerned and confused and, after a while, asked my Mom for advice…and she told me exactly what yours said: suffer through it, it'll go back to normal in a little while. She was right (it had happened to her, too!). I felt bad for feeling that way towards him, but it went away after a couple of weeks of conscious efforts to enjoy our intimacy again. Sorry, I don't have an explanation for you, but hang in there, it'll get better.
It really depends on what you want to see happen. You might be able to salvage the relationship if you both quit drinking,are both in therapy, and both working and contributing financially. Revisit the topic of porn in therapy with a professional that can see the situation without any bias or preconceived notion, mutually decide if either of you can or will budge on the subject.
If this sounds like too much (because this WILL be a lot of work on both parts), boot her out and be done with her. Those are the only two realistic avenues.
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yours is just as disturbing as hers lol
Obviously you break up with him. Don't trust someone who lies to you about sticking his dick in a side chick.
In response to your question of “how should I deal with this?” I would suggest you stop being so shallow, and that you stop asking your boyfriend stupid questions that you don't actually want the answer to.
Physical appearance is the least interesting thing about a person. Whilst it can be what attracts someone in the first place, long term relationships are built on so much more than physical appearance. Your appearance also changes over the years, so its not something you can count on not changing.
Have you ever asked him who was his most interesting girlfriend? His most intelligent? The most well-read? The most academic? The most daring? The most trustworthy? The funniest? The best in bed? These are all important aspects of a person's overall character.
NB: DON'T ASK ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS, I'm just pointing out some of the other, arguably more important aspects of character that you are ignoring in favour of something people have no control over.
You need to stop comparing yourself to other people, and you also need to stop asking your boyfriend stupid questions that can only make you feel bad. You're setting up both of you, and the relationship, for failure if you continue down this route.
Marriage means you're supposed to be making decisions they, as a team, for your future together.
It sounds like she is prioritizing decisions made with the boyfriend at the expense of you.
I know it seems bad, but I can't change what I feel. So I need him to stop.
You were better off cheating and getting caught my guy
Did you say good bye to her child?
It's always hot ending relationships, but know you did the right thing. There's no right way to them, just getting it over the line is enough.
Blocking her was wise, at least for right now. You don't need to be guilt tripped back into a relationship, which is all that would happen. Be strong, you've got this.
Damn. What the holy fuck. I’ve told employers to go fuck themselves. But throwing papers around and rage quitting like that is some shit my 5 year old does. He’s a grown ass man and doing shit like that?
sounds like he found out that people in the same field talk to each other. Starbucks has insurance….
I know exactly what you're talking about, I had the same thing happen to me. It was like something flipped a switch and the man I loved and whose touch I usually craved suddenly grossed me out. For no reason at all. From one day to the next. When he hugged me, I felt trapped and wanted nothing more than for him to let me go, when he kissed me, I had to wipe my mouth after. Like you, I was concerned and confused and, after a while, asked my Mom for advice…and she told me exactly what yours said: suffer through it, it'll go back to normal in a little while. She was right (it had happened to her, too!). I felt bad for feeling that way towards him, but it went away after a couple of weeks of conscious efforts to enjoy our intimacy again. Sorry, I don't have an explanation for you, but hang in there, it'll get better.
Age gap strikes again!
It really depends on what you want to see happen. You might be able to salvage the relationship if you both quit drinking,are both in therapy, and both working and contributing financially. Revisit the topic of porn in therapy with a professional that can see the situation without any bias or preconceived notion, mutually decide if either of you can or will budge on the subject.
If this sounds like too much (because this WILL be a lot of work on both parts), boot her out and be done with her. Those are the only two realistic avenues.