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Date: October 30, 2022
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I would like someone to introduce themselves in a public place like a bar or restaurant. You are around people so it wouldn't be scary, and it shows some effort on the guy's part. My favorite latest introduction took place in a jazz bar while I was sitting at the bar with my friends. He asked if he could have the seat next to mine and struck up a conversation. We had a great time.
I wrote a huge long reply but it was mostly bullshit so I’m shortening it! Basically there’s room for counselling to “fix” everything here. If it doesn’t though and either of you have doubts then get out and get out quick. Plastering over cracks and pretending they’re not there doesn’t stop the building eventually collapsing.
Speaking from experience, there is someone out there who doesn’t need counselling to work out how to love you how you need to be loved. There’s someone out there who can make your trust issues vanish as if they never existed. Your fiancé might become that guy after a gentle nudge from counselling but if he doesn’t you need to leave. It’s only fair on both of you as eventually this will break you anyway if not completely resolved.
I was depressed and suicidal for 15 years and nearly took my life. It was torture.
No ones empathy saved me, and I am convinced I was at times dangerously enabled by people I sought out for the sole reason of getting “compassion.” It made me feel better, but only in the very short term. Tools, strategies, solutions, and reality checks slowly saved me. If OP is being supported through school but is fixated on complaining which they themselves admitted, they need a wake up call.
Google “idiot compassion.” There’s a lot of great Buddhist articles about- I purposely left that comment because most of the other comments were “empathizing” and reinforcing the OPs narrative.
There’s a growing body of research that shows that talk therapy focused on passive listening and “empathy” can actually cause long term harm.
I left another comment for OP and I hope they can reframe their story, not cling to a narrative of helplessness that is going to make all their problems worse.
Being “nice” and echoing depressed peoples thoughts back to them is dangerous. Depressed thoughts need to be challenged. Depression is a terrible liar.
General rule: Don’t but a house with someone you’ve never lived with.
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You need to dump him. Once they cheat they keep cheating.
He just got caught he will find better ways to hide it.
On the kid you will have to deal with baby momma less wages and if you have kids everything will be shared.
If baby moma dumps the kids on your door you will have to raise them.
What if he has more??
Dump him while you can.
Maybe stop listening to your friends. Unless this woman is a neurotic mess she not “testing” you, she's just living her life and some guy thousands of miles away she's been flirting with isn't her top priority. Nor should it be. Anyone worth dating isn't going to make the situation as described their very top thing to do all day. It's actually a good thing when someone you're contemplating a penpal romance with has IRL friends and activities. It means they're a well rounded, productive person who isn't going to become an oppressive LDR stalker. Try to relax so you don't put too much expectation into this. You're flirting with someone you game with, you're not proposing marriage. Just take it easy.
Lifeprotip number 1: Girls(immature especially) always have a backup plan available for when the relationship ends, the more attractive she is the more orbiters she will have to choose from to quickly move on from you.
I'd suggest trying to take a break before completely breaking it off.
I think he should come to see you where you are, and get him to meet your parents and spend time with him. They need to build a relationship with him in order to trust him.
And what does he plan to do when his mom eventually dies one day? In any case you need to get yourself out of this situation, this marriage isn't going to do you any good OP.
Just message “hey that concert is coming – I’d love to still go together or if plans have changed can I get my ticket from you?” and see what happens. Sometimes life gets busy as adults
I was talking specifically about 'manic episode' which is a particular term and set of symptoms in psychiatry.
You're absolutely right in saying there's no uniform set of symptoms.
I put it like that because I’m encouraging you to dump her ass
Break up with her, she is incredibly insecure, because you want to meet your mom every 2-3 weeks is not a reason to break up. So many people have good relationships with their parents….