While this could be a step in the right direction, the next order of business would be some kind of counseling, individual and together as a couple. Between your insecurity and his deeply cut betrayal I don’t see a healthy relationship being nurtured.
I was in a similar situation to you, my ex bf & I were together for a good long while before I discovered he’d spent the first handful of months texting and seeing his ex. I, too, tried to leave the past in the past and assumed that since we’d had a few years pass since he’d done it…. that it would all be okay and I could forgive him.
Well, I couldn’t forgive him and it ended up just creating toxicity and we are no longer together. Even though it happened long ago, it was impossible to be “over it.” I was constantly reminded that the first chunk of our relationship had been a lie. If I were you, I’d leave now before things become toxic. It’s extremely hot to force yourself not to care about these things, you’ll only end up taking your frustration out on her in the long run and no one will be happy.
That’s where I keep meds since you shouldn’t keep them in the bathroom. Have you ever taken a large amount of Xanax? A medium to higher dose could definitely cause someone to pass out and not remember sex on its own. If it’s mixed with alcohol it’s even worse.
Don't do it. Your wife is delusional, fir suggesting it in the first place then compounding it by trying to involve her friend. Neither of you have had any experience with other people so are naive at best, this will destroy your marriage.
Just save yourself the heartache. Call it quits. He just doesn’t want to be the bad guy. But he’s got goals that involve other girls.
While this could be a step in the right direction, the next order of business would be some kind of counseling, individual and together as a couple. Between your insecurity and his deeply cut betrayal I don’t see a healthy relationship being nurtured.
Look up the definition of push and try again.
I was in a similar situation to you, my ex bf & I were together for a good long while before I discovered he’d spent the first handful of months texting and seeing his ex. I, too, tried to leave the past in the past and assumed that since we’d had a few years pass since he’d done it…. that it would all be okay and I could forgive him.
Well, I couldn’t forgive him and it ended up just creating toxicity and we are no longer together. Even though it happened long ago, it was impossible to be “over it.” I was constantly reminded that the first chunk of our relationship had been a lie. If I were you, I’d leave now before things become toxic. It’s extremely hot to force yourself not to care about these things, you’ll only end up taking your frustration out on her in the long run and no one will be happy.
It's sad but sometimes we need a wake up call that kinda shake things up.
Whatever you guys end up deciding can make you stronger and more mature, together or not.
just to clarify, was she talkng about group sex before you two started dating or have these been occurring during that time?
how casually have you two been seeing each other? Do you basically act like a couple just without the label? Do you say ILY to each other?
Like date women lol but it’s just a joke
That’s where I keep meds since you shouldn’t keep them in the bathroom. Have you ever taken a large amount of Xanax? A medium to higher dose could definitely cause someone to pass out and not remember sex on its own. If it’s mixed with alcohol it’s even worse.
Don't do it. Your wife is delusional, fir suggesting it in the first place then compounding it by trying to involve her friend. Neither of you have had any experience with other people so are naive at best, this will destroy your marriage.
He knows. He's hoping you're afraid to confront him. Do it. NOW. It was no mistake and everyone knows that. Close the account to him. Open your own.