I know people like your wife. They're takers. They take and take and give nothing in return and they won't stop until you're just an empty shell of who you used to be.
She can't be helped. She won't be helped because she doesn't want to be helped. It's far easier for her to claim that she's depressed and anxious so people around her won't criticise her for being lazy.
Stop helping him. Let him be late for work, let him miss things. If you have events together tell him the time you need to leave, tell him if he is not ready to go by a specific time you will go without him, and then follow through with it.
Give him a warning “from now on I will no longer wake you up, it is up to you and I will not be the one responsible for you missing or being late to things because you can’t do it yourself or get help to make it so that you can”
He needs to
1 – see a sleep specialist (it’s possible he has sleep apnoea?) or some other kind of sleep disorder.
2 – he needs to sort it out himself. You are not his mother.
He's a boyfriend, yet he “routinely forces” you to do something. My friends aren't allowed to force me to do anything.
I know people like your wife. They're takers. They take and take and give nothing in return and they won't stop until you're just an empty shell of who you used to be.
She can't be helped. She won't be helped because she doesn't want to be helped. It's far easier for her to claim that she's depressed and anxious so people around her won't criticise her for being lazy.
She won't ever change.
Stop helping him. Let him be late for work, let him miss things. If you have events together tell him the time you need to leave, tell him if he is not ready to go by a specific time you will go without him, and then follow through with it.
Give him a warning “from now on I will no longer wake you up, it is up to you and I will not be the one responsible for you missing or being late to things because you can’t do it yourself or get help to make it so that you can”
He needs to
1 – see a sleep specialist (it’s possible he has sleep apnoea?) or some other kind of sleep disorder.
2 – he needs to sort it out himself. You are not his mother.
Obviously you can’t stay sexless. So either break up or open the relationship. Those are the only 2 options.