…it’s easy, and quite logical, to think that we will be able to handle certain things, wherein reality, when we’re in the middle of said things, we realize that we can’t and / or don’t want to.
…it’s easy, and quite logical, to think that we will be able to handle certain things, wherein reality, when we’re in the middle of said things, we realize that we can’t and / or don’t want to.
The romantic in me might say it could be salvageable and that maybe one mistake shouldn't get in the way of a great potential.
But the experienced me says “run and don't look back”.
All it takes is one abusive relationship to wreck you to the core and leave you damaged and broken. And this here is not a good look. You confessed your love for each other and literally a few hours later she kisses some other dude just in front of you.
Drunk or not, that shows a deep lack of self-control and consideration for you. That's not the kind of things that gets fixed quickly and effortlessly. While I can trust the sincerity of her apology, I wouldn't trust her ability to not do that again. Apologies are useless without action.
NTA, it’s a tragic situation, eating disorders are the deadliest mental illness and she most likely requires intensive inpatient treatment by eating disorder specialists, there isn’t much more you can do until she recognizes there’s a problem.
Even if she’s not cheating on you(X to doubt), she is still being dishonest with you. If you are determined to stay together she has to be okay with a new degree of scrutiny and frankly distrust in your relationship until she regains your trust. Good luck.
The early 2000s were the dark ages. Not was it more or less acceptable then than now.
…it’s easy, and quite logical, to think that we will be able to handle certain things, wherein reality, when we’re in the middle of said things, we realize that we can’t and / or don’t want to.
This is beautifully put.
…it’s easy, and quite logical, to think that we will be able to handle certain things, wherein reality, when we’re in the middle of said things, we realize that we can’t and / or don’t want to.
This is beautifully put.
The romantic in me might say it could be salvageable and that maybe one mistake shouldn't get in the way of a great potential.
But the experienced me says “run and don't look back”.
All it takes is one abusive relationship to wreck you to the core and leave you damaged and broken. And this here is not a good look. You confessed your love for each other and literally a few hours later she kisses some other dude just in front of you.
Drunk or not, that shows a deep lack of self-control and consideration for you. That's not the kind of things that gets fixed quickly and effortlessly. While I can trust the sincerity of her apology, I wouldn't trust her ability to not do that again. Apologies are useless without action.
NTA, it’s a tragic situation, eating disorders are the deadliest mental illness and she most likely requires intensive inpatient treatment by eating disorder specialists, there isn’t much more you can do until she recognizes there’s a problem.
And I wish I could say that I'm only a little over weight, but I'm not. I'm like 5'6 and 330lbs.
Even if she’s not cheating on you(X to doubt), she is still being dishonest with you. If you are determined to stay together she has to be okay with a new degree of scrutiny and frankly distrust in your relationship until she regains your trust. Good luck.
Tell her if you will be safe from your ex if you do.
You come across as quote aggressive – do you not think he has learned this attitude from you?
You okay mate?