At the first daycare I worked at, they gave out “annual bonuses”. Turns out, it was actually the extra 2.50/hour wage that the city gave to the daycare as a supplement to pay us our minimum wage. So basically, they kept the city funding for themselves to make hella interest off the top, then calculated how many hours I worked in a year, and then paid me a “bonus”. Fucking terrible.
But, like 2 years after I left there, I heard that the owners husband had an affair with one of the girls who worked there, and was now having his baby. The owner was a raging bitch so I thought it was fucking hilarious.
The cancellations up to now have mainly been to go out with friends. Of course there have been times where rehearsals etc. have meant she can't make our plans but I completely understand that. I also really see the value of her social life, I just feel hurt when it's a last minute thing when we've had plans and I don't see her much anyway.
In terms of lead up to this, the only conversations we'd had were when she'd cancelled at the last minute to do other stuff and I'd felt hurt and we'd said we would do better and try to protect evenings together etc. There hadn't been any suggestion of not seeing each other during the week as an alternative.
I'm actually fine with limited communication during the day–this course demands a lot and I get that. We have a quick call in the evening but the more and more our lives are so separate I'm feeling this distance and I just worry that this isn't sustainable, especially if this ends up being her career.
But I accept that I'm probably turning this into a bigger thing than it is.
She's both physically and emotionally abusive. Leave.
Stop telling her. She's not your friend, she's your competition.
At the first daycare I worked at, they gave out “annual bonuses”. Turns out, it was actually the extra 2.50/hour wage that the city gave to the daycare as a supplement to pay us our minimum wage. So basically, they kept the city funding for themselves to make hella interest off the top, then calculated how many hours I worked in a year, and then paid me a “bonus”. Fucking terrible.
But, like 2 years after I left there, I heard that the owners husband had an affair with one of the girls who worked there, and was now having his baby. The owner was a raging bitch so I thought it was fucking hilarious.
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The cancellations up to now have mainly been to go out with friends. Of course there have been times where rehearsals etc. have meant she can't make our plans but I completely understand that. I also really see the value of her social life, I just feel hurt when it's a last minute thing when we've had plans and I don't see her much anyway.
In terms of lead up to this, the only conversations we'd had were when she'd cancelled at the last minute to do other stuff and I'd felt hurt and we'd said we would do better and try to protect evenings together etc. There hadn't been any suggestion of not seeing each other during the week as an alternative.
I'm actually fine with limited communication during the day–this course demands a lot and I get that. We have a quick call in the evening but the more and more our lives are so separate I'm feeling this distance and I just worry that this isn't sustainable, especially if this ends up being her career.
But I accept that I'm probably turning this into a bigger thing than it is.