To play devil’s advocate I wonder if op has done anything to break gf’s trust even if they never cheated and is there a history with this Wanda person? I would not put myself in scenarios like this with someone I had history with if I were seeing someone new personally
It’s more common than you think. To deny the possibilities of what if is nonsense. No, it sounds like you don’t, I think you trivialise it. As a person who works closely with real victims of assault on the regular, 99% of it being my job, you are trivialising it. You’re literally demonising a young adult on his motives rather than educating him. People need to make mistakes to realise the error of their ways. Is his actions even close to actually physically assaulting somebody? No.
Do you think this kids going to get jail time over this “assault” no.
Then stop putting it in the same category as assault.
According to your post history you’re a bi-polar sex worker with an abusive pump?! Didn’t get that right?! I’m not here to roast you but when you say you’re environment is “unfit” for a kid, that’s a massive understatement. To be honest you sound more mature and conscientious than your BF because you know it’s a bad idea. Does the mother know what the kid would be coming into to? If the kid’s mother is seriously incompetent and the only other choice is living in such a volatile environment with you do you think the kid might be better in a foster home? Have you met the kid? Is there a chance that having them live with you might change your life for the better? I do think k your BF needs to take a step back and continue discussing before you make this commitment. Also, would CPS allow the kid to live! with you if you called in anonymously and let them know just how unfit your home would be? (That may be an option).
I’m autistic, so is my ex husband. He was just like this and in addition to cheating he nearly bankrupted us with his hobbies. You can’t fix this. Trust me. I wasted 15 ears and ruined my credit trying to save us from his irrational bullshit. Run.
Is there something you're trying to imply? Not being sarcastic or snarky. Please be direct. It's hot to read tone and intent just through text. Just say what you mean.
Oh mate let me tell you I am in the brother age range and just had a second taste of my lunch…
To play devil’s advocate I wonder if op has done anything to break gf’s trust even if they never cheated and is there a history with this Wanda person? I would not put myself in scenarios like this with someone I had history with if I were seeing someone new personally
It’s more common than you think. To deny the possibilities of what if is nonsense. No, it sounds like you don’t, I think you trivialise it. As a person who works closely with real victims of assault on the regular, 99% of it being my job, you are trivialising it. You’re literally demonising a young adult on his motives rather than educating him. People need to make mistakes to realise the error of their ways. Is his actions even close to actually physically assaulting somebody? No.
Do you think this kids going to get jail time over this “assault” no.
Then stop putting it in the same category as assault.
Just be honest with your fiancé and remind him that you’re aware of your emotional situation and are working on it
Please don't.
Even if you thought she was in a place to raise a child would you?
But do you really think she's in a good place to raise a child???
I don't see it.
According to your post history you’re a bi-polar sex worker with an abusive pump?! Didn’t get that right?! I’m not here to roast you but when you say you’re environment is “unfit” for a kid, that’s a massive understatement. To be honest you sound more mature and conscientious than your BF because you know it’s a bad idea. Does the mother know what the kid would be coming into to? If the kid’s mother is seriously incompetent and the only other choice is living in such a volatile environment with you do you think the kid might be better in a foster home? Have you met the kid? Is there a chance that having them live with you might change your life for the better? I do think k your BF needs to take a step back and continue discussing before you make this commitment. Also, would CPS allow the kid to live! with you if you called in anonymously and let them know just how unfit your home would be? (That may be an option).
I’m autistic, so is my ex husband. He was just like this and in addition to cheating he nearly bankrupted us with his hobbies. You can’t fix this. Trust me. I wasted 15 ears and ruined my credit trying to save us from his irrational bullshit. Run.
Thank you!!! OP you are definitely in an abusive relationship.
She does not love him she just doesn’t want to let go of him.
Is there something you're trying to imply? Not being sarcastic or snarky. Please be direct. It's hot to read tone and intent just through text. Just say what you mean.