He said if roles were reversed I would be devastated if he talked to another girl about our problems in bed but honestly I’m not sure if I would be or not.
Regarding the car payments, I wouldn’t use it as an excuse to break up with your BF as he is showing a willingness to sacrifice for a mistake he made. 1.5k is a lot any normal person, and it feels like even more for you BF.
Additionally, you are right that letting him use the car despite not having collision insurance was a bad move,so I do think you bear some responsibility here.
However, Infinitely more concerning are the 2 “footnotes” you included. Losing his lincense due not paying insurance and hit and running from the truck are both serious red flags IMO. These actions Indicate he prefers running from his problems and a lack of responsibility. Based on this, I am suspect to the amount he’s actually changed from when you first broke up with him isn’t actually that great.
So if you can live with a man who makes mistakes and expects other people to pay for them, stay in the relationship. But if his good qualities don’t make up for this, I’d bail.
After she said all that to you kind of shows that maybe you should do the interview after all. But you’re going to lose a relationship with her if you take it seems to already be enough damage there that you probably gonna lose it anyway. She’s pulling stats on you have how long relationships last apparently she’s already got those thoughts in your head.
He said if roles were reversed I would be devastated if he talked to another girl about our problems in bed but honestly I’m not sure if I would be or not.
Regarding the car payments, I wouldn’t use it as an excuse to break up with your BF as he is showing a willingness to sacrifice for a mistake he made. 1.5k is a lot any normal person, and it feels like even more for you BF.
Additionally, you are right that letting him use the car despite not having collision insurance was a bad move,so I do think you bear some responsibility here.
However, Infinitely more concerning are the 2 “footnotes” you included. Losing his lincense due not paying insurance and hit and running from the truck are both serious red flags IMO. These actions Indicate he prefers running from his problems and a lack of responsibility. Based on this, I am suspect to the amount he’s actually changed from when you first broke up with him isn’t actually that great.
So if you can live with a man who makes mistakes and expects other people to pay for them, stay in the relationship. But if his good qualities don’t make up for this, I’d bail.
We would be able to see all of these red flags from the moon!!
Stop checking boxes and start looking at BIG OLD RED FLAGS.
After she said all that to you kind of shows that maybe you should do the interview after all. But you’re going to lose a relationship with her if you take it seems to already be enough damage there that you probably gonna lose it anyway. She’s pulling stats on you have how long relationships last apparently she’s already got those thoughts in your head.
You (a) severely underestimate the frequency of, and (b) have been incredibly luck to avoid petty, ignorant people. They exist, believe me.