You cant nor should you try to change her beliefs, she is entitled to them just as you are entitled to yours
You can either respect her wishes or break up cuz of compatibility issues
Ask yourself and her the following questions and if you cant agree on them, you both need to move on
Are you ok with waiting to get married for a few more years because you guys are too young right now and thus not having any sex till then?
Do you want children? If so did you have an idea for your future like do you want to start trying for them at 25/30/35?
The calendar method is indeed not nearly as reliable as actual birthcontrol
What about how many children you see in your future, is she against vasectomies aswell? Would that mean you could go penetrative sexless for years during your marriage?
How does she feel about other sex acts (once married) but no penetration? Or does she feel like sex can only ever be for procreation and not simply fun
For the record I disagree with her ideas around sex, sexual compatibility with or without religion is important, sexuality in itself is important, so i find her ideas silly at best, but she is entitled to them, just as you are entitled to yours
Ok, then yes I agree. I would also talk to your partner about the situation and let them know you are uncomfortable with the whole situation but I would distance myself from the “friend” who wants y’all to be cool. More than likely that girl will end up hooking up with your friends SO in the future.
Whatever you do don't change. This is his problem not yours. I was a pleaser for all of my life, partially personality ( take after my dad who is a doormat) but mostly because of my controlling mother. That's followed me all throughout my life. I always adjusted to others and realized once I started therapy at 44 (when my now ex went to rehab) how much I needed to change. Have boundaries, learn to say no, put myself first from time to time and own and express my opinions. I'm a much happier person now. Single and happy ?. I can finally eb who I am and finally could figure out who I was. I met my first ex at 18 and got involved with ex # 2 right after my divorce. So I had never been single as an adult.
The fact that he thought it was a great asset initially is what's crazy. Why have things changed now? His insecurities more than likely. Your probably right that the SAHD thing has a lot to do either it. But you shouldn't have to change becaue of his insecurities. Again, that's a him problem not you.
Stay strong and stay yourself. If he can't handle it then he can leave and find him an obedient little doormat wife.
oh sorry lol, yeah maybe he just didnt have a response to what you said ?♀️
You cant nor should you try to change her beliefs, she is entitled to them just as you are entitled to yours
You can either respect her wishes or break up cuz of compatibility issues
Ask yourself and her the following questions and if you cant agree on them, you both need to move on
Are you ok with waiting to get married for a few more years because you guys are too young right now and thus not having any sex till then?
Do you want children? If so did you have an idea for your future like do you want to start trying for them at 25/30/35?
The calendar method is indeed not nearly as reliable as actual birthcontrol
What about how many children you see in your future, is she against vasectomies aswell? Would that mean you could go penetrative sexless for years during your marriage?
How does she feel about other sex acts (once married) but no penetration? Or does she feel like sex can only ever be for procreation and not simply fun
For the record I disagree with her ideas around sex, sexual compatibility with or without religion is important, sexuality in itself is important, so i find her ideas silly at best, but she is entitled to them, just as you are entitled to yours
Neither should try to change the other
Ok, then yes I agree. I would also talk to your partner about the situation and let them know you are uncomfortable with the whole situation but I would distance myself from the “friend” who wants y’all to be cool. More than likely that girl will end up hooking up with your friends SO in the future.
Whatever you do don't change. This is his problem not yours. I was a pleaser for all of my life, partially personality ( take after my dad who is a doormat) but mostly because of my controlling mother. That's followed me all throughout my life. I always adjusted to others and realized once I started therapy at 44 (when my now ex went to rehab) how much I needed to change. Have boundaries, learn to say no, put myself first from time to time and own and express my opinions. I'm a much happier person now. Single and happy ?. I can finally eb who I am and finally could figure out who I was. I met my first ex at 18 and got involved with ex # 2 right after my divorce. So I had never been single as an adult.
The fact that he thought it was a great asset initially is what's crazy. Why have things changed now? His insecurities more than likely. Your probably right that the SAHD thing has a lot to do either it. But you shouldn't have to change becaue of his insecurities. Again, that's a him problem not you.
Stay strong and stay yourself. If he can't handle it then he can leave and find him an obedient little doormat wife.
Are these maybe college friends that she’s made? Maybe she hasn’t known them as long, but they are close now.