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Thank you for your comment, I'm definitely far from perfect but I'm trying with the best of my ability. I know his self-esteem is his responsibility (as mine is for me too) but when he's confident he seems happier and I just want that for him. 🙂
I'll definitely continue to compliment! Whenever something like that stops for me, I tend to over-analyze why it stopped and if it was something I did and ect.
My boyfriend actually told me about over a year ago or so that when I was dismissive of compliments that it hurt him a bit. Now I always try to thank him for his compliments, be playful about it or I tell him that I appreciate the compliment but at the current point in time I don't feel very attractive to myself. Sometimes he thanks me for compliments too but he hesitates and it's very obvious that he doesn't really believe my words. It doesn't hurt me that he doesn't believe my compliments because I've been in his shoes and understand that it's difficult to believe those words.
I've talked with him and asked him how I can support him but he doesn't really know. I do encourage him to call a warmline we have access to and he does call sometimes, but regular therapy is a bit more difficult bc of his work schedule. I've been on the look out for therapy that's open a bit later than most officers for him but with not much luck.
Also I'm really glad you were able to build your self-esteem back up!
True! The property has to be abandoned and the squatter has to meet a certain criteria. Tenant rights is the correct term for sure.
What do they say about it
Don’t allow yourself to be used in this way and manipulated. That was very disrespectful to you. And your feelings are okay. You have had a proper reaction. If all you want is sex then it’s different. If you want love and connection from this relationship it will not end well. You’ve fulfilled many of his fantasy’s and yet he can’t let this one that makes you uncomfortable go? He is willing to break the relationship and trust you have to fulfill his fantasy. He doesn’t seem to care about you in the way that you want to be cared for. Sex confused all of this and your body can trick your mind into thinking it’s love.
The age old My boyfriend is sweet but… insert incredibly unsweet thing he does all the time here
That is my absolutely newfound favorite quote.
I'm sorry, OP but your mother has a very warped view of parenting and you should absolutely limit contact with her.
I'm sure from what you've written, family is extremely important to you. Otherwise, you would have ditched this woman's abusive shenanigans yesterday.
Adding on to this, Heaven can't be better than Hell if angels, including one of God's favorites(Lucifer), left.
I see. I think I somehow understand what you mean. What does this part mean(sorry English isn't my mother tongue):
“people in their twenties immediately toss the interview out of the window and decide that this person will do “right now”. 10 years later, they realize that they've missed out”
Do you mean sometimes you are okay with whoever comes by and don't assess if that's the life partner you want to potentially have children with and marry?
Right now, I cannot imagine being with my current boyfriend until the day I die. I imagine the world has much much more to offer, I am hungry for more experiences. I haven't settled for him for ever. While I cannot rule out he might be “the one”, I am half German and half Chinese and always hoped to have a Chinese husband so that my children can be Chinese and German, too. I have these “identity” problems and long-term goals (like, wanting half Chinese half german kids like myself with a half-chinese half-european husband) that I am still 'playing around with” in my mind. I'm not sure how important they are to me and really, deciding on who to spend my life with is a huge dedication I am currently passing on to future me. This entire topic to me feels like fiction/roleplay games/dreams.
Besides that, my mum doesn't approve of him because he's from Iran. Some cultural clashes probably, not sure.
I think my current boyfriend 'will do' now, but I haven't planned when I'd break up with him nor have I ever imagined to stay with him forever. I'm too young to look that far into the future. And breaking up because I finally want more Chinese children or a Chinese speaking partner would be a decision I cannot make at this age right now. He knows that I don't commit to him forever and he is okay with that. We keep the relationship for as long as it's benefiting both of us. I think he sees me as wife material, and if he spoke Chinese, he would also be husband material to me. But I think I will not end up with him just for the simple reason that I'm 20 and I assume many things will change until i turn 30. Do I waste my time dating someone who I will probably not marry and have children with down the line?
This answer was even more confusing than the first post, sorry wow! But it's good to hear for once , something positive and meaningful I am doing in my life and it's not wasting my time but enriching. That's really beautiful and I am somehow proud that I can see it this way. Usually I feel very embarrassed and shy, like I did something wrong. I always feel like I am doing everything wrong, but with this topic, I have done my proper homework. Finally:) feels good
She sounds immature, move on you’ll find someone better
I can see how that can be bothering. Does he initiate sex outside of that? Does he give you compliments or make you feel special? How does he treat you in the other aspects of the relationship?
It may be worth bringing up in a conversation. He likely has no idea you feel that way. Perhaps there are other ways he can sexually engage with you that would be more intimate and “special,” as corny as that sounds. I doubt he would want you to feel this way.
It means that your one example doesn’t dictate reality. That it is not frowned upon for people in long term relationships to take care of each other.
It also means you did poorly in math and science classes.
Wow, I just looked it up, averaging 5.2 mutations in the womb. A Whole Genome Sequence can be had for a mere 600US. Now would you need one for both dads and all the kids?
This is a clear indication that you need to stop drinking because assaulting your partner and acting out like you described is irresponsible and unsafe. I hope you guys work it out 🙂
The problem I see here is that OP is downplaying an obvious mental illness in her MIL, which led to her leaving her alone with her children. MIL should definitely not be left alone with the kids. I also believe that it's unfair to just kick her out over this, as a lot of her actions may be genuinely out of her control. It seems like when OP and her husband are there, she's much more manageable. It's unfortunate, and OP may not like it, but she may also have to babysit MIL while she's around for the holidays.
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Break up already!
You're right. He's not happy. This is a 'him' problem and not a 'you' problem. Let him go figure himself out while you recover your sanity and self esteem far, far away from him.
His behaviour is immature and you don't need a toddler in your life. Picture him stomping his feet and crossing his arms while he's talking. Send him back to his momma to grow up.
I don’t care much about the gifts, i’m just trying to give perspective by mentioning that. I think the real issue I have is her acting ungrateful at my family’s Christmas while expecting me to act fine at her family’s Christmas. It’s me apologizing and wanting to work through it and her saying she’s depressed and can’t put in the effort. It’s me paying for everything (rent, vacations, clothes, etc.) and never hearing thank you. I just don’t think she’s able to reciprocate and she’s taking me for granted thinking I’ll do whatever makes her happy. Idk.
Well you want to hide it from your bf so yes that is cheating. You are worried that it will turn into a sexual relationship, big red flag if you aren't even sure of your own boundaries there.
Why exactly did you cut those people off? Was it a request from your bf? Did you feel some disloyalty if you kept those relationships?
Cheating means something different to everybody. We don't know your boundaries or your bf's. At its core cheating is simply doing things behind our partners back with other people. You should talk to your bf about the relationship terms and what cheating means for both of you. It's best to talk about boundaries before accidentally (or purposely) crossing them. Being a sex worker you have a more unique situation and your bf should be understanding of that because he met you as a client.
I would let the people he hasn’t abused take care or that ❤️
Did either of your degrees require any sort of communication skills because this reply and this post don’t seem to be about the same story.
You are doing that for seven years now? What's wrong with you?
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I will try this, thank you kind stranger for sharing your experience with me
Exactly. Maybe what they did wasn’t 100% perfect with the father, but they did try to be safe and tested. They would have kicked the father out for a while if he tested positive, so this isn’t any kind of double standard.
Nope I haven't, but this is all within the realm of this relationship. If the terms don't work for me I'd have to break up. But as long as I'm in a relationship, this is the way I'm going to act.
Are you sure he doesn’t just see you as a casual hookup?
True. But i think im dumb enough to give him a chance as i somewhat still feel something for him
Has his family heard from him? If absolutely no one knows where he is, file a missing person's report. But if he's made contact with anyone, as painful and baffling as it is, you have to respect that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you.
I mean it’s not that much time. Less than 5 months right? You definitely didn’t inject a child into her and THEN decide to give up right?
But lives aren’t currently in danger. The time to act would have been in the past when she did u.
You don’t know for 100% she is doing it in future
And this is of malicious intent what u are doing, and karma will get you back. Either leave it alone unless u see her in the actual act, moment of. Cause this isn’t a situation of u doing it for greater good. So while whatever will happen to her, ur negative and petty energy u putting out there to this will come back to u lmao.
She’s a grown adult, he didn’t ‘allow’ anything… her choice to do this is her own. His only fault was not reporting it earlier
How does your girlfriend feel about the situation? Has she complained, or made fun of you?
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ROFLMAO see you in 3 months crying your heart out.
Hmmmm, calling bull on your wife not knowing.
The fact that immediately on the gallery preview there were 10 to 20 pics tells me those pics were recent.
Added to that your wife is somewhat defending the friend and wants you to just drop it? Nah, red flags all over the place. Sounds like he had that excuse chambered and ready to go too, and you're absolutely right if your wife didn't know she should have been even more furious than you.
But the cherry on top of this; best case scenario if your friend is telling the truth and he stole the pics but you've never seen them before, the question has to be asked who was the intended recipient for the lewds? Obvious answer is your scumbag friend and they have a thing going on.
OP, I firmly believe you're being gaslit into thinking there's nothing going on. If I were you I'd talk with your wife again and point out the inconsistencies (her not being mad at the friend, her asking you to forgive/forget, who was she taking the pictures for since you've never seen them before and she didn't send them to you, etc). After that you can decide what to do, but my advice would be to split/separate for the time being. Way too many inconsistencies and her lack of a reaction is very suspicious.
you absolutely cannot just allow her to move in without having a nude time frame in mind. eventually your sister is going to have to grow up and take care of herself, and you cannot start your own life with your husband while you are supporting her’s and her child’s
FWB means different things to different people. When I think FWB I think of two people that hang out (not go on dates) but also fuck. If there’s no friendship involved, I usually think of a sneaky link for lack of a better word. But some people, him included, might disagree.
Give him time. Maybe he’s busy. How long has he left you on read for?
He cheated, you broke up, don't need to say anything else!!
I will do that, thank you.
The previous relationship was extremely brutal so yeah that has to play in it. She is still recovering from that relationship.
I think if she’s mentally stable then she wouldn’t cheat on me with Sean. The thing is when she’s not mentally stable would something happen between them if Sean initiated something I really don’t know that’s the thing? I’m not worried about her with anyone else just this person. And even though I don’t think she would ever do anything with him I think it’s disrespectful to me that she would still seek atentuom from a guy that she knows likes her. Especially a close friend like that who I’ll see a lot in the future. Then again that may have to do with my insecurities as well.
Jeez dude. I think you should regard the Xbox as a couple's asset and jointly decide what to do with the money. Even though you are getting by financially, lots of people are under a lot of psychological stress about finances right now. You mentioned your hobby is both new and also you already have a version of what it is – at this stage I am pretty sure that focus and practise with what you have will benefit your skills growth more than buying new gear – unfortunately what you often see in videos etc is the reverse – encourage you to buy the next big camera/guitar/bike etc. I guarantee the GOAT of whatever hobby it is, when they where at your stage, had way worse gear – and that limitation helped their development.
So his focus is on himself and yours is on “us as a couple”?
If you want to try that restaurant for your bday, how about you make your own reservation with a few friends and leave him to figure out his own plans for the night while you go celebrate where you want to. Let him know he’s welcome to join once he figures out what he wants in life – a partner or a bang maid?
thanks guys, i already knew the answer really but i’m just so dumb to this situation. I don’t know how i will afford to rent without him so that’s what’s been keeping me really. I have 2 dogs and staying with family isn’t an option so the thought of breaking up and trying to sort that situation out is scary ?
You are a good brother and human being. Please try not to be scared. You are doing a wonderful thing for your sister. Your ex was expecting you to let your sister sit in a dirty diaper until your mom came home and you don’t know when she will be home. Your ex has no compassion at all and honestly you dodged a bullet, she sounds controlling. I wish you the best OP.
I was adding onto your comment for OP with an “and” because I agree with the train for thought. Not an uncommon approach on reddit
First of all why are you dating a girl who's 8 years older than you? lol.
Man, you can do what you want but I wouldn't have even entered a relationship with her. The fact that she's having lunch with a dude who she has banged is just weird, move on my man. You can do much better.
Personally, I get very unnerved if anyone is in my bed. It’s always been my personal boundary that I communicated to anyone that ever asked to sleep in it.
While I now share a bed with my partner, and my son climbs into it too, I would be very very uncomfortable with anyone else being in my bed – my family, his family, anyone’s friends or kids. But I make it clear, that as stupid as it may be, it’s important to me, and my partner would never invite anyone to sleep there.
This is a perspective that I don’t imagine many people have, and I’m not sure it applies in this case, but it exists and can be valid.
Ty for your long response. It’s really helpful. Bc that IS the life I live.. wondering if he’s just recently jacked off.
No one is going to read this. It is WAY too much. You need a TLDR:
This seems like a stage of life problem mixed with his insecurities. I didn't say age, I said stage of life. I don't buy into an age difference thing because some people mature faster. In this case, your age difference mixed with his insecurities has created a perfect storm of him being controlling.
He should trust you until you give him a reason not to do so. If he really does intend to be this controlling with someone he has just begun to date, it's probably not going to be better over time. He was cheated on before and you are a younger woman that would stoke his insecurities because you may want to run off with someone your own age.
I would have a talk with him again about the location sharing and the reporting every time you get somewhere and leave somewhere. That's overkill. It's nice to share your general outline for the day but not every move. He may be too controlling for you.
QUESTIONS!
does he have this kink of his fulfilled every single time he has sex?? Because it's really weird he has to imagine someone else all the time.
So he could jack off daily but can't come 2-3 times a week (from sex) unless he imagines someone else?? I call BS on that.
Apart from the porn addiction (and I've been there with my partner, but at least he was understanding he was addicted) that would be a dealbreaker for me. Sorry but if you can't come from having sex with your partner there's an appeal/looks/attraction issue imo, or someones bad in bed. Can you deal with that?? Because I could not
I don’t think he has a porn addiction he’s just weird. Doing it daily isn’t a problem but it’s valid to be concerned about the context. For example I’d say it’d be normal if your partner is getting off to pics of you or pornstars that look like you. Your man needs to imagine other girls when he’s fucking you in order to cum. Your partner also seems like he’d rather jerk off than fuck you. Honestly that’s fuckin nuts I think he’s hiding his lack of attraction for you behind his masturbation habits.
thank you for your feedback, so did you initially mean the grass is not always greener? I love a lot of things about my partner but the sexual incompatibility is really hot for me to look past.. sex once a month or so imo is not enough, and its a topic we've discussed ad nauseum over the last few years.. but I appreciate your reply.
You hear people say there are women ok with their husbands spending hundreds of dollars on nude women while their wives are at home with newborns, but I've remarkably never met a single one…let him explain it to his divorce lawyer.
How long you been together?
Yes. abortion You don’t want a child with this monster. You don’t want to be tied to him for the next 20 plus years. This way you can make this entire chapter of your life unhappen.
All the red flags.
You two just don't sound compatible. It's not her fault or your fault, it's just how it is. And I don't think long distance would be a good idea, because that's just pushing the problem away for a while…till later, when you guys still probably won't find a compromise on this.
Though the Catskills are very, very different from NYC. As someone who has lived both places. Like the hiking and owning land is certainly possible upstate. Really it's just the family. You just clearly want to live near your family, which is fine, but she…wants to live! near hers. And that's not going to change.
If he is Autistic and has ADHD then you have to learn how to handle the situations in a manner different than you would with an NT. My guess is he did not get the help he needed as a child and thus does not know how to cope (in a way) with his feelings or to express them. Autistics have their own set of behaviour that NT may not, or that we find odd. If you truly want help then start by knowing more about Autism and also seek a therapist that treats Autistics
Very fair point, I appreciated the in-depth answer.
My ex girlfriend alleged abuse where apparently I’d cheat on her or verbally abuse her. I know that an old friend who had a crush on her went as far as to make a Reddit post where he’d go on to say that I was abusive physically, emotionally and controlling. I don’t believe them to be true but at the same time it’s shook my faith in myself when it comes to settings like this, when I worry that my actions could be construed as abusive.
All of that being said, she says that I’m allowed to look through her phone if I like so there’s no secrecy about her conversations, but if I do, that feels controlling and indicative of a criminal lack of trust in her, which would certainly drive a wedge between us. Given the lack of secrecy, what would you say this situation is?
Also, she takes everything he says at face value, going as far as to say that he wasn’t to blame for something that was his fault at work purely because “he told me it wasn’t him”. Is this odd or typical of platonic friends?