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How old are you? If 21+, I’d probably pass on the candy and get her a bottle of wine. There’s a chance she might see the candy as a romantic gesture. There’s nothing weird about this unless you make it weird. If you’re under 21, maybe the candy is fine. I haven’t been that young in a long time so I’m not sure what gift would be more appropriate lol!
Hey Hopz_7 I get what you are trying to say Yeah i realised i have been quiet for way too long so that's why i spoke up She told me to trust her again and she got a panic attack that time too She fought with her mum(she loves her the most) for me and our relationship On my birthday i am the lowest person but she went overboard and was geniuen all along she has helped me alot too with myself my toughts past and everything in the past She has been a great partner
She told me that she is not relationship material in the very beginning and told me that she fears commitments but later she even got commited to me and said my love changed her for good and she is very better than what she used to be got more confident and everything
And i told you above she was abused when she was in calss 6th and 7th grade and i happen to be the first person she told this to and i helped her out and everything
What i am trying to say is we had a really good and supportive relationship going but this happened and now made things fucking complicated I have decided to give her one more chance and idk what I'll do if anything is repeated.
I just wanted to be happy and make her happy.
Please tell me about that i wrote in the end about her condition of feeling that
Like she knows what she is doing is wrong but her sadistic side forces her to do it so that she can cry herself to death… i just really want to help her
If this is completely abnormal for him then it may be a red flag. I have dealt with this kind of insecurity for a LONG time and I'm only just starting to work through it. My husband acts like your boyfriend, he's more of an “in the moment” type of person and doesn't really text me unless I hound him to or he has some information to give me. I think if this is normal behavior for him, then it's probably not an issue except in the sense that you two don't sound very compatible. I used to worry about this myself, but just have a deep conversation about this and let him know that it hurts you. That's all you can really do, work through it with him.
Agreed! Clearly the 32 f does not want to hold up her end of an adult relationship.
he truly believes that every other religion is false, that only Christians will go to heaven, and everyone else will perish in Hell.
Sounds about right for a Christian. The same goes for Muslims. These elements are foumdational elements in those religions. What I don't understand is people who pretend they believe in a religion, and at the same time they don't believe the unpopular teachings of that religion. Then why bother?
In your case, the two of you are probably aren't compatible.
What price does he pay exactly?
He needs therapy badly.
Bringing a puppy home was a mutual decision. He grew up with dogs and I’ve never had one so we knew we’d bring one home at some point. We were waiting for the right time. Getting a job seems to be the general consensus.
Given the nature of her “friends”, I'm not surprised that she's curious what that lifestyle would be like. Perhaps she's not able to see the downside to that lifestyle, as her friends are ignoring or are unaware of the potential downsides, such as a lack of true connection, other than sexual, with guys. Another potential downside is the danger of contracting STDs or accidentally becoming impregnated by a guy that has no emotional connection with them. You should tell her that she can have continual dates with a variety of men, and still be as lonely as a female that's an ugly duckling, and after a while will come to wish she was back in relationship with you, but, at that point, you will have moved on.
The last thing you should do is to give her “permission” to sow her wild oats until she realized the truth I've listed above, as you must maintain your self respect. If she's insistent on finding out for herself if the “fun life” suits her or not, then turn her loose to do so, as you really can't prevent her from doing so in the first place.
However, when you turn her loose, you've also cleared the decks to seek out a female whose friend groups aren't riding the carousel, and that value the personal and emotional relationship of a mature, self assured man.
I wish you well.
She definitely pretended till married,now that she thinks she's locked you down her true colours are showing.You already know what you have to do for the sake of your son.
No I should probably talk to her about it
I didn’t say “oh he has time to workout why doesn’t he have time to talk to me.” I never said those words.
You didn't say those exact words, but you said VERY CLOSE to those exact words.
Hiding behind 'I didn't say those exact words' is disingenuous. You listed all the things he 'wasn't too busy for' and then asked why he was too busy to see you, and that if he wanted to, he would.
Sounds like shes saying she wants to make friends she can trust and rely on for support.
Most people try to hide the fact that they’re bad people. It’s nice that you’re so open about it.
Okay yes BUT finances really can be a non negotiable in a relationship. OP may not want the type of life where she is the sole bread winner and providing for her partner and kids.
However, education doesn’t correlate to how much money you make and your profession isn’t a representation of your character.
OP can reframe this to say she seeks a partner who has aspirations to be financially independent and strive for similar lifestyles
Sounds like you’ve told him already and he’s ignoring it. Driving separately could be an option but that’s slapping a bandaid on the bigger issue which is his total lack of respect and failure to prioritize you and your needs.
green light for sure. go for it man
Also she won’t pick up my calls
The only issue I have with your comment is that the OP has been blinded by trying to force them to be siblings. How could they or the husband go to the OP when for years the OP tried to force a familial bond that wasn’t there? How could they feel safe to bring it up when the OP made it very clear that they wanted all three to be siblings? The Op clearly didn’t listen to them then, and has struggled with it over the years.
How did the OP have any hope of ever acknowledging or accepting them if they did come forward and be honest? Let’s be honest here, the OPs reaction wouldn’t have been better 5 years ago. They likely were afraid the OP would have sent one of them away, forced them into therapy, or disciplined them.
Public information is everyone's business, especially when it has to do with the safety of kids. If he got caught in a pedophile sting it's not because he never did anything wrong and the police just wanted to picked on him. They stung him because he got away with something horrible.
Over a lot of things. I only said what I did and used an ultimatum because he wasn’t listening to anything else and I was so fragile I didn’t know what else to do. This one was over standing up for himself after the way another band member was speaking to him/ acting. But over the last couple weeks he’s lost his temper with me and just won’t stop shouting no matter how much I try ask to resolve problems through better ways.
He literally added “but we have similar things” and the only reason he added his comment to this thread is because he feels his Sri lanken culture is similar enough to Indian culture for his comment to be relevant, which it is because they are. Are you really this dense or just trolling?
Girl….he is telling you to expect that he will cheat
Yeah I get that. I was probably too brief in the explanation. But I'm expected to pay for and fund a lifestyle entirely, she contributes zero money to the household/our lives. Which puts a big strain on me and she doesn't necessarily acknowledge or support that fact. Coupled with the fact I now know where I stand in her list of priorities.
I was a parent who spanked. I was spanked growing up, so it is what I did. It was after I left their father that I saw things differently. I was able to find myself and be myself without fear of verbal and emotional abuse. One day my middle kid asked me why I could preach to them that no one had a right to touch them without their consent, especially on private areas like their bottom, but I could hit them there. My kid asked how that was okay to hurt them and take way their right to consent. It was in that moment I saw things differently. My kid was right. Who was I to do that? I was a hypocrite.
I hope your partner can see there are better ways to discipline a child and that you are able to make things work. A child, especially one on the autism spectrum, need patient parents who teach them right from wrong with sound reasoning, open communication and actions that match their words.
Yes;
But maybe it annoys her hów he reacted.
I know I had 0 interest in my uncle anymore after when a woman of 32 rang his bell because he is her father. He smacked the door in her face.. told her to never visit ever again.
Noone in the family cared (neither his wife) that he had an ONS that resulted in a baby 32 years ago the mother never told him about; it was the reaction towards the child.
An 11 year old; chances are soon that it will want to know their bio father. If OP is so nonchalant about it; not thinking about that child that never chose for this.. would be a dealbreaker for me. Says a lot about a person and it's emphaty towards humans.
If his response isn’t favorable, he was never yours to lose. I mean if he is not serious, are you into being his fck buddy? If fwb is your style, you wouldn’t wonder if he is serious or not right?
This made me crinkle my nose, thanks…
It sounds like you do not have the same priorities or family values at all so be GLAD that you are not pregnant or sharing a child with him. Please go find someone who values you.
So you’re telling me you’ve never spent time with someone you crushed on and feel the pain in your heart when you know they don’t feel the same?
He isn’t trying to hurt you, and he doesn’t “want to” end the friendship, he has to, because he doesn’t wanna put himself through more pain.
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“Your feelings/needs are just important, not less than, not more than, but just as important as mine. Since you refuse to even acknowledge my feelings/needs, I see no reason to continue to listen to yours. That said if you want to resolve this and look for compromises we both can online with do talk to me. I love you and want you in my life so I would very much like to find a solution. Just know until that happens, the moment you start complaining, I’ll leave.”
I think you should believe in. If he stayed when it was the worse time, why would he leave when everything is amazing ? It is your anxiety and it is normal because of what you knew in the past but if you keep this fear you won't be able to online your life happily and it is this behaviour that may cause tensions. Just trust and try to not doubt when there is nothing suspicious.
You have already stomped all over their relationship and haven't respected it at all. She is a crappy person for obsessing over you while with someone else. If you date her, you will eventually end up in the same position as her current boyfriend.
I thought she was making a swinging move with her arm like she was going to hit me or push me. (She wasn’t doing anything). Out of reflex (I’ve had my own share of being abused in the past) I pushed her.
Your gf is right, this is how it starts. Due to YOUR experience of abuse, you assumed she was attacking you. And your instinct wasn’t to protect yourself and her by withdrawing, but to attack her. Get therapy. Until you can learn to feel safe or at least respond by withdrawing rather than attacking, any partner you have will be at risk of you harming them.
Someone else just asked me this so I will just paste that explanation.
I don’t think it is so absurd to ask about a hair that is out of place, and it doesn’t have to suggest suspicion. There are times in my life when I’ve found hair that isn’t mine on myself or around me and wondered whose it was. It is an innocent question in nature, and in this context it began as an innocent question and evolved into an accusatory one. I am not defending that evolution, because I know it was wrong to accuse him, I am just saying it did not begin that way
INFO: I gotta ask, do you go down on her? Because this is an uphill battle for sure if you won’t either. But all in all, no one should be forced to perform any sex act that they don’t want to do. But for the same token, if you need your partner to be able to do that then it’s your own prerogative to breakup and find someone you’re more compatible with. You don’t actually need a reason to break up, you can do it at any time and for no reason at all. If you want to break up with her because she won’t give you head then by all means do it. Truth be told, I wouldn’t be with someone who refused to go down on me. But for the same token, sexual compatibility is huge for me and I’ll go diving for clams at a moments notice. So if someone’s not willing to reciprocate then I’m out.
My MIL nurse said that docs used to sew you up too tight to have comfortable sex on purpose all the time/every patient. So….this might be fake but men like this exist
Honestly you should probably ask her about this directly
Hey Op, who actually likes the attentions, I've read some of your responses and after the 3rd response and excuses I'm not so convinced you don't know what she's trying to do. What you want to prove to yourself is that you're a good person BUT if you value yourself and the RELATIONSHIP you have with your girlfriend, you will pause this friendship and resume once girlfriend gets back otherwise, you will cheat on your girlfriend and then there goes your relationship. You said it yourself, why is she acting this way once the GF is gone? Well, she is either testing your loyalty to report to your GF or she wants you. My money is on the latter but you do you. Ignore all the wise and good advice but I'm warning you, don't be like Adam and Eve and give into temptation if you value your current relationship. If you don't and feel like GF isn't here so I can entertain a bit, go head. I bet 2023 you'll be single but then again, side chick disguised as a “friend” is waiting in the wings. Merry Christmas. Smh
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Honestly just take a step back and assume things may be over. She may still be into you but the fact that she keeps putting you on hold and not simply having a chat is a sign that she isnt making you a priority.
This could be because she has family, work, school, friends, or maybe she is already in a relationship with someone else back home. It could be any combination of those or even something else.
However at this point there is literally nothing you can do besides wait, so from your perspective you may as well act as if you wont meet up again
It sucks, i know, but text/calling her wont help in the least, it would simply make it worse. Hopefully things work out for you
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A man who is given the answers to the test, but doesn’t want to believe them. This girls for sex only do not have a relationship with her.
If you want a guys opinion, don't do it. Birth control messes with your body and isn't 100% effective. It's up to you, but I wouldn't jump into using it this early into your relationship. It's your body and the decision is up to you, but don't get pressured into it.
She's panicking. If the guy who always had a crush on her moved on and is getting married to someone else while she's still single, than when's it going to happen to her? How is the guy who was obsessed with her getting married before her? If you stupid enough to break up with your gf for this person, as soon as her ego had been stroked by you choosing her, she'd lose interest in you.
Do you honestly think you can maintain a friendship with someone who is flirting with you & trying to break up your current relationship? How would your gf feel about that? How would you feel if your gf remained friends with someone who was doing the same to her?
Why tf did you get downvoted for telling us what she said. ?♂️
My husband felt this way for a long time. I'm an attorney so I went out and got all the legal documents we would need to provide legal protections provided automatically by marriage. It was a lot. You'd also have to keep copies on your person's at all times (I.e. medical powers of attorney, never know when one person will be in a serious accident). And there's no guarantee that your medical POA will be reviewed and accepted as legal in a different state by the random hospital attendee that isn't legally inclined who reviews it and probably only knows their specific hospital's POA form (How do I know this? I've seen it happen in my practice). You'll need wills as well, living wills. No matter what you do you may never be able to carry the other on insurance so if one person is injured severely and can't work (ie can't hold insurance) then the other has to pay for insurance out of pocket or go uninsured… This is just the obvious tip of the iceberg. If you split up later and are not married, depending on your job situation one of you may get severely screwed, divorce laws do generally keep things fair
Dumb or not there are a lot of legal protections and benefits offered by marriage. It only gets more complicated once kids are involved.
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It’s OK to be insecure. We all get insecure about things. What is not? OK, is being insecure and putting the responsibility on the other person.
I don’t think it’s the picture that’s bothering you, I think it’s the secrecy of it. Since you went in there, and you didn’t find anything, actually incriminating as far as local people, or things of that nature, maybe you can find some security in that.
It’s OK to be insecure. We all get insecure about things. What is not? OK, is being insecure and putting the responsibility on the other person.
I don’t think it’s the picture that’s bothering you, I think it’s the secrecy of it. Since you went in there, and you didn’t find anything, actually incriminating as far as local people, or things of that nature, maybe you can find some security in that.
And they can’t do that with separate rooms?
It’s my wife. Though my girlfriend might kiss you too.
LMFAO, this coming from someone that doesn't know how genetics works.
I dated someone a few years ago people always assumed her kid was mine and mine was hers. Just because a kid looks like you doesn't mean that's yours kid and vice versa.
C O M M U N I C A T E
DTMFA. Neither of you like each other and it’s time to move on.
He's been watching too much Tate and Jordan Peters and their ilk. Get out now before this escalates. This boy is not worth your time.
I’ve been watching my father in law (about your age) go through the same thing. It makes me and his son happy to see him smile. He has a few ladies in his life that aren’t official but he’s always talking about this one woman in particular.
I think he’s having to figure a lot of things out again. He’s having fun and doing things he loves, and dating has kept him occupied and given him quality company. His son and I are very thankful for the women in his life, it feels really good to know he’s enjoying himself.
Something kind of funny, his doctor warned him of “cake ladies” – he didn’t know what they meant, but in the following week we showed up to his house and his fridge was stuffed with delicious looking baked goods… like, he was begging us to take some home bc he couldn’t even fit normal food anymore.
I think your situation is more common than you might think! Good luck be have fun 🙂
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What is this bar you speak of?
How did you get tangled up with grandpa?
As far as the reason, this sounds a lot like a Cum Tribute. It's a kink. You can find a lot of it here on reddit.
Basically guys send other guys pictures of their so and the guy responds with a picture or video of well, yea.
Poor girl. ?
Not saying you have to message her, but trust me learning to deal with rejection and realizing that rejection isn't always such bad thing is a very valuable life skill to learn.
NOBODY is everybody's cup of tea and that is okay, everyone gets rejected at some point.
Anyways best of luck!
He’s using you
You have a great boyfriend if he has no problem with you hanging with male friends and you could have slept on the floor. Best of luck dealing with that.
Has your fiancé spoken to his ex to find out why she waited six years?
Have you spoken to her about depression? It sounds like she is struggling with depression
Gently start suggesting some active activity you can do together. You’ve been together 4 years, I would think you could talk to her about your feelings.
If you can’t afford the ring she wants but she can, let her buy it. She cares more about having that particular ring than a surprise proposal. You can do something special for her after she gets the ring. But she will be very upset if she loses it.
This is why open relationships keep falling apart. It's supposed to be romantically exclusive and with other people you can only have sex. It's obvious you don't do it with people you have some emotional connection with. It defeats the purspose of all of it.
Your wife doesn't know that. Plus this other woman is getting all your sexual attention. Don't you want to have sex with your wife anymore?
Ok I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume you miraculously turned into a completely different person for absolutely no reason.
If you claim that drinking is what caused you to act like this, what do you think you should never do in your life to show you're serious?
Like you understand if you drinking makes you want to abuse your gf, then you understand that by grabbing a beer you are choosing to abuse your gf right?
At least she told you. You'd have never known otherwise. If you can handle it and love her, only you can make the decision.
This is pretty crazy. Essentially he's keeping you locked down, hoping to wear you down until you get back with him. You can't date other people while having daily conversations with another guy about how much you love each other.
You need to cut him off, at least for a while. There's no positive at the moment for either of you to this relationship, it's just a shadow of a relationship that's kind of preventing either of you from moving on.
This is fake. You can't use a fake credit card. Your CID has to be what's on the card, the expiration date, and pretty sure billing address. If any are wrong, the charges will be declined. I entered my CID one number off and it was declined.
This has got to be rage bait. No one sucks this much.
No, if you go back to him, he will know this will work in the future. The fact is the two of you are no longer suited for each other and as long as you stay with him out of guilt, he’ll think he could manipulate you into more.
I would recommend telling his parents that while you forgive him for hurting you, you are no longer capable of loving him the way he wants you to, and that you know that staying around him will make it harder for him to recover. Tell them to tell him that you wish him the best in his recovery, and that you hope that he moves on and finds another partner.
I am childfree by choice, but if I were in your same exact shoes I would dump the dude and keep the baby. And again, I don't even want kids but clearly you do, but get in therapy, because if you terminate this pregnancy- assuming you're in a place you still can, you need to also ask yourself if you truly want a child for the right and healthy reasons and not just because you felt pressured because that is what a couple is supposed to do.
I will be 40 in April and I have never once regretted not having a kid, but I promise you if I was forced to have a kid there would be a lot of resentment and regret.
Honestly, the first question I should have asked is if you are OK? Like not traumatized by what happened? Are you confused by it? I'm sorry for neglecting to ask you first.
And I am sure you are not a “dumb girl” as you named yourself as your throwaway. Hugs.
Sounds like it. Math gonna math
Or she's lying about her coworker bringing it up all the time as an excuse for her to bring it up all the time. I think it's also likely she's self-fueling the fire rather than getting set off by other people.
Which one! Which festival is it?!
Have some self respect and leave. You’ll find someone who isn’t ashamed of you. This person keeps telling you that you’re not important to them can you just believe it and go online a happy life.
Yes is a kink. I'm seeing a lot of kink-shaming in this post and it's really not a problem that he has this kink… what IS a problem is that he didn't discuss it with you. Kinks are perfectly fine as long as they are consensual. And yes when someone engages in their kink but there wasn't even a discussion about it, let alone, consent, it's a problem. You feel violated because he is violating your consent. Your options are to break up and immediately move out if this is a deal breaker, or discuss about his kink, your boundaries and if you can meet middle ground if it's not a deal breaker for you. For me it would not be a deal breaker if everything else in the relationship is fine, but I'd make sure he understands consent because it doesn't seem that he thought about it, which I get, we are not taught about kinks anywhere or how to handle them, but doesn't mean that he should continue to do it without your consent.
Outside the groomer window?! Please. Generally anyone over 25 sayings someone under 25 is a duck with bad intentions. ‘What if she’s 23 and he just turned 25?! What then?’ Don’t be obtuse. No one 30 should be dating someone under 25. It’s a power dynamic problem.
I don’t like tracking and would never do it. I’ve seen so many people who decided to use it when they have trust issues and anxiety like you described and then they obsessively check it thousands of times a day. That only feeds the anxiety and then it turns into “you told me you were going to Starbucks and I saw you at the mall??!!!! What were you doing!!??” “I can’t see your location?? Why?? What are you hiding?? Who are you with??”
It just doesn’t seem to be the answer to your problem and I worry it will add to the problem. You need to address your anxiety and stress.
He is an adult. If he hasn’t done anything to make you not trust him then you need to deal with your issues. He is an adult and is capable of making decisions for himself and for not doing things he shouldn’t be. If he isn’t capable of behaving like a boyfriend and an adult, a tracking app isn’t going to change that.
Oh gosh that's gross and so unhealthy. You should end things before it gets worse
OP, how many GFs has your friend had? This sounds typical of a teen guy learning to dance the horizontal bop. He doesn’t have thoughts for anything else. Yet.
Time to change the dynamics……. Challenge them to Game night. Ask your girlfriend to set it up with his GF. Cards or a board game could open up some lines of communication. Go slow. Be careful Not to divulge his secrets or wax on about how he never had a GF before. (You know what I mean.)
Op, you may have to realize that your friend is a user and will only be around when you are useful to him. If this is the case, you will need to decide whether to continue with a one sided relationship or cut your losses.
Best of it all, OP.
Agape ?
“Honestly, he initially wasn't too keen on this party. But I explained that I have deep roots in my hometown and it's actually hot for me that we're not having our wedding there. This was the alternative we agreed to – “
That's called a compromise.
You know it's totally manipulative to keep saying “but I would do it for you”. Why can't you just let it go?
In the mornings, I plan out my day in my head. Just because her manager said it was “ok” doesn't mean she didn't already have work to do throughout the day. If my SO showed up at my work to whisk me away, I would probably be a little perturbed because now all the work I'd planned on completing today will now have to be done at another time. Would I have cried about it? Probably not, but im not an outwardly emotional person. This surprise may have been better suited on a weekend or her day off.
Easy – you wait. It takes time to get over long relationships so if she's worth it you stick with her.
Sorry I mean is this the first time you've posed this question to your OH? Not posted on here lol.
His reaction is definitely strange but not “throw the whole thing away” strange like most of reddit love, youd be better off asking him I feel, and if he continues to rinse and repeat the same over acting, that would be the bone of contention, cos I get it, been there done that, didnt last
Hope you work it out
As long as there’s a blue wall of silence, there are no good cops. Your father was way out of line.
Surprising number of responses to an obviously fake story. New account, no comments. Those are the telltale signs of a fake post.
She should confess to her fiance before the wedding & give him the opportunity to decide if he wants to continue on with the ceremony. That would be the fair thing to do.
The girl deserves to feel comfortable in her own home too.
You do realize some older people have the maturity of a toddler? And some younger people have the maturity and wisdom of an elderly wise person? Huge age gaps aren't a problem if there isn't toxicity and abuse.
You can salvage the friendship if she comes to you and sincerely apologizes. Otherwise – no. She sucks.
Recommenting here just in case you didn’t see the other one:
Hey OP. I get your point of view. But I think you assumed your bf had a hell of a lot more familiarity with your ENM world than he did.
It’s not his world. He likely needed you to say “being my boyfriend means x: do you agree to this?” Where things went wrong is that you explained a whole lot. You tried to educate him. But at no point did you get his affirmative consent for romantic exclusivity and sexual ENM. So what actually happened here is that you messed up the ethical part – explicit consent. You know what you meant. But you didn’t check to see if he understood what you meant. Sorry to be crude, but you needed to tell him “this means I will fuck other people but only have a romantic connection to you. Are you ok with this?” Yes. That explicit.
This was your second attempt at an enm relationship. Your first one was with someone clearly already interested in that. So I think you assumed more people are open to this than there are, and didn’t adjust your communication to reflect that reality.
Your bf was probably trying to sound “worldly” when the two of you were dating. And you did a good job introducing the topic. But you never closed the circle by getting explicit consent.
If he talks with you again make it clear to him that this is the kind of relationship you require. And that while you hope he would like to still be with you, you don’t want him doing anything he is uncomfortable with. (Another discussion you didn’t have). Yes, YOU need to make sure your partners are emotionally ready to handle ENM.
If I were you I’d post in r/ENM for advice on how to avoid this in the future. You have a good understanding of how you want an open relationship to work. But you need a better understanding of how to communicate with non-ENM potential partners.
I fell madly in love with him and his promises of a life I’ve wanted to online, traveling the world together and other things that never seemed remotely possible before him. I never thought I’d get married either before he told me I’m the one he wants to spend eternity with, but now I fear that maybe its fading.
no hate or anything but i find it funny you said you’re not down for maintenance of reptiles but you can take care of two fish tanks ?? i found it was the opposite for me. fish were too high maintenance and i was happier with a snake
You wife really didn’t mean bang a family friend who will be at family events etc she means a stranger to her and your friends and family. The fact you’ve already spoken to this friend too is massive. A line has already been crossed I reckon.
This time trying going 7 years the opposite direction.
I think even tinder hookups would be a better option than a friend
She asked him a regular, normal question to ask in a gym and then got hit on.
Normally, you start by establishing a relationship of any kind with them first, beyond her going “hey are you using that”.
Also, before you come at me again with even more ridiculous questions, I can't read a stranger's mind from this far away, I don't know what she's actually thinking. We're all just speculating here and this is one of the possibilities whether you like it or not. But how fast you got offended makes me think you also do this, so try to stop hitting on women in the gym alright bud? Women go to a gym for a workout, not to be hit on.
The products are from Summer's eve…can be found at Walmart and Walgreens and stores like that…good luck
Well congrats! Keep your baby. You know in your heart that you want it so it’s not fair for everyone else to gang up on you like this
Ok so I have limited perspective here—what if that husband has no desire to raise the child that is not his? Does it make a difference or do they just need to move?
if a guy is interested, he will make it overwhelmingly clear that he is interested.
Right? This is the most cut-and-dry, one note villain I've ever seen in a fake post, and to top it off the op is playing the pathetic victim in the comments lol. Please go find a creative writing sub next time.
Make her get an std test consult an attorney. Start separating your finances.
He needs to learn there's consequences for abusing someone. This is quite the picklehole. I would talk to a lawyer and see what can be done.
Dude, just get out now. You’ve dealt with this 6-7 times in two months, you want to deal with it for the rest of your life? Go read the horror stories of r/BPDlovedones. It’s a lifelong issue and yes she’s abusive, most people with untreated BPD are, it’s not going to get better please don’t waste any more time or energy.
There’s no perfect way you could act that will change anything, because it’s not about you it’s about her issues manifesting.
Oh my god she did it before!! People like that take advantage of the fact that you forgave them once before. The consequences of her actions were that you were OK with the relationship and you still support her. Once more won't hurt right? The cycle continues
in my opinion you did overreact. they remained friends & never dated because it was never meant to be. that should be prove enough that they both moved on from it. it feels like you took your insecurity out on their friendship. but, at the end of the day its your relationship. if this is a boundary then so be it.
And now you face whether, after he deliberately did all this to betray you, he's worth staying with? I mean it didn't work out for him, while it did really work out for you, but the whole theme of this story is what he wants and when he wants to open and close the relationship. You go along with it, now you get to decide what YOU want.
igy. Sorry bro wish you the best homie
This is a good lesson every young buck has gotta learn. Many people at the age of 20 are more interested in the chase and the hookups. When someone shows you they aren’t down to be serious, believe them.
Absolutely unacceptable. Both situations. He put you in an uncomfortable and even potentially dangerous situation and didn't care about your concerns or your safety? He manipulated you into doing that saying he is “testing your kindness”? Those are massive red flags.
The problem right now isn't even him: he clearly does not respect you or care about you. The problem is you. You have not set boundaries and he is walking all over you. You have to set a clear boundary: and that boundary is to break up and go no contact. He is abusing you and will continue to abuse you.
You need to leave this relationship. You deserve someone who actually respects and care about you.
I've had someone dump me for being too “annoying” before so I guess that created this issue of not wanting to communicate. And yeah, I've been looking into getting a therapist for a while. I guess I should get myself on some waiting lists, thank you.
My partner isn’t even the slightest bit psycho. Not even a smidge. We’ve been together 10 years. We annoy each other but in a healthy we’ll-rounded relationship you will never feel that way about your boyfriend or yourself.
I appreciate you taking the time to write these. Thanks for your wisdom!
OP, what did you say in response?
I suspect he got caught cheating by his wife and she forced him to come clean.
The morning after pill would’ve been my suggestion, but you already answered that. Hopefully she won’t get pregnant. Not everybody does every time. And yes, you will be a father. She decides to keep it and she isn’t dead pregnant.
Is it possible that the wife was coerced by the friend to do more than she initially planned? From the post, it seemed like the clothing and style of photography stemmed from the friend.
He only apologized when you cried. He didn’t apologize after the words came out of his mouth. He was perfectly fine saying that to you and would’ve never apologized if you didn’t cry. I would tell him to leave
Anyone else think that a guy with such a low amount of empathy probably became a veterinarian so that he can cut on animals without repercussions?
You are both gossips who told people they shouldn't have so you kind of made this mess yourself
But
But since you and your bosses relationship is not the same as you and your boyfriends relationship I suspect this is a sign of things to come for you are your boyfriend
Already engaged after 7 months is a red flag as well
How well do you really know the guy?
I call bull. He is hiding something it’s 100% obvious.
I don't blame you. Money may not make you happy, but a lack thereof (or debt) will make you unhappy.
For me to stay, she'd have to have a great paying job, and I'm watching her pay it off. The stress of the whole thing would make my life miserable.
The real issue here is that Americans have to pay outrageously for college and most, since they’re only 18, have no idea how it works. I turned down a full ride scholarship to one of my dream universities to stay close to a boy I now have a restraining order against…. I graduate next year and have kept my loan under $30k by doing online only courses. People in my career field make $100-$300k+ a year though so, I should be good.
It was so painful to read!
We online in sweden
What's there to discuss?
You don't want this to be the rest of your life.
With all kindness, grow a spine and leave her.
Terminally horny
In before the “he was planning a surprise” update
Thank you for weighing in with that specifically. As I said in another comment, I was worried it was maybe a case of gender norms interfering in some way.
I took her on a vacation at the beginning of this month, paid for everything.
that's not really it… it's not about vacations and date nights and big special things… it's more about everyday little things like holding hands on the couch at the end of the day or other such small expressions of love…