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Date: October 20, 2022
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They are gonna be more qualified than some dude who's been googling with the intent to validate the stigma he feels towards medication though.
Like… I'm an autodidact who is too poor for college. I've taught myself a lot on history, writing, art, cooking, and paleontology – but I'm not about to write a paleontologist about how I actually think spinosaurus was actually fully aquatic because google said so.
On top of that even if op had any experience in this field of study, there is a reason doctors aren't allowed to operate on family, and why law enforcement can't investigate their family's cases. Because personal emotions and investments get in the way of your job.
Like… My pov here as someone who's been in similar scenarios to his wife- she probably is feeling super hurt and uncomfortable with her husband because he's putting his sexual needs over her mental ones. Like he thinks she's been given a magic pill and she has all this pressure to be normal now, but also in a way that satisfies him. Would you want to fuck someone who made you feel like that in response to seeking treatment? Do you think OP has stopped for a second and thought the lack of sex drive is in any way connected to his behavior? If not the cause than at least exaggerating it? Or that he claims she had no mental health struggles before he became her caretaker, meaning he either has a blind spot to an ongoing issue, or has contributed and again- is too close to the issue to ever consider that?
Quack docs exist and I've met my fair share- but this guy's issue isn't a quack doc, it's his self-centered and frankly off-putting behavior towards his wife. Who he apparently could take care of for 8 years but 3 weeks of no sex has him questioning the validity of a treatment plan for? Even if the doc is a quack that's not the major issue here.
You are married to a man that will not be transparent to where he is at. How do you know your kid is safe there? How can you honestly trust him if he won’t tell you where he lives? Why would you allow this? He’s either living a whole new life or brining other woman back to his place and doesn’t want you to cramp his new lifestyle. You’ve fixed nothing if there’s not honesty in the relationship.
Hi OP. I’ve read your post and updates and comments. My comments on the situation are the following.
I agree with the consensus that she cheated. Currently she’s not remorseful. She still expects you to be ok with her and Ashley sleeping together. Not a good basis for saving this marriage. You’re planning to thrash it out.
My question is what does 3 actually mean? You say that you’re going to concentrate on the cheating aspect. My question again is ok. Then what? Let’s say you get her to admit it was cheating. Then what? What if she comes back with ok, yes I apologise. But now it’s all out I’m the open can I sleep with Ashley?
What I’m getting at is you need to have a clear idea of what outcome you want out of this whole clusterfuck and what you expect from your wife. I’d hold off on any talk until you have that clear in your head.
Fwiw some observations/recommendations.
It’s unclear if Ashley is complicit in your wife’s deception or whether she’s been lied to as well. But even if she’s totally innocent there’s no coming back from what’s happened. You need to insist that your wife cut contact with her.
You’ve hinted you might be open to having your wife explore her sexuality with another woman instead. Are you sure you want to do that? Opening a previously monogamous relationship seldom ends well. At the very least you would need to set some very strict and clear boundaries. And given your wife’s actions so far, would you trust her to stick to those boundaries?
Lastly are you sure it’s purely her being bi curious? Or is this her gateway to fully opening the marriage to both other men and women? Forgive me for being cynical but given she hasn’t been honest with you to date I’d be asking that question too.
My advice?
Tell her that she’s to cut off contact with Ashley. All talk of opening the marriage is off for the foreseeable future. You need to go to couple’s counselling to determine if you are both still committed to your marriage.
Any opening up of the marriage in the future has to occur when your marriage is in a strong position. Right now it’s anything but. Good luck.
Ill be honest here mine wasnt an alcoholic but i left and th get over the residual issues i stayed single for a year; which also helped me ficure out how much of me was actially me and who i am as me alone
It’s been over a decade since I was SA’d and I still can’t bring myself to think about the idea of any kind of report. The military is taking it more seriously right now (women not joining would seriously affect military readiness), especially on the civilian side, but honestly, women are dragged over the coals for daring to speak up and women like me are trying to work through the trauma without being questioned. The civilian u.s. justice system is a right f*cking mess and I don’t blame civilian women for not wanting to report anything. I’m not sure what country you are from OP, but if it’s the US like me, then I wouldn’t be surprised if something happened and she just doesn’t want to be traumatized further.