Don’t leave anything behind while you’re out that your brother could use to get money in your name; bank statements, identification, financial info, credit card statements, anything. You do t have to be around him if you don’t want. So t feel guilted into it.
— This is why I will never ever date a painter/drawing type artist, bc I'm exactly that. I do have these type of artist friends but that's different (I don't even get jealous and I'm only ever happy for them) I just could never date someone that works in my field it would make me miserable… Whether they would be worse or better than me, it would mess me up either way. It's selfish but at home I want to be the only one working on the field of art unless it's my future child wanting to follow in my footsteps. So I 100% understand how you feel, that's the point of my comment. Maybe if you contribute to her success in one way or the other (like writing songs for her?) you would feel like your helping her grow too, and thus feel joyful at her success? After all people are happy when something they give time and effort into turns out well, so if you invest into your gf's career a bit too you'll be able to honestly feel joy and happiness for her.
You should tell her you understand that she wants to repair her friendship, but you are still her boyfriend. It's fine for the to reconnect, but you don't want to be in competition with her friend for her time and attention. Of course it's for them to spend some time for each other, but not to the extent she has less time and, importantly, energy to spend with you.
If she wants to make him her priority that is fine, but you can't stay together.
Besides this huge piece of shit in the middle, this sandwich is great!
He's not super amazing if he is controlling and jealous. This is not going to get better and it will only get worse. At first it will be bars, and then it will be stores, and then it is your job. And then you will find that you aren't “allowed” to go out at all on your own because your boyfriend is too jealous.
That’s fair, and I hope you two can work out some sort of arrangement because even if he gets a car soon I doubt you’ll be using his car to commute with the baby all the time and the parking pass will still be an unresolved issue.
Although it's not nice of her to do so, I can understand why she'd lie. She's probably happy right now and afraid to jeopardize what you guys have. From your reqction she's right to be afraid.
Is it wrong for you to be hurt? No. What you feel is valid.
But you also have to think wether what she did is worth leaving her or not.
Having spent many years in federal prisons (weapons violations) coming home wasn’t easy. It took a long time for me to adjust. Gratefully my children are all still emotionally close to me even though some live at a distance. Our justice system is supposed to work where you serve your time, pay your debt and get a fresh start. The stigma attached to past incarceration is due to recidivism, a criminal lifestyle and living conditions. Hopefully your dad is one of those rare guys who only needed to go one time and if that’s the case, it’ll show in the years to come and your wife will see that. I for one changed everything and everyone that is and isn’t acceptable in my life, moved to a totally different area and surrounded myself with successful people who’ve never been to prison.
You are welcome, I am here if you want to talk, feel free to dm me.
Don’t leave anything behind while you’re out that your brother could use to get money in your name; bank statements, identification, financial info, credit card statements, anything. You do t have to be around him if you don’t want. So t feel guilted into it.
Tbh sounds like you did your part and tried, he needs therapy or you need to move on from eachother that's not healthy
— This is why I will never ever date a painter/drawing type artist, bc I'm exactly that. I do have these type of artist friends but that's different (I don't even get jealous and I'm only ever happy for them) I just could never date someone that works in my field it would make me miserable… Whether they would be worse or better than me, it would mess me up either way. It's selfish but at home I want to be the only one working on the field of art unless it's my future child wanting to follow in my footsteps. So I 100% understand how you feel, that's the point of my comment. Maybe if you contribute to her success in one way or the other (like writing songs for her?) you would feel like your helping her grow too, and thus feel joyful at her success? After all people are happy when something they give time and effort into turns out well, so if you invest into your gf's career a bit too you'll be able to honestly feel joy and happiness for her.
You should tell her you understand that she wants to repair her friendship, but you are still her boyfriend. It's fine for the to reconnect, but you don't want to be in competition with her friend for her time and attention. Of course it's for them to spend some time for each other, but not to the extent she has less time and, importantly, energy to spend with you.
If she wants to make him her priority that is fine, but you can't stay together.
This more or less the message to convey to her.
Besides this huge piece of shit in the middle, this sandwich is great!
He's not super amazing if he is controlling and jealous. This is not going to get better and it will only get worse. At first it will be bars, and then it will be stores, and then it is your job. And then you will find that you aren't “allowed” to go out at all on your own because your boyfriend is too jealous.
That’s fair, and I hope you two can work out some sort of arrangement because even if he gets a car soon I doubt you’ll be using his car to commute with the baby all the time and the parking pass will still be an unresolved issue.
You are 18. Find someone who wants to have sex with you. Don't waste any more time with her.
You need to see a therapist and talk this out.
lmao what are you 15?
Eh you weren't in a relationship back then yet.
Although it's not nice of her to do so, I can understand why she'd lie. She's probably happy right now and afraid to jeopardize what you guys have. From your reqction she's right to be afraid.
Is it wrong for you to be hurt? No. What you feel is valid.
But you also have to think wether what she did is worth leaving her or not.
Having spent many years in federal prisons (weapons violations) coming home wasn’t easy. It took a long time for me to adjust. Gratefully my children are all still emotionally close to me even though some live at a distance. Our justice system is supposed to work where you serve your time, pay your debt and get a fresh start. The stigma attached to past incarceration is due to recidivism, a criminal lifestyle and living conditions. Hopefully your dad is one of those rare guys who only needed to go one time and if that’s the case, it’ll show in the years to come and your wife will see that. I for one changed everything and everyone that is and isn’t acceptable in my life, moved to a totally different area and surrounded myself with successful people who’ve never been to prison.
I’ve been so patient but he does not see how this literally could push a person to their breaking point