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Date: December 8, 2022
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oil body [Multi Goal]
Good luck ?
i recently had cosmetic surgery and i was nervous it didn't look good so i asked my boyfriend and he said “oh no, i see what you mean” LMAO i was so disappointed. i guess i wanted him to tell me it looks fine, but he's right, it doesn't. i don't know your wife OP but she might appreciate honesty, but if you take that route you need to angle it so you're supporting her with her feelings. ask her how she feels about it, and be empathetic if she doesn't like it. truth is it doesn't matter if you like it or not, it's not your body, and honestly it's a little weird that you made her wait to hear your opinion on it. if your wife won't appreciate honesty, go with what other commenters have said, and say she's still beautiful and you still love her. that's probably all she wants to hear.
It seems like both of your dates liked you. Perhaps the first one enjoyed your company but was also seeing someone else they felt they had a stronger connection to. And the second date has already asked to see you again, which I doubt he would have if he didn't like you.
Live! dating is like this unfortunately. You're one among so many others, and so are they
Professional help is definitely something I intend to seek. Thank you very much ❤️
I mean… does he ever go topless? Cause that would be considered cheating too since he's just free balling the nips to everyone.
I agree going through partners phones sounds like a violating trust issue, but in OPs story it sounds like they were going through pictures together on his phone, hence why he said to delete it, not like OP was snooping ans confronted bf. Its easy to get lost scrolling in a gallery, I do it in my own all the time.
Thank you I didnt expect anyone to be kind to me under this post. I have no idea what room I was in, my memory went from drinking wine at the bar with my family to me getting free drinks from this man and then my family must of went to bed before me and i stayed there drinking. I never blackout from drink but I do know the alcohol is stronger on holidays and it doesnt help when I drink so much of it. He only would work the nights from 2-8am and all the other workers wouldnt be there in these hours so I think he was security/bar man
OP, no matter how tempted you may be, do not give her your new address. All communication with her should go through your lawyer.
The most supportive thing you can do is let her know you respect her feelings and wishes, and that you’re concerned that it could escalate if she doesn’t file a police report, to at least get a paper trail started. If it does, and she still doesn’t want to do anything, then that’s the time to speak to the police and a supervisor. Chances are that she isn’t the only one he’s done this to, and it’s not unlikely he’s pulled other types of things on other people, that is different but equally shitty and illegal.
Get her to the doctor. This isn't normal behavior and it's indicative of postpartum depression.
Film him playing the song and go to the police or a trusted adult. Film him yelling at you for locking the door. Film you confronting your mum about it and her not caring.
If it is illegal to film without consent, then just show a trusted adult and ask for help. This man is terrifying. Wishing you the best of luck.
Your post history. You either a troll or you and your gf are mentally nuts in the head.
Get rid- he should never have hit you and an apology is not enough- he denied hitting you. If he’s hit you once, he can do it again.
You have been together for 2 years and this has going on for a month.
Did you consider that there might have been a new game coming out? Or a new expansion?
My partner and I both game and we both really play in waves. Some people don't, I know that, but at the moment the new Warcraft expansion is out and I just let him do his thing. I do my own stuff: see my friends, play my own games or do my hobbies. He has basically been off the computer for the whole Summer and now he plays every hour at home, but im ok with that because I know it's not forever.
My point is: try and be a bit interested in his hobby. Ask him what it's about, give him space and remind him sometimes to reserve time for you also.
I understand. Thank you for your honesty and advice. It helped.
Get a new man. You're sexually incompatible.
As I have said, sir, he is allowed to if he wants to. All that I did was tell him that watching porn or looking at hard women live! is a boundary of mine, and he gave me the same boundary. He did not have to accept my boundary and he did not have to give me the same boundary in return. THAT is the sense in that.
OP I mean this in the most respectful way possible. If you did something that shocked him and sort of took him by surprise – it might just suddenly tilt the scale in your favor.
Like you suddenly take up a hobby/start going to the gym and eating healthy. And you start doing things for yourself that you really like but don’t pursue him sexually, he might start to notice. Sometimes all it takes is for your partner to see another guy notice you to realize how lucky he is to have you
??? LEAVE!!!!! as a multiple sa survivor, if ANYONE asks for that, that’s psychopathic and you need to escape!! off topic i hope you’re healing well and i promise it gets better
You should resent him for it. He sucks. Also is it just your daughter or your shared daughter? You say ‘my’ instead of ‘our’.
I think the itching just comes from trying to explain it to herself. It feels good when you rub it, just like it feels good when you scratch an itch.
But it could be told to her as well. Although I think calling it itching is just as logical.
no no, john came around years after I was born
Are you sure?
How is he when you hang out with friends without him? Does he want to come along? Does he come up with alternative plans where it’s just the two of you?
His behavior at your moms is inexcusable! It sounds like he was intentionally trying to be argumentative to see who you would side with.
???????
Really take a rational look at all of his previous behavior. I think you will realize that his behavior is problematic.
The friend's husband wasn't at first either. He was doing exactly what your man is doing until HE GOT PHYSICAL!! This is what abusers do. They start off small and escalate.
This feels like a “play stupid games, win stupid prizes” situation where you found out “oh shit my boyfriend is actually a lot stronger than me and could totally kill me if he ever tried” which is really scary but not his fault and not a red flag, just a simple fact.
The awkwardness will pass but if you continue to feel the fear I would reach out to a therapist (or sign up for a self-defence class!).
(This is all assuming you’re being 100% honest about how quickly he stopped when you removed consent and that he didn’t actually do damage to you physically).
You made the right choice. Has he offered to introduce you to his family? Will you meet any of his coworkers? Have you looked him up live! to see if he's married?
Do not return to the status quo.
Yeah maybe. I think I would actually greatly benefit from it as it sounds like you have. And it makes the most sense for sure. But unfortunately my decisions are ruled by empathy over everything else. The guy truly has no one except me and that kills me
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What? This is ridiculous. Sure there can be a compromise.
“Hey honey, I realized it makes me uncomfortable that you swim very hot with your guy friends”
“Oh really? I can put on a swimsuit next time”
This is how every relationship disagreement tends to go.
She is 22, he is 39.
Ok, her childhood. Didn't know you all needed that much back story
Why? Is it irrelevant now because it doesnt represent “your highest self”?
And where is her mum in all this?
It's a rebound if they don't actually care about the person they're rebounding with and are only interested due to their availability.
It's not a rebound if it's an actual relationship that they are invested in, where they care about their partner. It sounds like OP's boyfriend cares about her.
This relationship is over. Treat it as such.
I would have been pissed to have that in my browser history alone
I think it's important, that you really spell out for yourself why you want to end the relationship with her. Maybe write it down. Then prepare for the talk, don't break up impulsive. Consider she will get emotional again. Prepare for that, try to have a 'script' you can hold on, too.
If you struggle with setting boundaries a lot maybe seek therapy.
You should try flirting with other guys when he’s around. Maybe he’ll see what it’s like to be in your shoes and change his ways.
We’ve been together for 2 years
She told you that she only dates to Marry and you're wasting her time knowing you have no plans to marry her? You're an awful person. Why would you do that to someone just to get your dick wet. Fucking gross ass.
I think its rude and gross to fart in bed if you can help it. When my bf does I turn on the air purifier and sure enough the voc sensor is glowing red for poor air quality lol
??? Show me one post where I am “anti-women”. Also, being part of Men's Right subreddit is ≠ hating women. LMAO
Sounds like you have chosen what you're doing over your girlfriend. It's not a bad thing, but ask any married guy, and he will tell you your hobbies are something you get to do a few times a year because between work and spending time with your spouse you have very little time together. For instance, this week I've seen my wife in the evening from 7pm to 9pm all week. The next day off we have together is possibly next Saturday so until then it's two hours a day. If I tried to do my hobby on that Saturday it would be selfish to our relationship.
Bro. She cheated on you and hid it for a week. She doesn’t get points for “being honest” when she looked in your face every day without saying a word.
And then you think about – did she plan this? Did she use protection? You think they had the same to take an STD test? Cheating is not only unfaithful but dangerous to sexual health like ??
It’s beyond me that you would even consider being with her. You can never trust her again.
Dump her and live your life.
I will say this. Sometimes my husbands location is like way off. Like it will say he's at a store. I call he's driving and nowhere near the store. The odd thing is though it doesn't tell me he's at someone's house of whom I know I would have issues with. I mean. Maybe it's a weird coincendence but it's alarming to say the least that her location is exactly there.
Totally understandable. Trust is a difficult thing to earn back and if he wants it, he will have to be patient and do better, consistently. Don't let any of this make you feel like you aren't doing enough to fix it because you aren't the one needing to do any fixing. He may not ever earn your trust back and that's completely valid, too. You don't owe him trust.
Exactly what an undercover cop might say lol
Well you’re not exactly mad she’s a “ho”, you’re mad she self destructs on a weekly basis and refuses to acknowledge or receive advice/help when she comes crying to you about it.
If she was going out there and having sex with guys she wanted to because she enjoys it, not expecting anything else, and having normal standards for one night stands like avoiding people who are known sexual abusers, I guarantee you she would not be like this. She seems to be going for terrible guys who mistreat her and expecting more after a brief physical fling or one night stand. That’s not someone who enjoys having a lot of sex, that’s coming from a place of terrible self esteem and possible trauma. She needs therapy, and you can’t do anything to help her.
Gently cut her off and explain why. And hope she gets better for herself.
She sounds nice. What's her @?
She wants an abuser who is an asshole to everyone but her.
Give him pets and tell him he's a good boy
Apparently in the USA if you're under 20 you get a free pass on everything.
It’s easy to make assumptions, which could certainly be the case, but you need to take a step back and be honest with yourself; do you think they have an inappropriate relationship? If so, that’s really the end of it. Even if they’re not, you don’t trust her, and relationships can’t work without trust.
Full disclosure, I’m the first person to come on here and say that opposite sex platonic friendships can absolutely work. But like anything else, context matters. I even read the post twice to confirm my opinion made sense.
In saying that, when I first read the post, I read it as them being long time friends and so I wanted to find some positive here. But then you kept saying that this always happens when you’re having a rough patch. I for whatever reason missed that at the beginning and realized they reconnected when you were in a bad place and essentially no contact.
As such, this isn’t a case of a long time platonic friendship you’re just insecure about. She only talks to him or sees him when your relationship is on the rocks. If they were truly friends, they’d have a consistent connection. I think you know the deal there.
The unfortunate truth here is that this is almost a moot point in the big picture. The two of you have always been in an unhealthy relationship. You’re focusing on this topic specifically, but you’re constantly fighting, talking to each other terribly, and leaving each other. That doesn’t happen in a healthy relationship.
Is confirming infidelity the catalyst you need to talk to a lawyer?
this is such a great perspective i rlly appreciate it 🙂
He isn’t trying to prove himself or making you feel comfortable. He’s not talking to you because he can’t tell the truth. Instead he is blaming you and making himself out to be the victim. Classic cheater defense. Someone wanted to give heads up because he wasn’t going to. Now it’s time for you to start investigating on your own discreetly. He is in cover his tracks mode.
this is such a great perspective i rlly appreciate it 🙂
Nope. It’s time to ask her for help learning how to get her off.
I've mentioned briefly what I did and she still thinks I'm hiding things and believes she'll only find the truth in my texts… She's not wrong. Do I still let her check my phone?
Okay then end it and get into therapy. Focus on yourself and don't date until you've worked though this. Doesn't matter if it takes a long time.
Scheduling exclusivity is kinda weird. Did you fuck somebody, or at least plan to, on your travels?
You don't need to try and “fix” what you did wrong. You need to distance yourself from someone who wants to control and abuse you.
You asked a question you shouldn't have asked. That was an action initiated by you, correct? Your insecurity is the direct consequence of that action, right? So please explain how this isn't the consequence of your actions.
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This is dumping worthy bullshit. He needs to go.
Forgot it was even women’s day and I’m 27 lol
This has to be a troll post. There's no actual way a human wrote this seriously.
I'm a 41 year old. I would have no business dating a 19 year old. It would be concerning that someone this age even has enough…in common with a 19 year old to date and spend time with them. This guy you're dating….is not a good guy. Be very wary
Thank you, I will buy this tape regardless of husband. I have been very tired lately,
Is it worth reaching out (after a month or so) to apologize and try to have a conversation?
No. Leave him alone. It's utterly disrespectful to read someone's personal journal without their permission. You fucked up.
Well then fundamentally we agree.
Also in the UK and if anyone, regardless of tone or context called me a c*** I would be walking away. Regardless of what people may say it is not a common or socially acceptable word.
If a person I was romantically involved with used that word they would be out of my life. It is derogatory.
Tell him that if he wants to have sex or cuddle, or whatever, that he must shower first because he smells. Then stick to it.
No, this won’t change unless he chooses to change it. Have you asked him why his behavior is so different now regarding hygiene? Have a serious discussion about your needs and boundaries, and how things have changed.
He could be depressed, he could have undiagnosed other reasons, he could be lazy now, or something else. He should go to a doctor and/or mental health professional to find out what’s going on, if he doesn’t know why.
You get to decide what is too much or not enough. One other part of this is whether he’ll be able to hold a job for much longer, since other people are smelling him as well. Start separating your finances and such if that would be an issue. I wish you well.
hey he thinks all asians are the same and he think porn is what women sound like IRL, he’s a boy