There's a bunch of reasons why this happened man. She probably isn't into you physically like she is with the hook up, or she sees you as a person who fills a different role in her life. Just because she doesn't sleep with you doesn't really mean she likes you any more or any less
You are by no means obligated to be with this person. You have a child which you can support financially and as a parent any time. Don't let this other person who you dislike ruin the rest of your life. Life's too short for that.
Oh please, neither of you have “feelings”. She's a young woman who was unhappy in her relationship and fixated on an “established” man in a position of power at her new job. You're feeling a bit stagnant in your life and getting kicks out of a young, pretty girl giving you attention. This is so cliche, it's ridiculous. You want to be the older guy who dumps his wife and kid for the cute new secretary? Grow up.
Yeah, I mean I'll get over it sooner than later. I'm just more curious if others would make out more of it and if it's something I'm taking too lightly.
Did you mean to write this down and put it in a garbage can where it belongs? Because you actually posted it on the internet! How embarrassing for you!
Whatever you do, don't marry her unless this gets resolved. A buddy of mine had a very similar story with his fiance. They pretended to be happy so she could have her fairytale wedding, then after they got married their bedroom was totally dead, and soon she started completely checking out. Spending money they didn't have, accusing him of being controlling because he didn't want her constantly going to restaurants or buying exclusive stuff she didn't need when they couldn't afford it. Soon she villainized him to everyone, played herself as the victim, and divorced him. He wasn't even the first she did this to.
If I could go back and make myself talk about my worries with him before he got married, I would a thousand times .
Steal his dog before he will kill that puppy or get it to the shelter, just get it away from that person. Don't record anything, to record it you would have to let another cruel behaviour happen and that's not what a normal person would allow to be
I gave my brother 2 years and charged him little to no rent or expenses to help him out. He's done nothing with that time….so thats not my responsibility.
Who said anything about addiction?
A month ago you were posting about having a girlfriend.
There's a bunch of reasons why this happened man. She probably isn't into you physically like she is with the hook up, or she sees you as a person who fills a different role in her life. Just because she doesn't sleep with you doesn't really mean she likes you any more or any less
You are by no means obligated to be with this person. You have a child which you can support financially and as a parent any time. Don't let this other person who you dislike ruin the rest of your life. Life's too short for that.
Move along and become a more quality person. Your 30 year old self will thank you.
Oh no, Nuh uh. I refuse to believe a woman was that delusional to marry a crusty asshole like that
Oh please, neither of you have “feelings”. She's a young woman who was unhappy in her relationship and fixated on an “established” man in a position of power at her new job. You're feeling a bit stagnant in your life and getting kicks out of a young, pretty girl giving you attention. This is so cliche, it's ridiculous. You want to be the older guy who dumps his wife and kid for the cute new secretary? Grow up.
Yeah, I mean I'll get over it sooner than later. I'm just more curious if others would make out more of it and if it's something I'm taking too lightly.
Did you mean to write this down and put it in a garbage can where it belongs? Because you actually posted it on the internet! How embarrassing for you!
So it seems he's still insecure/jealous 7 months later, and he avoids communication. People don't change so easily.
Whatever you do, don't marry her unless this gets resolved. A buddy of mine had a very similar story with his fiance. They pretended to be happy so she could have her fairytale wedding, then after they got married their bedroom was totally dead, and soon she started completely checking out. Spending money they didn't have, accusing him of being controlling because he didn't want her constantly going to restaurants or buying exclusive stuff she didn't need when they couldn't afford it. Soon she villainized him to everyone, played herself as the victim, and divorced him. He wasn't even the first she did this to.
If I could go back and make myself talk about my worries with him before he got married, I would a thousand times .
Don't marry her if this doesn't improve.
There is a things about confidences kept between couples. Your bf broke the confidence.
Lmfao βjustβ ask for a divorce, like completely blowing up your life is a simple decision.
Do an anonymous wellness check. Tell them she is not in a condition to drive and you fear for her safety.
Steal his dog before he will kill that puppy or get it to the shelter, just get it away from that person. Don't record anything, to record it you would have to let another cruel behaviour happen and that's not what a normal person would allow to be
I totally agree.. thank you so much for this! I really do appreciate the advice.
No and you should get a prenup if you DO get married.
However this relationship seems doomed, break-up
I gave my brother 2 years and charged him little to no rent or expenses to help him out. He's done nothing with that time….so thats not my responsibility.