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If she refuses responsibility for her aggressive actions then she'll never accept that both of you could be the solution to the problem. I've been thru a divorce with a child a place and two vehicles. I lost it all and wasted three years of my life. I'm 30 that's 10% of my current age don't waste anymore time. It's free to file a dissolution of marriage.
Thank you for making me think about myself in this way. I’ve thought more about it and yes, I can confidently say I have absolutely no feelings for my friend. I wouldn’t want anything with her either. It’s the type of person who would work as a friend but never in a relationship.
“Controlling” and “toxic” is exactly what it is. Trying to make someone not be friends with and hang out with someone they want to is controlling. I have recognised it but I’m not saying anything bad about it.
I am being brutally honest about my feelings. I know clearly what I want. I want good friends I share a lot of things with and a good partner like the one I have.
He does not care for you the way you care for him. It sounds like he has years of growing up to do before he can contribute to a romantic relationship in a healthy/sustainable way. If you truly believe he’s worth it, try having a conversation with him and setting some abundantly clear boundaries: it really hurts me when you do X. I won’t tolerate X happening so, if you choose to do X again, I will respond by ending the relationship. But, I think you know in your heart you deserve better than what he can offer right now, and I hope you end it.
Fair comment. However, just to be clear, our kids know their grandparents very well. They spent 4 weeks here in April and we spent two weeks with them this summer. It’s not all that dire. I am depressed and I am lashing out. My feelings feel undermined and not understood.
As many have said, negotiate with your building, break the least for as little as possible. Find a new place and start again. If you have some paid time off or vacation, it's not a bad idea to visit a place on your bucket list. You can put your items in storage or at your old place (except crucial) without telling her and move your things to the new place as soon as you come back.
This sounds like a relationship that probably isn’t working very well for either of you. You are feeling like you can’t be yourself, and I’m expecting on her side, she’s feeling like she needs to control your activities to feel secure.
In a healthy relationship, you should both be able to have your own lives, hobbies, and friends as well as those you share. Some people share more and some less, but the bond between the two of you should be strong enough to make it last doing other things separately here and there.
You should talk to each other about what you want, and what makes the other uncomfortable about doing that.
Ahhh ok, thanks for explaining. I understand what you mean.
Yeah, I've ignored the situation for the past year, it's been there in my mind, but I kept it lower priority so it didn't get to me. Now, the rush of things changing with us working together and her even more closeness in person, yet mixed signals the rest of the time has tipped me to a point where I feel I need to do something about this, before I let myself get into a truly love sick mess. I know what I want to do, I want to approach the situation and be more direct with how I feel, but at the same time, I genuinely don't know how to bring it up to her in an appropriate way. Going up to her randomly and blurting out that I think she's one of the most amazing people I've ever met and how much I care about her seems very awkward and childish to me. Yet I can't think of another way to say or show it, without just being too subtle.
The next step with her should be out the door not a ring. Not a good lifetime partner if she’s not monogamous and you are. This is the second best time to find out. You can do something about it and not lose half your shit.
The next step with her should be out the door not a ring. Not a good lifetime partner if she’s not monogamous and you are. This is the second best time to find out. You can do something about it and not lose half your shit.
To be honest, you did cheat. You emotionally have been cheating on your gf with this coworker. You also cuddled with her in a non platonic way. You have already crossed a line.
Your girlfriend has a right to know what is going on. I bet she is already suspicions about your “friendship” with this coworker, so be open, be honest, be remorseful, and be prepared to put in the effort to regain her trust.
Be sure to consult a lawyer, as the effort might be futile in any event. The concern is that the marriage might be considered a sham, but there is a real relationship, so maybe not. There might be other unintended consequences. It's not as if tax law needs to make a lot of practical sense.
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Just because they turn 18 doesn’t mean you’re no longer their parent. You still have to coparent. What about graduations, weddings, grand babies? Your current wife should find a therapist to talk about her insecurities.
People on this sub like to imagine clueless fathers and husbands (to be fair, there are a lot of them posting on here). So I'd recognize that bias and not let it bother you. There are a lot of posts on here that are either a woman wondering if she's crossed the line by wanting to be treated like a human, and a lot of posts by men wondering if they did the wrong thing when they watched their crying girlfriend crawl into the house after slipping. It skews the reaction to more typical posters' problems.
From your comments, it sounds like you're genuinely trying to help him learn, keeping the games fun, and you don't sound like a control freak.
I think you might need to start talking to other people in her life to see if they're noticing anything off with her, too. Because if we're going to rule out the idea that she's not comfortable telling you to back off the challenging play, then it seems like it's more likely to be either her wanting to be the “fun” parent when it comes to chess, or something is wrong with her.
OP as a guy that was married to someone like this, and they finally came to the conclusion they were asexual…don’t stay. You’re not being “pushy”. You’re asking for something you would like out of a relationship. They told you that it was something they were ok with but as the relationship is progressing it looks like it’s not something they really want. My ex wife was like this. It led to me being miserable for 11 years but staying for my kids. Don’t do it to yourself.
Learn how to read. You’re projecting. I didn’t call him weak or a coward. I said that men can’t win sometimes because if they do nothing they are viewed as weak or a coward but if they beat up the burglar then he’s violent.
The sad thing about having friends is that at some point, you’re no longer their main priority regardless of the reason why that may be.
It’s normal to feel a bit snubbed when it feels like the people who you believed regarded you as their ist priority in almost every way have now given that role to someone else because they’re in a romantic relationship. It’s normal to think “hmph, some friends they are” when you try to make plans with that friend and find out that they’ve got a date night already set. Heck, I’ll even say it’s normal to feel like you’ve gone through a break up of some sort and just being around those people makes you feel like an unwanted third wheel even if that’s not the case. It’s a part of growing up and being human.
It’s not normal to make that friend feel bad for moving on in their lives when you may not be at the same stage as they are.
Your boyfriend sounds like a wonderful guy for trying to remedy the problem by inviting your friend along to show that he values the friendship that was there before he was, but it seems like neither you or he realised that it would make the problem worse because you now feel bad about potentially not inviting her every now and then. In turn, your friend is now also viewing the fact that you have a boyfriend as some sort of competition that requires her to also have one but that’s supposedly not working out.
In short, it sounds like there’s a lot of little things that are making the situation worse. The best thing you can do right now is to Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your bf and friend about the situation separately.
Explain to your friend that you love her and you will always be her biggest supporter, but that you’d like to spend time with just your bf without her tagging along. Acknowledge that she feels upset/left out but also be firm when telling her that you feel like she’s intruding on time that you don’t often get with your bf and that its making you feel overwhelmed when she puts you in a situation that makes it feel like you have to put her feelings above what you want.
Explain to your bf that you appreciate that he’s onboard with trying to make your friend feel welcome, but that you’d like to spend time just with him more often than what you might’ve told him you were okay with when he first started inviting your friend over. Make up a plan together for when you want to it to be just the two of you spending time together and when it’s okay to invite the friend along as well if you both want to do something like that.
If worst comes to worst and you are forced into a “it’s me or him” situation, choose the bf. Your friend will only continue to be jealous and demanding that she stays your number one priority so that she doesn’t have to accept the fact that other people’s lives do not revolve around her and will go on regardless of what role she plays in them. Your bf has proven that he’s willing to compromise and be flexible when it comes to spending time with you/how high of a priority he is whilst having your best interests first.
Companies governments etc need to stop being cheap bastards and getting people thier own rooms in general. Not just because of the appearance of impropriety but people snore, some people watch the TV late at night or eat chips at 3am, other people get up to piss 20 times, some people need the alarm to go off four times other people are light sleepers.
Ok I get when space is at a premium like an off shore oil rig people have to share.
OP sped up the wedding so she doesn't have a big belly for “her big day.” Her fiancé conceded that point. But, he can't arrange his bachelor party to fit with her expedited schedule.
Here. I'll solve the problem. Push the wedding out a year.
Made most of my 20s more exciting due to women wanting to find themselves or separated from their husbands. The joke is, they never tell me this until after a few dates. Dumped one extremely cruelly because I found out her husband funded her entire life.
Now I'm in a relationship and start to realize women putting a break on relationship and wanting “space” is code for they're possibly wanting something else.
The vast majority of the time, this is an expression of discontent with the relationship and a precursor to divorce. And don't be saying to yourself, “What have I done wrong?”. This sort of existential discontent can happen even in seemingly stable relationships.
If you have mutually shared assets like bank accounts, etc., you need to secure them as they are likely to be drained when she decides to make her final move. You might also want to check for cash withdrawals that have been made from your account as people in the situations often start gathering cash for a divorce war chest.
You can hope for the best, but it would be prudent to strap in. One spouse going off by themselves on “find themselves” vacations or trips is generally the beginning of the end, and there is no going back.
Yes it does? Assuming her husband is paying the other expenses, a part-time job she's had for 5 years can most definitely pay for a two week trip to France. I have a part-time job myself and go on a ~ 2-5k vacation every year when my semester is over.
If she refuses responsibility for her aggressive actions then she'll never accept that both of you could be the solution to the problem. I've been thru a divorce with a child a place and two vehicles. I lost it all and wasted three years of my life. I'm 30 that's 10% of my current age don't waste anymore time. It's free to file a dissolution of marriage.
Thank you for making me think about myself in this way. I’ve thought more about it and yes, I can confidently say I have absolutely no feelings for my friend. I wouldn’t want anything with her either. It’s the type of person who would work as a friend but never in a relationship.
“Controlling” and “toxic” is exactly what it is. Trying to make someone not be friends with and hang out with someone they want to is controlling. I have recognised it but I’m not saying anything bad about it.
I am being brutally honest about my feelings. I know clearly what I want. I want good friends I share a lot of things with and a good partner like the one I have.
He does not care for you the way you care for him. It sounds like he has years of growing up to do before he can contribute to a romantic relationship in a healthy/sustainable way. If you truly believe he’s worth it, try having a conversation with him and setting some abundantly clear boundaries: it really hurts me when you do X. I won’t tolerate X happening so, if you choose to do X again, I will respond by ending the relationship. But, I think you know in your heart you deserve better than what he can offer right now, and I hope you end it.
Fair comment. However, just to be clear, our kids know their grandparents very well. They spent 4 weeks here in April and we spent two weeks with them this summer. It’s not all that dire. I am depressed and I am lashing out. My feelings feel undermined and not understood.
As many have said, negotiate with your building, break the least for as little as possible. Find a new place and start again. If you have some paid time off or vacation, it's not a bad idea to visit a place on your bucket list. You can put your items in storage or at your old place (except crucial) without telling her and move your things to the new place as soon as you come back.
This sounds like a relationship that probably isn’t working very well for either of you. You are feeling like you can’t be yourself, and I’m expecting on her side, she’s feeling like she needs to control your activities to feel secure.
In a healthy relationship, you should both be able to have your own lives, hobbies, and friends as well as those you share. Some people share more and some less, but the bond between the two of you should be strong enough to make it last doing other things separately here and there.
You should talk to each other about what you want, and what makes the other uncomfortable about doing that.
Ahhh ok, thanks for explaining. I understand what you mean.
Yeah, I've ignored the situation for the past year, it's been there in my mind, but I kept it lower priority so it didn't get to me. Now, the rush of things changing with us working together and her even more closeness in person, yet mixed signals the rest of the time has tipped me to a point where I feel I need to do something about this, before I let myself get into a truly love sick mess. I know what I want to do, I want to approach the situation and be more direct with how I feel, but at the same time, I genuinely don't know how to bring it up to her in an appropriate way. Going up to her randomly and blurting out that I think she's one of the most amazing people I've ever met and how much I care about her seems very awkward and childish to me. Yet I can't think of another way to say or show it, without just being too subtle.
That sounds awful I hope he doesn’t lawyer up or the courts are nice and I get a good lawyer too and win.
To build up to this you can even start with a simple compliment like “Hey I like your sweater, shoes, bag, etc.” Then work up to the introduction.
The next step with her should be out the door not a ring. Not a good lifetime partner if she’s not monogamous and you are. This is the second best time to find out. You can do something about it and not lose half your shit.
The next step with her should be out the door not a ring. Not a good lifetime partner if she’s not monogamous and you are. This is the second best time to find out. You can do something about it and not lose half your shit.
To be honest, you did cheat. You emotionally have been cheating on your gf with this coworker. You also cuddled with her in a non platonic way. You have already crossed a line.
Your girlfriend has a right to know what is going on. I bet she is already suspicions about your “friendship” with this coworker, so be open, be honest, be remorseful, and be prepared to put in the effort to regain her trust.
Sounds like you don’t like approaching things full stop.
Good point.
Be sure to consult a lawyer, as the effort might be futile in any event. The concern is that the marriage might be considered a sham, but there is a real relationship, so maybe not. There might be other unintended consequences. It's not as if tax law needs to make a lot of practical sense.
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Young, isolated, gullible, doesn't say no when presented with red flags. Yep you're prime pickings for a 40 yr old needing someone to manipulate.
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Just because they turn 18 doesn’t mean you’re no longer their parent. You still have to coparent. What about graduations, weddings, grand babies? Your current wife should find a therapist to talk about her insecurities.
Should have just “oh my mistake, I'll go clean that up then”
I've never knows a coke addict that would let a line just get swept into the garbage
People on this sub like to imagine clueless fathers and husbands (to be fair, there are a lot of them posting on here). So I'd recognize that bias and not let it bother you. There are a lot of posts on here that are either a woman wondering if she's crossed the line by wanting to be treated like a human, and a lot of posts by men wondering if they did the wrong thing when they watched their crying girlfriend crawl into the house after slipping. It skews the reaction to more typical posters' problems.
From your comments, it sounds like you're genuinely trying to help him learn, keeping the games fun, and you don't sound like a control freak.
I think you might need to start talking to other people in her life to see if they're noticing anything off with her, too. Because if we're going to rule out the idea that she's not comfortable telling you to back off the challenging play, then it seems like it's more likely to be either her wanting to be the “fun” parent when it comes to chess, or something is wrong with her.
OP as a guy that was married to someone like this, and they finally came to the conclusion they were asexual…don’t stay. You’re not being “pushy”. You’re asking for something you would like out of a relationship. They told you that it was something they were ok with but as the relationship is progressing it looks like it’s not something they really want. My ex wife was like this. It led to me being miserable for 11 years but staying for my kids. Don’t do it to yourself.
Learn how to read. You’re projecting. I didn’t call him weak or a coward. I said that men can’t win sometimes because if they do nothing they are viewed as weak or a coward but if they beat up the burglar then he’s violent.
The sad thing about having friends is that at some point, you’re no longer their main priority regardless of the reason why that may be.
It’s normal to feel a bit snubbed when it feels like the people who you believed regarded you as their ist priority in almost every way have now given that role to someone else because they’re in a romantic relationship. It’s normal to think “hmph, some friends they are” when you try to make plans with that friend and find out that they’ve got a date night already set. Heck, I’ll even say it’s normal to feel like you’ve gone through a break up of some sort and just being around those people makes you feel like an unwanted third wheel even if that’s not the case. It’s a part of growing up and being human.
It’s not normal to make that friend feel bad for moving on in their lives when you may not be at the same stage as they are.
Your boyfriend sounds like a wonderful guy for trying to remedy the problem by inviting your friend along to show that he values the friendship that was there before he was, but it seems like neither you or he realised that it would make the problem worse because you now feel bad about potentially not inviting her every now and then. In turn, your friend is now also viewing the fact that you have a boyfriend as some sort of competition that requires her to also have one but that’s supposedly not working out.
In short, it sounds like there’s a lot of little things that are making the situation worse. The best thing you can do right now is to Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your bf and friend about the situation separately.
Explain to your friend that you love her and you will always be her biggest supporter, but that you’d like to spend time with just your bf without her tagging along. Acknowledge that she feels upset/left out but also be firm when telling her that you feel like she’s intruding on time that you don’t often get with your bf and that its making you feel overwhelmed when she puts you in a situation that makes it feel like you have to put her feelings above what you want.
Explain to your bf that you appreciate that he’s onboard with trying to make your friend feel welcome, but that you’d like to spend time just with him more often than what you might’ve told him you were okay with when he first started inviting your friend over. Make up a plan together for when you want to it to be just the two of you spending time together and when it’s okay to invite the friend along as well if you both want to do something like that.
If worst comes to worst and you are forced into a “it’s me or him” situation, choose the bf. Your friend will only continue to be jealous and demanding that she stays your number one priority so that she doesn’t have to accept the fact that other people’s lives do not revolve around her and will go on regardless of what role she plays in them. Your bf has proven that he’s willing to compromise and be flexible when it comes to spending time with you/how high of a priority he is whilst having your best interests first.
Good luck op.
Companies governments etc need to stop being cheap bastards and getting people thier own rooms in general. Not just because of the appearance of impropriety but people snore, some people watch the TV late at night or eat chips at 3am, other people get up to piss 20 times, some people need the alarm to go off four times other people are light sleepers.
Ok I get when space is at a premium like an off shore oil rig people have to share.
Dude just fucking ask her out already.
Exactly. At first I was like. Oh here is another post about being friend zoned, but he actually told her his feelings. He did the right thing.
OP sped up the wedding so she doesn't have a big belly for “her big day.” Her fiancé conceded that point. But, he can't arrange his bachelor party to fit with her expedited schedule.
Here. I'll solve the problem. Push the wedding out a year.
I feel like the guy in Airplane who says “it was a bad week to try to quit sniffing glue”
I used to love understanding people like you.
Made most of my 20s more exciting due to women wanting to find themselves or separated from their husbands. The joke is, they never tell me this until after a few dates. Dumped one extremely cruelly because I found out her husband funded her entire life.
Now I'm in a relationship and start to realize women putting a break on relationship and wanting “space” is code for they're possibly wanting something else.
The vast majority of the time, this is an expression of discontent with the relationship and a precursor to divorce. And don't be saying to yourself, “What have I done wrong?”. This sort of existential discontent can happen even in seemingly stable relationships.
If you have mutually shared assets like bank accounts, etc., you need to secure them as they are likely to be drained when she decides to make her final move. You might also want to check for cash withdrawals that have been made from your account as people in the situations often start gathering cash for a divorce war chest.
You can hope for the best, but it would be prudent to strap in. One spouse going off by themselves on “find themselves” vacations or trips is generally the beginning of the end, and there is no going back.
Yes it does? Assuming her husband is paying the other expenses, a part-time job she's had for 5 years can most definitely pay for a two week trip to France. I have a part-time job myself and go on a ~ 2-5k vacation every year when my semester is over.