I really try to be as non confrontational as possible because our discussions devolve so easily- he’s a chronic interrupter/repeater of his own point to the point I can’t speak sometimes (he actually said before in an argument while interrupting me that he wouldn’t allow me to speak unless I said something other than my response to his repeated point- he wants the last word) and sometimes I just start crying because I get so frustrated and don’t know what else to do. I know I’m not perfect, and honestly think I am too sensitive and get so anxious starting tough conversations with him that I overthink and ramble trying to overexplain myself so maybe he’ll understand me. Like if I say it in some specific magical new way it will suddenly unlock his empathy or something. Which is really stupid I’m now realizing.
Sorry man but it's really time to put your foot down. Either counseling or divorce. Since your wife is the source of your mental illness there is no telling how the future will be. You need to stay healthy for your kids and the best solution for that is leaving your wife.
Too informal AND to the point? Which is it? He wants a sex act I can’t give him and it’s on his list of stuff he wants. That’s fine, he could have kept it to himself. If I said something like that involving another man I’d be in the same exact situation getting punished.
I really try to be as non confrontational as possible because our discussions devolve so easily- he’s a chronic interrupter/repeater of his own point to the point I can’t speak sometimes (he actually said before in an argument while interrupting me that he wouldn’t allow me to speak unless I said something other than my response to his repeated point- he wants the last word) and sometimes I just start crying because I get so frustrated and don’t know what else to do. I know I’m not perfect, and honestly think I am too sensitive and get so anxious starting tough conversations with him that I overthink and ramble trying to overexplain myself so maybe he’ll understand me. Like if I say it in some specific magical new way it will suddenly unlock his empathy or something. Which is really stupid I’m now realizing.
Best of luck, OP!
Sorry man but it's really time to put your foot down. Either counseling or divorce. Since your wife is the source of your mental illness there is no telling how the future will be. You need to stay healthy for your kids and the best solution for that is leaving your wife.
Too informal AND to the point? Which is it? He wants a sex act I can’t give him and it’s on his list of stuff he wants. That’s fine, he could have kept it to himself. If I said something like that involving another man I’d be in the same exact situation getting punished.